Advice Column

I’m a woman in my 30s and I’m struggling with a deep sense of shame that I can’t seem to shake. I have two children, both from different fathers. I love my kids more than anything, but whenever I introduce myself or have to explain my family situation, I feel this wave of embarrassment rise up in me. It’s like people are silently judging me, even when they don’t say anything.

The truth is, I never planned for life to look this way. Both relationships ended badly, and I often feel like those failed choices are written on my body in the form of my kids. I adore them, but I worry about how others will perceive them, and me. I hate feeling like my family is something to apologize for.

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My younger brother (22) and his wife bought a house a few years ago for way too much money—at least according to me and my parents. They never even calculated their bills before locking themselves into a $2,000 mortgage. His attitude was always, “It’ll be fine.”

Right after that, they financed two $20k trucks, plus full coverage insurance. The problem? His job is seasonal, and he doesn’t pick up work in the winter. Eventually, they were about to lose the house and ended up begging our grandparents for $7,000. The deal was weekly repayments, but in six months they’ve only made one payment of $200.

Now he just told me he bought a camper—for $2,000—at the end of summer, while still owing my grandparents and facing another winter without steady work. On top of that, they’re trying to have a baby with fertility treatments.

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My son (19m) bragged to another family member about stealing a pair of expensive boots. He said he took of his old ones, put them on the shelf and walked out with the new ones on his feet.

Worst part is my son called to tell me how exited he was that someone “gave him” a nice pair of boots, and told me a whole story about it. I was asked not to say I was told by the family member who told me. I know I cant do much, but am just looking for some advice or even just your thoughts. I feel so disappointed.

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I have a friend and thus far in my entire life she’s always been good to me. Whenever we catch up, they just always seem to have something bad happening to her. from my perspective, it really is just shitty people doing shitty things because they can see that she’s kind and theytake advantage of it.

She confided in me the other day that she feels cursed and we’re Christian so I just prayed for her, But lately I can’t help but start to wonder the same thing. And I don’t wonder because I wish that for her, but to ultimately help her because it’s just so sad to watch and I don’t know how to help. So, why do bad things happen to good people? And if you were in my shoes, how would you handle these feelings?

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I’m 38M, my wife is 43F. With our son away this week, I’d been looking forward to spending some one-on-one time together. She ended up taking a short-term job out of town, which was disappointing, but I supported her. She asked me to come visit for dinner, which I thought was sweet, so I canceled my plans and drove a couple hours to see her.

When I arrived at her hotel, some of her crew were in the lobby. One asked if she was joining them for dinner, and she said, “No, I’m having dinner with my friend.” She didn’t introduce me, just gave me a quick hug and walked me upstairs. Afterward she explained that she had told her coworkers she was married, but in their group chat she’d said a “friend” was visiting because she thought it would look unprofessional to tell the director her husband was staying at the hotel.

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My husband (39M) and I (37F) have been married for five years, and we have a one-year-old together. I love him, but I feel like something is really wrong, and I don’t know how much more I can accept. He’s a sweet man at heart, but he needs help. Looking back, I think I missed a lot of red flags while we were dating.

When we first met, he was the best man I’d ever been with. He didn’t have much experience with intimacy, but he still made me orgasm more than anyone else before him, and I got swept up in that. Fast forward to today, and he’s extremely lazy. I constantly have to tell him what to do, like I’m his mom. Even basic things like showering or brushing his teeth only happen because I tell him it turns me off.

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I’m 16, and while I’m interested in almost everything, my biggest passions are the origin of the universe, the human brain, consciousness, and biology. That’s why I plan to go into medicine—it combines all of my main interests and also offers one of the most statistically stable, high-income career paths.

I’d likely choose a specialty with an average salary around $500k-$1million. My goal is to maximize that income to build significant wealth—not through index funds or anything with returns under 10%, but through higher-return opportunities. Based on my research, real estate crowdfunding and angel investing seem to offer the best odds for strong ROI if approached wisely. I’m aiming for 15–25% returns, which, with $400k invested annually, could grow into substantial income once the returns start compounding.

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