Advice Column

Been dating this girl for about six months, she stays at my apartment maybe two or three days a week. She wasn’t here last night so this morning during breakfast I scroll through reels to find her something funny.. Start the day off right. Go to send her one and discover that her last name has changed to mine. We’re not married, not engaged, have barely even talked about marriage. I’m not even mad, but boy that had to have been the biggest cold chill to hit my spine since last winter.

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I’ve heard that to be fair, it should be by percentage. Whomever earns more, should be paying a higher percentage of each bill.

My husband (who earns quit a bit more than I do) wants it all 50/50.

When it comes to money, it’s more of a roommate situation in our marriage (despite discussing this after we got married two years ago).

He keeps all his financial accounts private. If he were to pass away, I’d be left in the dark caring for our kids.

He has previously stated if I don’t like how little money I have after bills are paid, I should go find a higher paying job (he’s kind of a jerk when it comes to things like this).

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For context we have been together for five years on and off most recently has been overall healthy and we have seemingly “matured” and “grown” from the past.

He is an avid hunter and has always been around guns and there are many guns in his home. I would go hunting with him and we never had any issues.

Over the past year he has started to carry a pistol around and has pointed it unloaded at me and of course I told him how that upset me and how it breaks the first rule of gun safety and he said “he would never put me in harms way” and he “knows what he is doing.” Then this would happen a few times until one day he pointed it at me loaded.

I don’t even remember my reaction because I was so scared why I stayed with him after this? Idk. But he of course said he was just kidding it wasn’t pointed at me.

He stopped doing it we moved on, now he has started to bring out his ar-15 which has now been pointed at me 3 times and his dog.

He made the excuse “I’m just testing the scope” and “there’s nothing in it I promise you”. is he a psychopath or just an immature 21 year old?

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So i decided to go to the dealership on my own at 20 years old to buy a bmw m340i and the car came out to 48k after taxes and everything but when i look at my loan amount its 70k did i mess up on this purchase?

I have a payment of 833 for 84 months and i make 60k a year after taxes and live with my parents.

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I’m filipina, and I’m proud to be one. I was hurt when my boyfriend said Filipinos are the ugliest of all the asians and he just laughed and didn’t understand why i was upset over that comment. He said “you’re the lucky pretty one you don’t look filipina”. like okay but you’re calling the rest of my family and ancestors ugly?

Then one day, he told me that I went from being a pretty japanese girl to a brown filipina because i got really tan. I got offended and he doesn’t understand why I’d be hurt by that comment. I got sad that he couldn’t see what he did wrong, and i cried for hours.

To me, he called another race beautiful while my race is just inferior. How would you react to this?

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So here’s the thing, I’m a 26 year old guy and I’ve been dating my girlfriend(24) for about 2.5 years now.

Everything was great and still is for the most part. My problem is that my gf really wants to get married and I kind of want to but I’m afraid she’ll drag me into debt and depression. When I met my gf she was not working and still is not working, so everything is on me. BTW, We stay together. I literally pay for everything, dates, rent, her car payment, my car payment, her phone bills, buy her clothes, etc. I’ve tried to help her get a job but she’s so unambitious.

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I’m (24F) having trouble with my parents and cant do anything on my own. They dont want me to move out because rent is expensive and a money sink when we have our own house but she controls everything I do.

I have a long distance boyfriend (28M) of 2 years and we plan on tying the knot in the near future. He’s visiting me next month but my parents dont know about him so I told my parents I wanted to do a “staycation” to unwind. They said yes but they said they will visit me everyday and use the amenities there. I dont know what to do since they wont leave me alone. I help pay the bills, I have a job, and a degree. I pay for all of my things and treat them out occasionally so what am I missing? I dont understand why they wont let me have a life of my own especially at my age. Are there any other asian parents like this???

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I’ve(32M) been in denial about it for years. Clinging to the hope that, maybe someone will come along that However, it’s become more and more clear that I’m just not enough to be with anyone.

I don’t check anyone’s boxes. I’m too short. I’m ugly as sin. Despite my efforts trying to lift, work out and grow, I look and feel like a skinnyfat blob.

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Our rent is only 450, but we still can’t afford it. My husband rides a bike 20 miles a day just to go to work. I can’t find a job, we are 750 in the hole with our landlord. I’ve tried loans and cards. Nothing. We can’t afford to live anymore

edit: We both have addictions that we both don’t want to get rid of. I don’t mean crack or meth. I mean like weed, vapes, beer and cigarettes.

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So this guy, who we’ll call B, has been friends with my girlfriend for a while. She had told me that two years ago they exchanged nudes because he came to her for help in taking better dick pics and she sent him nudes to make him more comfortable (her words). They however haven’t spoken in a while.

Well recently his dad passed away and my girlfriend found out about it, and ever since she’s been trying to be there for him. I just found all these next parts so I may get them wrong but here’s a rough outline of what happened.

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