Advice Column

I am a F (39) who became pregnant in my last relationship due to birth control failure. That relationship has since ended, and I am ready to enter the dating scene again. I’m not getting any younger, after all! And admittedly it would be nice to not go through this pregnancy and new baby phase alone.

I just don’t know if there’s any point in putting myself out there while I’m still pregnant… should I wait until after the baby is born and recovery is finished? Or would you date a woman who was already pregnant when you met?

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Almost two years ago, my (35M) marriage was on the brink of divorce after my wife (34F) had an affair. She moved out nearly a year ago, leaving me and the kids, and her affair was my breaking point.

Recently, things between us have improved, and we’ve even discussed her moving back in. But I’ve made it clear: rebuilding trust is key, and she can’t have any contact with her affair partner.

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I (28M) wasn’t invited to my best friend’s (28M) wedding, even though I was one of the first people he told about his proposal. We’ve always been close—trips, golf, daily workouts, group chats—and there’s never been any drama. Our friend group is five people; everyone else got invited except me, even though the guest list is 150 and includes some people they barely know.

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My 21-year-old daughter lives with her boyfriend, despite our wishes. We get along well and respect her choices, but he’s the only guy she’s ever dated. I hoped she’d use college to meet new people and have different experiences, but they stayed together and now live near his enabling family.

We’re not impressed with him—he’s immature, bad with money, lacks ambition, and has no real plans for his future. Meanwhile, our daughter is smart, driven, and planning for her master’s. Their finances are separate, but I worry she’s settling for comfort and doesn’t realize what she might be missing.

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My wife had an ex she used to talk about all the time when we were dating. I knew everything about him—even random details. At first, she told me they broke up because he was a jerk, but really it was because he wasn’t ready to settle down.

Even after a year together, she kept bringing him up. Eventually, I lost it and told her I didn’t want to hear about him anymore. Then I found out she still had his contact info and cute photos of them saved on her phone. She said it was just so she could ask about travel details from trips they took together.

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I’ve known this girl since childhood, but only recently realized I have feelings for her. She lives a few hours away, so I messaged her to catch up, and then asked if she’d be open to something more. She said she’s too busy with work and life right now, but appreciated my honesty.

I thanked her for being upfront and said I’d still like to be friends. She agreed, but made it clear she doesn’t want to lead me on, since she’s seen friends get stuck hoping for more in these situations.

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I’ve been married to my wife 12 years and we have 3 wonderful kids. I found out she has been cheating on me with my besfriend. They were sleeping together for 4 months in our home, and I was destroyed. I even read the dirty text messages she would send him

I decided to take her back like nothing happened. My family told me I need go be a Man Right now and move on, my family is disappointed in me for staying. My friends and family don’t want anything to doo with her

I think I stayed because she’s all I know, we met when we were young. If I leave I’m scared I’ll die alone.

Did I make the wrong decision?

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I’ve been married to my husband for 11 years, together for almost 15, and we have two young boys. A few years ago, I cheated—not because of anything he did, but because I felt bored and restless with my life and choices. I regret it deeply.

The affair lasted about 7 months and ended before my husband found out. When he did, things got rough—lots of fighting, apologies, talk of divorce. Eventually, we decided to stay together, but he refused marriage counseling.

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I have been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years now and I love her a lot, but I don’t think I can see us getting married. I would love to get married but I just don’t think she’s the one.

We have lots of good times but we also argue a lot. We have different core values which doesn’t help cause I feel like I can never voice my public opinion to her. I also like to have a life of my own sometimes, but it feels like she always has to be next to me.

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I’m a 51-year-old man, married to my best friend (48F). I love her deeply. We raised two sons (27 and 25), but they’re spoiled and entitled because their mom overprotects them. I can’t take it anymore.

Every time I try to bring up my frustrations, it’s like she’s a robot programmed to shut me down. If I try to talk to the boys, she steps in to defend them. I love my family, but I can’t keep paying for everything, ignoring the problems, or making excuses.

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