Advice Column

Two months ago, my grandmother legally transferred ownership of her house to me. She’s still alive, but due to her declining health, she wanted to ensure the house went to someone she trusted. My father is furious. He claims the house should be his and has given me an ultimatum: return ownership to my grandmother or he’ll cut all contact with us.

Here’s the context: When I was nine, my dad left us after remarrying and didn’t offer support—emotional or financial—for over a decade. He only returned last year after his second marriage fell apart and he lost his job. Now, he and his wife are apparently reconciling and planning to sell the house, which is how he discovered the ownership change. He says I’m untrustworthy and accuses me of putting the family at risk of homelessness.

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I moved in with my girlfriend, and I regret it. She gets angry over small things, and no matter how much I apologize, she won’t talk things through. When I tried to express how I feel about her lifestyle, she got upset again. Now I feel like I can’t say anything without triggering a fight.

The problem is, our rental contract locks us in for two years. If we break the lease early, we’ll have to pay a fee. So even if we break up, I still want to stay and live with her—just as roommates—until the lease ends. I just need advice on how to make this situation more livable.

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My husband and I got married in 2017. We both came into the marriage with separate assets, and we signed a prenup that stated whatever we brought in would remain individually owned. At the time, this felt fair and safe, especially for me — I had a significantly higher net worth, and I’ve been through a financially abusive relationship before. That prenup gave me peace of mind.

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I’m a 20-year-old guy, and during college I became close friends with a girl from one of my classes. She told me early on that she had a boyfriend, so I kept things platonic. But over time, I developed feelings for her — deeper than I expected. I tried to push them down and stay just friends, but the feelings only grew, especially after we started hanging out less. It got to the point where I couldn’t stop thinking about her, and I felt completely consumed.

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I’ve been married a year, and something about my uncle’s behavior toward my wife is starting to feel off. I’m 29, white, and my wife is 27 and Asian. My uncle is in his 50s, married with kids, and we see him regularly at family gatherings.

It started with weird “jokey” voicemails he left for my wife after a New Year’s party—asking if she liked cheesecake, laughing, that kind of thing. My family thought it was hilarious, so I brushed it off. But at Thanksgiving, things escalated. We were playing a risqué party game, and he read a card with a sexual innuendo, then wrapped his arm around my wife and said, “Why don’t you let me show you?” She was clearly uncomfortable and got up to stand by me.

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I found my coworker’s wife on Tinder. I wasn’t looking for her, but there she was—clearly active and using the app. Now I’m stuck. Part of me feels like I should tell him, but another part of me is nervous about how it might blow back on me or disrupt things at work. I don’t want to stir drama, but I also don’t want to sit on something like this. What should I do?

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I’m a 36-year-old woman married to a 49-year-old man. We’ve been together for 13 years, married for 8, and have always had a volatile relationship—screaming fights, name-calling, emotional blowups. But for the past 9 months, things have been calm. That changed today.

While working from home, my husband casually brought up our ceiling leak and said airflow was making the mold worse. I replied that the mold was the bigger problem. That’s all it took. He exploded—accusing me of never accepting criticism, of always arguing. I stayed calm and didn’t yell back. That only made him more aggressive. He started hurling insults—calling me a bitch, asking if I was “retarded,” saying he’d be better off without me.

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After 15 years of monogamy, I just tested positive for Chlamydia. My past tests in 2013 and 2017 were negative, so it doesn’t seem like it’s something that was dormant.

While looking around, I noticed two recent prescriptions for my husband—dicloxacillin and methylprednisolone—issued right after he returned from a solo ski trip. Oddly, during his last solo ski trip, he turned off the Tesla tracker, which I found suspicious.

I haven’t confronted him yet, but these details are weighing on me. I’m trying to figure out if this could somehow be a mistake or if there’s any way I could have gotten Chlamydia without him cheating.

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I’m a 28-year-old woman, married with a child. I’ve been friends with a 29-year-old man for about a decade. We’ve never dated or slept together, though there was some flirtation in our younger years. He got married just over a year ago and often vents about being unhappy. I’ve always told him to talk to his wife or seek therapy instead of confiding only in me.

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I’m a 28-year-old woman, married with a child. I’ve been friends with a 29-year-old man for about a decade. We’ve never dated or slept together, though there was some flirtation in our younger years. He got married just over a year ago and often vents about being unhappy. I’ve always told him to talk to his wife or seek therapy instead of confiding only in me.

A few months back, I opened up to him about the struggles in my own marriage—something I rarely do. Not long after, he started flirting with me via text. At first, I thought he was joking, but the messages became more direct. He told me he wanted to be with me. I haven’t reciprocated. I can’t bring myself to cheat, especially not with someone I’ve called a friend for so long.

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