1. We keep dating. We never stopped dating. We absolutely prioritize us over anything and anyone else.
We make a point of nonsexual touching and kissing frequently.
We have a lot of sex. You have to make this a commitment. Schedule it if need be.This is the cement of your bond.
We express appreciation and gratitude to each other. We know he is better at some things, and I am better at other things, and we are a team for a mutual cause. No competition.
No mind games. We work hard at identifying times we might be manipulative or passive-aggressive and call each other on it.
We keep other people out of our relationship.
We keep working on open, transparent communication. We keep trying to be empathetic and not jump to conclusions or make assumptions — those are very bad.
And very emphatically, we are each other’s safe place — emotionally, physically, spiritually, psychologically. If he expresses an emotionality, I will NEVER bring that into his face ever again, and vice versa.
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