My husband (M32) and I (F31) have been married for just over 9 years and we’ve never had penetrative sex because the idea of it makes him uncomfortable.
Some backstory: we got married young, right out of college and in a Christian context (e.g. believing sex before marriage was bad, unable to live together until we exchanged vows, etc). My husband went from living with his parents to living with me.
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Relationship Matters: ‘Dating someone who makes half as much money as you’
I’m (27m) living with my girlfriend (27f) of several years and am thinking about marrying her. I make double what she makes in a year. We don’t pay for any expenses the other has (car notes, gym memberships, student loans, etc), and on shared bills we split it 2/3rds, me and 1/3rd, her. I find it difficult navigating shared financial situations with her because I don’t want to contribute more than my 2/3rds, and sometimes she doesn’t have the money to put towards it.
Anyone else in my situation, and how do you navigate your relationship finances?
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Relationship Matters: ‘She Wants a 70k Wedding, but We’re Drowning in Debt’
I (34M) married to my wife (33F) we have two kids together (age 5 and 6) and she’s currently eight months pregnant, we’re expecting in May.
My income has dropped significantly since 2022, I now make 6k monthly after taxes. I pay our rent $2,700, $150 monthly for gas, my phone bill $120, $750 on fun money, and I put everything else in my brokerage account and savings.
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Marriage Matters: “My husband fell into 2 pig butchering scam in the past 6 months. How can I forgive him?”
My 64 years old husband that I married for 33 years got scammed and they emptied out his entire 401K savings of $210K in the past 6 months. The worse thing was that he fell into the romantic pig butchering scam with 2 different scammers/lovers while I revolved my life around him. Even though we filed report to FBI, IC3, SEC, the money is a total loss since they have gone to the criminal organization rings in Cambodia and Myanmar.
Relationship Matters: “My wife’s best friend embarrassed me”
My 32M wife 40F and her best friend 43F were all hanging out at the house with a few of her other friends. Her best friend kept trying to pull me off the couch to take a shot.
She grabbed both my legs and pulled me right off the couch we started like play wrestling . We were drunk and it was all out of fun. I’m 5’3 and about 130 pounds . She’s the same height as me but weighs more.
I tried grabbing her legs and tackling her but she just pushed me to the ground and had me pinned. I was trying as hard as I could to get up and started turning bright red and my wife and all her friends started laughing so hard. Her friend was barely trying and was able to just keep me pinned there.
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Relationship Matters: Marrying Someone with Large Debt
I have recently gotten engaged. Unfortunately, my partner has a large debt to the tune of over $175k. The majority of it is from student loans from a degree that was not finished. The loans are as follows:
Private loan of $119k, 7.8% interest. Another private loan of $5k with 5% interest, CC of $6600, and a government loan of $45k with var interest.
He is paying $1848 combined on all of these loans, which is as much as he makes in one paycheck… in addition to the rest of our living expenses. $1k of that goes toward the largest loan monthly. I have minimal debt (under 2K), and a credit score of 774.
Is there anything I can do? Have I screwed myself on ever being able to buy a house?
First off, congratulations on your engagement! That’s a big milestone and I’m sure you two are excited about building your life together. But you’re right to be concerned about your partner’s debt situation. $175k is no small amount, especially with those high interest rates.
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The Perfect Partner Does Not Exist
In our quest for love and connection, many of us have been sold a bill of goods. We’ve been told a story, a fairy tale, that somewhere out there is a Perfect Partner who will meet all our needs and erase all our troubles. But here’s the hard truth: the Perfect Partner doesn’t exist, and believing in this myth can do more harm than good.
Why Clarity is the Ultimate Sign of Respect in Relationships
In today’s world, where distractions are at every corner and communication is often reduced to emojis and likes, the virtue of clarity in relationships has never been more critical. The self-help industry, with its billions in annual revenue, frequently overlooks one of the most fundamental elements of human connection: clear and honest communication. The adage “Clear is kind, unclear is unkind” isn’t just a guideline—it’s a principle that can define the trajectory of your personal and professional relationships.
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Relationship Matters: “I haven’t seen my best friend since he met his wife 2 years ago”
My (35F) best friend (36M) met his now-wife 2 years ago and I haven’t seen him since. Immediately prior to him meeting her, we were very close. We talked and texted regularly and saw each other all the time. Despite being opposite gender heterosexuals there was never anything between us beyond being close friends (and we also both had a lot of other opposite gender friends).
Relationship Matters: “I’ve been dating a married woman for 3 years now”
I never thought I’d find myself in this situation, but here I am, seeking guidance for a problem I never anticipated. A few years ago, I met a woman named Sarah through mutual friends. We hit it off immediately and started dating shortly after. Things were going great, and I felt like I had finally found the person I wanted to spend my life with.
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