“I am considering ending my relationship with my partner due to her $250,000 in debt”
I am a 30 year old male. I have a well paying job (roughly 100k per year). No debt.
My girlfriend has 250k in private student loans (from undergrad private school) with a variable interest rate. Recently the interest hit over 11% and doing the math on the loans has me devastated.
With how fast it is growing… she will need to put 25k a year into it just to keep it in the same place. That basically guarantees that I will never have financial help during our relationship. Additionally, with how much she will need to work just to pay on the loans.. I won’t have much help around the house or with our kids (if/when we have some) either.
“My husband runs away everytime he and I fight”
My husband and I have been married for 10 years and we have two kids – ages 5 and 2. Having been married so long we’ve had our fair share of issues.
But one thing which always happens when we fight is he always runs away, I’m usually the one who pours my heart out about what upset me and he, instead of sitting with me and addressing our issue just walks away and ignores me.
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The Counterintuitive Secret to Making Friends
Most people are terrible at making friends because they’re too busy trying to be interesting. They’re like peacocks, strutting around, showing off their fancy feathers, hoping someone will notice how awesome they are.
But here’s the kicker – it doesn’t work.
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Winning vs. Understanding: How to Argue Effectively
let’s talk about something that’s probably more familiar to you than your favorite coffee mug – fighting to be right. You know what I’m talking about.
It’s that moment when you’re in an argument, and suddenly, it’s not about solving the problem anymore. It’s about winning. It’s about proving that you’re right and they’re wrong, end of story.
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Passive-Aggression: The Coward’s Approach to Conflict (And How to Fix It)
Let’s talk about that thing you do when you’re upset but don’t want to admit it. You know, when you slam doors a little too hard, or give one-word answers, or suddenly become “busy” when someone asks for help. Yeah, that’s passive-aggression, and it’s about as effective as trying to put out a fire with gasoline.
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Poll of the Day
Linkage
5 Tiny Habits That Secretly Make Women Dislike You – Wing Girl Method
15 Fascinating Photos You Must See – Ned Hardy
BET Awards honors OJ Simpson – Page Six
Easily connect your laptop to all your monitor, keyboard, mouse, and other peripherals with just one simple cable for a streamlined and efficient setup – Amazon
The Inside Story of John Tesh’s ‘Roundball Rock,’ the ‘NBA on NBC’ Theme Song – Mel Magazine
4 key pieces of relationship advice from married psychologists who have worked with 40,000 couples – CNBC
The Cold, Hard Truth Of Where Our Federal Taxes Are Actually Going – Reddit
How Does Inflation Impact Retirement? – Of Dollars and Data
Delete your dating apps and find romance offline – VOX
Dining out with a big group? Learn the social etiquette of splitting the check – NPR
FDA approves Eli Lilly’s Alzheimer’s drug that slows memory decline – NBC
18 Things You Will Only See In South Korea – Ned Hardy
Yes, a salad spinner is absolutely worth it! They’re the quickest, best tool for drying out washed greens – Amazon
5 Best Netflix Shows 2024, Ranked – SNIP
“Hawk Tuah Girl” Hailey Welch Finds Representation – Hollywood Reporter
The Tragic Story Of Kerstin Fritzl, The Child Of Rape And Incest Who Was Held Captive By Her Father For 19 Years – All That’s Interseting
Ownership group of NBA champion Boston Celtics is putting team up for sale – AP News
What’s WWE Diva Sunny’s Life In Prison Like? – Grunge
How Do You Plan to Achieve Your Ambitions and Goals in Life? – Ladders
10 Musicians Who Changed How Everyone Plays Their Instruments – Listverse
For a Low-Effort, High-Reward Garden, Plant These Perennial Vegetables – Sauver
The Dumping Grounds
“Wife doesn’t want kids…I’m heartbroken.”
My wife and I have been together for ten years. We met when I was seventeen and my God, it was like coming home. We talked with effortless ease. It wasn’t even falling in love, it was more like…becoming love. Recognizing love I could have seen from a million miles away.
Not much has changed since. Things haven’t been perfect, but we love each other unbearably. We were finishing each other’s sentences as teenagers, and we’re just as connected today. I FaceTime her on the way to work and the way home from work, quarantine has been wonderful, and we have so much fun together. She is the light of my life. At 17, the last thing I thought would be fun would be ten years of sex with the same person. And yet I still feel literal butterflies when I see her naked.
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