Porn: The Supranormal Stimulus Hijacking Your Brain
So here’s the deal: our brains are wired to seek out rewards, especially powerful ones like sex. Back in the day, this helped motivate our caveman ancestors to get it on and pass on their genes. But fast forward to today, and we’ve got access to a sexual reward our brains never evolved to handle: a never-ending supply of intensely arousing porn at our fingertips 24/7.
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“I’m sick of boomers telling gen Z and millennials to “suck it up””
I’m sick of boomers telling gen Z and millennials to “suck it up” when we complain that a $60k or less salary shouldn’t force us to live mediocre lives living “frugally” like with roommates, not eating out, not going out for drinks, no vacations.
Like no, we NEED these things just to survive this capitalistic hellscape boomers have allowed to happen for the benefit of the 1%.
We should guarantee EVERYONE be able to afford their own housing, a month of vacation every year, free healthcare, student loans paid off, AT A MINIMUM.
Gen Z should not have to struggle just because older generations struggled. Give everything to us NOW.
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Poll of the Day
What Would You Rather Have More of in Your Life Right Now?
Locus of Control: The Surprising Factor Shaping Your Drive and Determination
Okay, so you’ve set your goals and you’re all amped up to crush them. At first, you’re on fire, making big moves and feeling unstoppable. But as time goes on, that initial surge of motivation starts to wane. Suddenly, procrastinating and making excuses seems a whole lot easier than putting in the work. Believe me, I’ve been in that slump more times than I care to admit.
But there’s a powerful concept that can help you push through those motivation dips and stay on track for the long haul. It’s called the Locus Rule, and it’s all about understanding how your beliefs about control shape your drive and determination.
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Why We Need to Stop Seeking External Validation
So you know that feeling when you post something on social media and you’re constantly checking how many likes or comments it gets? Or when you do something you think is awesome but no one else seems to notice or care?
Yeah, I’ve been there. In fact, if I’m being real with you, I’m still there a lot of the time. Craving that external validation, feeling like what I’m doing doesn’t really matter unless other people acknowledge it.
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Linkage
The Field Guide to Modern NBA Point Guards – The Ringer
16 Fascinating Photos You Must See – Ned Hardy
The Latest Online Culture War Is Humans vs. Algorithms – Wired
If you are trying to lose weight, get a food scale. Using a food scale put into perspective how much food you are realling eating. As soon as you understand how much stuff is calorie-wise, the weight will start to fall off – Amazon
Even as He Faces Prison Time, Binance’s Founder Plans a Comeback – NY Times
How to make conversations with aging parents a little less awkward – CBC
Dude wrecks $3.5 Million McLaren after trying to show off – Street People
New York’s Rich Get Creative to Flee State Taxes. Auditors Are On to Them – Bloomberg
Mammograms should start at age 40, new guidelines recommend – NPR
Trivia Question of the Day – Ned Hardy
A sleek, sturdy and adjustable cellphone stand to keep you phone at a proper viewing angle on your desk – Amazon
After decades of inaction, states are finally stepping up on housing – VOX
ByteDance Says It Won’t Sell U.S. TikTok – WSJ
7 Behaviors That Make You Look Creepy (According to 8,000 Women) – Wing Girl Method
How to Comfort the Grieving Without Saying “Sorry for Your Loss” – Tiny Buddha
Five farmers rally to save ‘world’s loneliest sheep’ who spent 2 years stranded by herself – Upworthy
The 50 Best Bars in North America – Bon Appetit
Lucid Air Sapphire Beats The Piss Out Of Tesla Model S Plaid In Drag Race – Jalopnik
How to Answer “Why Do You Want to Work Here?” During an Interview – Ladders
The Dumping Grounds
“I feel behind on my retirement savings?”
I’m 33M. I currently have $31k in my Roth IRA. I’m a graduate student, and I don’t have an option for a 401(k) plan currently. I sold my motorcycle recently, and that enabled me to max out my 2023 Roth IRA contributions plus put another $1,300 towards 2024. Part of me feels like I’m doing okay, but due to the ever-increasing cost of housing, food, insurance, and transportation, a big part me feels like I’ll never be able to save enough to retire. At 7% interest, if I max out my Roth IRA every year until I’m 65, I’ll have just over $1M in retirement savings. I know that sounds like a lot, but after inflation, kids/family, and COL increases, I don’t know if that’s going to be enough. I just feel like I’m running out of time.
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“I’m not physically attracted to my wife and have never been. Married 6 years.”
I married someone who embodied qualities I had not found in anyone else before. She has a huge heart and is extremely clever. Unfortunately, I don’t find her physically attractive which has put a strain on our marriage since the beginning. My previous ex I went after solely because of her appearance and that was about the best thing I could say about her.
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