“My wife has been secretly meeting with her ex for the last 8 months”
Married 12 years, together 14. Two kids, 9 and 6.
About eight months ago my wife said she wanted to start therapy because she felt “stuck.” I supported it. Every Tuesday from 6–8 p.m. she went, and I handled dinner and bedtime. She always came home lighter, so I thought it was helping.
Two weeks ago our credit card was declined at the grocery store. When I checked the statement, I saw charges every Tuesday at the same restaurant across town. Not a therapist’s office.
I waited until she mentioned therapy and casually asked where her therapist was located. She gave me an address. I asked if it was near the restaurant.
She went quiet.
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“My boyfriend told me I need to “earn” an engagement ring”
Last night my boyfriend (24M) and I (23F) were talking about our future. We’ve been together for 4.5 years. I’m not asking to get engaged right now, but I wanted to talk about where things are headed.
We got onto the topic of engagement rings. I mentioned that I think a ring should reflect serious intention and commitment, and that traditionally people talk about rings being something you save for. I want to be clear that I’m not expecting him to go broke, just that it should be something meaningful and planned for. He then told me that I would need to “earn” an engagement ring.
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Should You Be Friends with Your Kids?
It is the desire of almost every modern parent: We want to be close to our children. We want to be the one they tell their secrets to. We want to be the “cool” parent who gets it. We want to be their friend.
But if you are looking for a short answer to the question, “Should I be friends with my child?” the answer is no.
Not yet, anyway.
Why Your Childhood Story Matters for Your Child’s Future
We often view parenting as a series of decisions made in the moment. However, parenting is largely determined by how the body remembers what happened in the past. If early experiences are not processed and understood, they don’t just disappear. They live in the body and show up in parenting—often determining the attachment style passed down to the next generation.
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Linkage
The Chinese Billionaires Having Dozens of U.S.-Born Babies Via Surrogate – Archive.ph
Pictures and Videos of the Day – Ned Hardy
This is a great gift for kids because it lets kids enjoy stories and music independently without screentime – Amazon
Roomba maker iRobot files for bankruptcy, pursues manufacturer buyout – CNBC
Rob Reiner and His Wife Michele Were Killed by Their Son – People
The Best TV Shows of 2025 – The Ringer
26 Celebrities Photoshopped With Their Younger Selves – Ned Hardy
Really nifty device to help you get every last dollop of toothpaste out – Amazon
All Life on Earth Comes From One Single Ancestor. And It’s So Much Older Than We Thought. – Popular Mechanics
OpenAI built an AI coding agent and uses it to improve the agent itself – Ars Technica
The Worst Food and Dining Trends of 2025 – Eater
The Best Movies of the Year, According to 148 Critics – IndieWire
These Moms Are Done Being ‘Doormats’ for Their Estranged Children – WSJ
How to Spot a Browser-in-the-Browser Phishing Attack – Lifehacker
10 Everyday Human Behaviors That Are Actually Survival Instincts – Listverse
The Dumping Grounds
This Is What a Hero Looks Like
This is what a hero looks like.
Not someone trained for it. Not someone looking for it. Just a man who saw blood on the street, women and children lying there, and made a decision before fear had time to speak.
He didn’t pause to calculate the risk. He didn’t wait for instructions or protection. He saw people being hunted and understood, instinctively, that doing nothing would mean more death. So he ran toward the gunman, wrestled the weapon away, and forced the attacker to retreat.
He wasn’t acting for recognition or praise. He acted because something inside him refused to accept what was happening. The most basic moral instinct took over: this is wrong, and I have to stop it.
“I (28M) support my mom (64F) alone, and I feel trapped and resentful.”
Five years ago, I moved back home from college because of COVID. My mom was working and supporting us while I finished my Master’s. After nine months, I found a remote internship and started helping with bills. A few months later, I landed a full-time job and became the main provider.
Around that time, my mom quit—or was fired from—her cleaning job. The work environment was miserable, and after unemployment she stopped looking for work and moved into early retirement. Her pension is very small, not enough to live on, so since then I’ve been paying for almost everything.
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“My pregnant wife has been a nightmare”
My wife has been violent and aggressive for a long time, but since becoming pregnant it has escalated to an almost constant, daily occurrence.
She has a history of mental health struggles and was diagnosed with PMDD about a year ago. She only takes Vyvanse and refuses therapy or further treatment, taking no responsibility for her behavior.