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1. I dated a fitness instagram model type with 200k followers. Nice girl, but everything was about social media, constantly taking pics and checking her phone
Lots of weird problems around food, couldnt just relax. It was tough so I stopped seeing her.
Photo by Nick Hillier
The digital dating landscape is a paradox of choice. The seemingly endless options can lead to a perpetual search for someone better, fostering a culture of disposability and a sense that no connection is truly irreplaceable. This abundance of choice might seem liberating, but it can also be profoundly draining. The cycle of swiping, chatting, and experiencing fleeting interactions can erode self-worth, as individuals may start to wonder why connections fizzle out or why they can’t seem to find that elusive ‘spark’.
Moreover, the curated personas on dating apps can exacerbate feelings of worthlessness. Users often present an idealized version of themselves, which can lead to unrealistic expectations and a sense of inadequacy when comparing oneself to others’ highlight reels. The silent rejections—unmatched, unanswered messages, ghosting—can feel personal, even though they are a common experience in the online dating realm.
I don’t know about everyone else but I really didn’t understand how to take proper photos and it lead to me wasting a bunch of time swiping on tinder and doubting myself.
Photofeeler is sorta like Tinder but you just get the raw data on what people think about your pics. I found out real quick that some selfies that I thought were nice weren’t nice at all. I followed the advice on their blog and had my mom take some pics of me (your mom wants you to find someone too, bro. Don’t be afraid to ask her for help). Quickly got some data saying that the photos were nice and started using them. The difference has been huge!
In fact, my highest rated photo on photofeeler was this kinda messy photo that I definitely brushed off at first. But the data spoke for itself and as soon as I made it my main tinder photo BAM I went from a match every few months (and they mostly ghosted me) to several per week with good convo and actual dates.
I encourage anyone sitting on the toilet swiping and wondering when they’re gonna go on a date to check out photofeeler. If you’re gonna spend a bunch of time on tinder it’s probably best to make the best of that time, right?
(Photo by Alex Green)
1. In a pretty nice but fairly clueless guy’s apartment one afternoon just hanging out, making increasing hints that I’d like to get naked and play cowgirl. After about an hour he said he needed to step out, and as I was getting ready to leave, I basically blocked his hallway and mentioned that I’d never gotten the tour of his place before. He nodded, pointed out the kitchen and the living room. I rolled my eyes, and mentioned how nice it would be to see his bedroom. Obligingly, he pointed at the open door of the room and said, “There it is,” and then asked if we could get together later in the week?
(photo: @priscilladupreez)
It’s a well-known fact that trying to enter a romantic relationship through the friend zone is an uphill battle. Despite this, many men continue to pursue connections by adopting a purely platonic approach and shying away from showing any signs of attraction. They hope that somehow, the women they are interested in will eventually see their worth and fall for them.
Here’s how it typically unfolds…
