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August 24, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

TV streaming apps make money from stealing your attention. Their goal is to monetize your wasted time and distract you from your dream. They’ve been successfully doing this for years.

I heard a lady the other day in the office explain in exquisite detail about a show she was binge watching. She watched two whole seasons during one Saturday, last week. A few weeks later I heard the same lady complain about how she felt that she was unhappy with her job and deserved to be paid more.

 Alarm bells went off in my head.

All of the hours you are spending watching TV shows is the time you need to do that thing that you’ve always wanted to do. Maybe you wanted to go back to university, or do yoga, or learn how to invest or spend time with your family.

Stop yearning for these things and go and do them! House of Cards can wait. You don’t need to know who dies, or cheats, or has a baby or get’s shot or hit in the face by a piece of salami. It’s not that important guys and girls!

In your life right now, your addiction to TV shows is the single biggest thing you could do to change your life. It’s that precious time that can help you take back your freedom. The feeling you get when you have time back in your day and make progress towards a goal you care about makes you feel ridiculously good.

You won’t understand this feeling though until you try. You need to see how much better your life is without TV shows. They don’t tell you that when they advertise next weeks episode because they want your attention.

“When you give away your attention like a side of salad with a Big Mac, your life passes you by. It allows you to numb the pain of all the goals that you never started and may never achieve”

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August 23, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

We may not say it, but deep down we often act and behave like we’re invincible. Like we’re impervious to the trials and tribulations of mortality. That stuff happens to other people, not to ME. I have plenty of time left.

We forget how light our grip on life really is. How out of our hands it can be.

Otherwise, we wouldn’t spend so much time obsessing over trivialities, or trying to become famous, make more money than we could ever spend in our lifetime, or make plans far off in the future. All of these are negated by death. All these assumptions presume that death won’t affect us, or at least, not when we don’t want it to.

It doesn’t matter who you are or how many things you have left to be done, somewhere there is someone who would kill you for a thousand dollars or for a vial of crack or for getting in their way. A car can hit you in an intersection and drive your teeth back into your skull. That’s it. It will all be over. Today, tomorrow, someday soon. And there’s nothing you can do about it.

What is in our control? What we do with this moment right here, the one that is slip, slip, slipping away even as you read this.

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August 22, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Most will never even take that first step; fewer even will ever take the last.

You have to have the guts to do what – possibly – no one you know or have ever known has ever done.

While everyone you know accepts their life as they feel it’s laid out for them, you have to break through what you’ve been conditioned to do and ask for more from life but also be willing to TAKE IT.

Fuck mediocrity.

Kill it.

Loathe it.

It isn’t what you’re here for and the choice is your as to whether it’s what you get or what you leave behind.

Aim beyond what you know you can accomplish and wade into the uncertainty of what you think you cannot accomplish. (Read This: The Relentless Pursuit)

It’s in the unknown that you will be pushed, even beaten, hurt, maimed and broken. But it’s also where you will rise, if you so choose, to the existence that has always been possible.

Pain was once something we experience daily. Our lives were once but 40 years. We’ve grown weak, soft, and complacent because we feel we have all the time in the world but we ignore the clock that never ceases to tick. We’re blind to the coming and going of the days, months, and years, until one day we wake up and we live our last day with a gut filled with regret and rather than a death welcomed with open arms and an open heart we enter the afterlife never having truly lived a day in our decades on this earth.

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August 18, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

You know you should be doing something — whether that’s working on your project, being present with your loved ones, eating healthy, or a number of other things — and you knowingly act in contradictory ways.

Like me, you may justify your behaviors and convince yourself you’re on the path toward your dreams. But an honest look in the mirror would reveal that you’re deceiving yourself. After all, Gandhi also said, “To believe in something, and not to live it, is dishonest.”

Your behaviors directly translate into your results. And when you consciously sabotage yourself, you cannot have confidence. Instead, you’ll have identity confusion.

The small stuff is the big stuff. First things must come first. Motivation and momentum are very fickle. It doesn’t matter how much you currently have. You will lose it if you don’t maintain the garden of your life. Which, is a daily process.

How close to your values and goals are your living?

How internally-conflicted are you?

I’m not above this. My behaviors often contradict my values and goals. Perfection shouldn’t be the objective. However, consistency and implementation of our values and goals creates substantial momentum and results.

There’s no way around it. As Aristotle has said, “You are what you repeatedly do.” Or perhaps Albus Dumbledore put it best, “It is not our abilities that show what we truly are. It is our choices.”

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August 17, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

The SEALs have always had an unspoken creed of valor and honor. In 2005, a formal creed was adopted in order to clearly delineate the values of this special team.

United States Navy SEAL

In times of war or uncertainty there is a special breed of warrior ready to answer our Nation’s call. A common man with uncommon desire to succeed.

Forged by adversity, he stands alongside America’s finest special operations forces to serve his country, the American people, and protect their way of life.

I am that man.

My Trident is a symbol of honor and heritage. Bestowed upon me by the heroes that have gone before, it embodies the trust of those I have sworn to protect. By wearing the Trident I accept the responsibility of my chosen profession and way of life. It is a privilege that I must earn every day.

My loyalty to Country and Team is beyond reproach. I humbly serve as a guardian to my fellow Americans always ready to defend those who are unable to defend themselves. I do not advertise the nature of my work, nor seek recognition for my actions. I voluntarily accept the inherent hazards of my profession, placing the welfare and security of others before my own.

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August 16, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Let those young persons whose stomachs are not strong, or who think a good set-to with the weapons which God has given to us all an uncivilized, unchristian, or ungentlemanly affair, just skip this chapter at once, for it won’t be to their taste.

It was not at all usual in those days for two schoolhouse boys to have a fight. Of course, there were exceptions, when some cross-grained, hard-headed fellow came up who would never be happy unless he was quarreling with his nearest neighbors, or when there was some class dispute between the fifth form and the fags, for instance, which required bloodletting; and a champion was picked out on each side tacitly, who settled the matter by a good, hearty mill. But for the most part the constant use of those surest keepers of the peace, the boxing-gloves, kept the schoolhouse boys from fighting one another. Two or three nights in every week the gloves were brought out, either in the hall or fifth-form room; and every boy who was ever likely to fight at all knew all his neighbors’ prowess perfectly well, and could tell to a nicety what chance he would have in a stand-up fight with any other boy in the house. But of course no such experience could be gotten as regarded boys in other houses; and as most of the other houses were more or less jealous of the schoolhouse, collisions were frequent.

After all, what would life be without fighting, I should like to know? From the cradle to the grave, fighting, rightly understood, is the business, the real, highest, honestest business of every son of man. Every one who is worth his salt has his enemies, who must be beaten, be they evil thoughts and habits in himself or spiritual wickedness in high places, or Russians, or Border-ruffians, or Bill, Tom, or Harry, who will not let him live his life in quiet till he has thrashed them.

It is no good for Quakers, or any other body of men, to uplift their voices against fighting. Human nature is too strong for them, and they don’t follow their own precepts. Every soul of them is doing his own piece of fighting, somehow and somewhere. The world might be a better world without fighting, for anything I know, but it wouldn’t be our world; and therefore I am dead against crying peace when there is no peace, and isn’t meant to be. I’m as sorry as any man to see folk fighting the wrong people and the wrong things, but I’d a deal sooner see them doing that, than that they should have no fight in them.

Thomas Hughes Tom Brown’s School Days, 1857

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August 15, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Just as a strong river current will push objects downstream unless they actively swim against it, societal currents will do the same. As a result, part of cultivating manhood in our day is understanding where society pushes against and undermines masculine virtues, and then actively swimming against those currents. Some of the push against masculinity is intentional. Certain types of feminists consider the masculine virtues “toxic”, so they condemn men who exhibit those virtues and they make a concerted effort to promote an alternate masculinity that encourages men to think and act like women.

Other societal currents that push against masculine virtues are unintentional, but rather are a byproduct of technological developments and the advancement of civilization. These developments allow men to survive without developing their masculinity and without having any connection to other men whatsoever. Professional police and military allow men to survive without being strong and courageous. Technology allows them to live isolated lives where their lack of strength, courage, or productivity will not result in being shamed, instructed, criticized, or kicked out of the tribe.

When you combine a culture that tells men that the traditional masculinity is toxic with technology that allows them to easily choose the easy and comfortable life, the result is that, on a large scale, men often simply stop trying to be men. Manhood is hard. It involves embracing a strenuous life. It involves taking responsibility for yourself and those around you. It requires strength. It requires courage. It requires improvement throughout life. It requires struggle. It requires fortitude. It requires tenacity. It requires sacrifice. It requires that status be earned, not given.

Many males recoil at this hard road. Their weaker selves yearn for an easier path. A path of comfort. A path of self-indulgence. A path without status. A path without testing. A path without responsibility. That path exists, and many voices in our society implore men to choose it. Those voices give aid and comfort to those who are unwilling to walk the hard path of manhood.  Men are told that they don’t need to take the hard road.

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August 14, 2017 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Time is the raw material of getting anything worthwhile done.

Time is precious and valuable. More valuable than money. Time is the only element in the world that is irretrievable when it’s lost. Lose money and you can make more. Lose a job and you can find another. But lose time and it’s gone forever.

There are 168 hours every week. And you have an average of 2,400 minutes to yourself each week.

That is a monumental amount of time. Where could it possibly go? Or better still, where are you spending all those hours?

A lot can be achieved day if you know what you are doing at any point in time.

When you stop trying to manage your time and instead take ownership of it, it’s a whole lot easier to be productive and let go of everything you don’t want to do.

There are four real ways to spend your time: thought, conversation, actions and distractions. Choose wisely!

You alone can take ownership of your time and decide how much time to spend on your thoughts, conversations, actions and even purposeful distractions that will lead to your success.

“You can’t let other people set your agenda in life” says Warren Buffett.

If 80% of your results will come from 20% of your time, imagine if you got it so right, that you only needed to work that 20%.

Protect your time like a valuable investment.

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