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“I’m married, but fantasize about other women”

I’ve been married for almost six years to a woman I truly love and respect. We have a good relationship—solid friendship, intimacy, shared goals. But lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming or fantasizing about other women.

Sometimes it’s someone I know, sometimes just random strangers or old flings. The thoughts aren’t obsessive or constant, but when they show up, I feel guilty. Like I’m betraying her, even if it’s just in my head.

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What’s It Like To Be A ‘Salaryman’ In Japan

When people picture Japan, they often imagine cherry blossoms, bullet trains, or the glowing lights of Tokyo. But for anyone who’s lived and worked here, nothing is more iconic—or more quietly powerful—than the army of men in dark suits flooding the city every morning: the salaryman. The term itself is borrowed from English, but in Japan, a “salaryman” (pronounced sa-ra-ri-man) means much more than just someone who draws a paycheck. He’s a full-time, white-collar company employee, often hired right out of university, who devotes himself—body and soul—to one company for life. More than a job, it’s an identity, a social class, and for many, a way of life so all-encompassing it can be hard to separate the man from the company colors he wears.

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How to Be Rejection-Proof (Without Becoming Bitter or Creepy)

Rejection sucks. Whether it’s getting ghosted after a great date, not hearing back from a job, or feeling invisible in a crowd, it’s a gut punch. For some of us, rejection happens so often, it starts to feel like an identity: “I’m just not the type people choose.” And when you add today’s awkward dating world, where everyone seems to be hiding behind screens or terrified of crossing a line, it’s easy to start believing the problem is you.

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Why Lending Money to Loved Ones Is Never A Good Idea

Look, I know you want to help. You see your brother, your cousin, your best friend from way back in a jam, and every instinct in your body screams, “I’ve got you.” But let’s get real: lending money to people you love is like lighting a match in a fireworks factory and hoping for the best. It sounds noble in the moment, but it almost always blows up—slowly, silently, and right at the heart of your relationship.

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This Japanese-American fighting unit was one of WWII’s most decorated – Rare Historical Photos

A Damn Fine Collection of Fascinating Photos – Ned Hardy

I just used these drinking glasses and they are by far the best I ever used. Really high quality, feels good in the hand and always crystal clear – Amazon

Why Some People Are Paying to Be Left on a Desert Island—Alone – Afar

Inside the Wild West of AI companionship – Technology Review

The 50 Most Drug-Addled Albums in Music History – Rate Your Music

10 Ways to Be a Better Husband Today – The Art of Manliness

Ranked: The Countries With the Highest Wealth Inequality – Visual Capitalist

There Are Some Things You Just Can’t Argue With – Ned Hardy

I started taking psyllium husk a week ago, and now my poops are solid, regular, and effortless. Wish I had tried it sooner! – Amazon

How to grow your career once you’re at a company you like – Fast Co

How Livvy Dunne became one of the most famous names in sports – ESPN

Therapists on 19 Ways to Have Much Happier, Healthier Relationships – The Guardian

100-Year-Old Life Hacks That Are Surprisingly Useful Today – Linkiest

“Seventeen years, no ring”

My ex and I were together since we were 15. Seventeen years. He was my first relationship, my first everything. Honestly, he’s all I’ve ever known.

He always knew I wanted to get married—we talked about it from the very beginning. But after all these years, he never proposed. Eventually, I stopped bringing it up and tried to focus on myself. Last year, I finally told him I couldn’t keep living like this, that marriage mattered to me. He said it was “just a piece of paper.” But to me, it wasn’t.

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“How do I stop hating everyone”

Hey, how do I stop being so judgmental and thinking I’m better than other people—when I know I’m really not? I realize this is an issue for me and I’ve tried to just ignore it, but I can’t. Sometimes I feel like I’m better than everyone, but other times I feel like I’m the worst person ever. It’s this constant back and forth between feeling superior and feeling inferior, and I don’t know where it comes from. It’s been this way since I was a kid, and I want to change before I get any older (I’m a teen right now).

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“I think I hate my daughter”

My daughter is 16. She’s sharp, well-liked, and walks into a room like she owns it. And sometimes, I feel this ugly resentment toward her.

Not because she’s done anything unforgivable—she hasn’t. But every little thing she does reminds me of her mother.

Her mom left when our daughter was little. She lied to me for years, made promises she never kept, and when she finally walked out, she barely looked back. She moved across the country with someone new, leaving our daughter behind with me, but still managing to control the narrative—making herself the victim to anyone who would listen.

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The Big Lie About Motivation—and How to Beat It

Let’s get something straight right up front: Motivation is a liar. Yeah, you heard me. We all love to talk about “finding motivation,” like it’s this mystical force that shows up, drags us out of bed, and sets our lives on fire. But the truth? Most people spend their whole lives waiting around for motivation, and it never comes. They wait for the perfect morning, the right song, the magical TED Talk, or just one more coffee—then they’ll finally get started.

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