“Why should i save for retirement if life after 60 looks so bleak?”
Your health is essentially on the decline by the time you reach 40, and by the time most people reach their 60s they’re already on a cocktail of medications, lacking the energy to do most things they used to do regularly, and also have a plethora of new health problems to deal with until they finally die.
Most retired people I’ve met typically consider a trip to Costco or falling asleep in front of the nightly news as the highlight of their day.
Some even started working again, albeit part time, just to fill their lives with something productive or meaningful.
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Confessions of a Man Who Lost His Penis In An Accident
Four years ago, I lost my penis in a freak motorcycle accident. I was 29. Some days, it feels like another lifetime. Other days, it feels like it just happened.
I know what you’re probably thinking — how do you even go on after something like that? I wondered the same thing. The first year, honestly, was hell. No one prepares you for this. Not doctors, not the internet, not your own mind. I spent a lot of time with my therapist. I spent even more time staring at the ceiling, thinking I’d never really be a man again.
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How Do You Stop Comparing Your Timeline to Everyone Else’s?
Let’s just call it out: it’s exhausting trying to keep up with the imaginary finish lines that everyone seems to be crossing but you. There’s always someone online getting engaged, buying a house, switching careers, backpacking through South America, or announcing “big news!” that sends your self-worth into a tailspin. Social media is basically a highlight reel of all the moments that make you question whether you’re falling behind in the race of life. And it’s easy to buy into the lie that you’re losing.
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How to Listen When Your Partner Tells You What They Need
Let’s just call it what it is: most of us are terrible at listening—especially when our spouse or partner sits us down and says those words nobody wants to hear: “Can we talk?” Suddenly your chest tightens, your mind races, and you start constructing a wall of defenses before you even know what’s coming. You want to explain yourself. You want to fix it. Or, honestly, you just want the conversation to end so you can go back to pretending everything’s fine.
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Linkage
The Last Letters Of Kamikaze Pilots – Ned Hardy
Why You Should Be Skeptical of Financial Influencers – Shield and Fortify
Its time to retire that bent spoon that you’ve been scooping ice cream with and replace it with the greatest ice cream scoop of all time – Amazon
Iran’s regime fights for survival – Financial Times
One Community Took a Radical Approach to Fighting Addiction. It’s Working – WSJ
How Millennials Are Ditching Gen X Retirement Strategies. Will It Pay Off? – Kiplinger
Why Your Gifted Kid Seems Lazy And Unmotivated – Fatherly
9 Signs That You May Be Unknowingly Living With High Functioning Depression – Bustle
A Collection Of Historical Photos Beautifully Brought To Life With Color – Ned Hardy
You need a salt box to keep salt handy next to your stove, so you can easily grab a pinch and season your food like a pro while cooking – Amazon
100 Questions Every Person Who Wants to Have a Good Life Should Ask Themselves – Linkiest
How to Reach Financial Happiness – Visual Capitalist
The Money Cheat Codes I Stole from People Smarter than Me – Tim Denning
How to Teach Kids to Better Manage Life’s Disappointments – Life Hacker
How to Eat Your Way Through Rome in Two Days – Thrillist
Purdue Pharma, Sacklers reach new $7.4 billion opioid settlement – NPR
The Dumping Grounds
“I honestly do not like my wife.”
We’ve been married for nine years—thirteen together—and honestly, everything we’ve been through has just worn me down to the point where I don’t even like her anymore.
Whenever she calls, I cringe. I put on a fake smile, and trying to act interested when we talk just feels gross. The truth is, I feel more at peace when she’s not around. But at the same time, I think I still love her… I’m not sure if it’s just because we’ve been together so long or if I’m clinging to the version of her I used to know.
It’s confusing, this mix of love and resentment.
How do I tell my friend he’s unlikely to date an “influencer-type” model?
I’ve known my friend since college. He’s never really dated or shown much interest in relationships until recently, after I broke up with my long-term girlfriend and started dating again. Now he talks more about women—but only about the ones who look like Instagram models.
My friend is an awesome guy: funny, smart, thoughtful, a great cook, and he has a good job. But he’s not conventionally attractive. To be blunt, the women he’s interested in usually want guys who fit a certain “look,” and he just doesn’t.
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What It’s Really Like to Have a Model Sister When You’re Ugly
I get this question all the time, usually from people who either don’t know me at all, or know my sister and then, by association, learn that I exist. “What’s it like?” they ask, as if I’m living inside some bizarre reality TV show called Model Sibling: The Ugly Duckling Edition. Sometimes I want to laugh, sometimes I want to disappear. Sometimes, honestly, I want to answer with brutal honesty, because nobody ever talks about this stuff for real.
So here it is.
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