Advice Column

I’m a 28 year old man and I still live with my parents. I have a part time job that covers my basic expenses, and my parents don’t pressure me much about money or moving out. I don’t date, mostly because I don’t feel like I have much to offer right now, and honestly, I don’t feel a strong pull to change that.

From the outside, I know this probably looks like I’m stuck or avoiding adulthood. Friends from high school are married, have careers, or at least live on their own. I’m aware of the gap, but I don’t feel panicked about it. My life is comfortable. I have my routines, my hobbies, and very little stress.

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My partner is in a college/work training program and has been struggling a lot. Recently, he was referred to student support to assess for possible learning or mental disabilities. As part of that process, he took an IQ test and scored 72.

I wasn’t completely surprised. He often struggles with basic tasks and lacks common sense. Still, he’s a kind person, and I’ve tried to see him through a compassionate lens—like maybe he just needed more time to learn. But now, knowing this number, it feels different. This isn’t just about immaturity anymore. I’m starting to realize I may always have to carry most of the mental and emotional load in our relationship.

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To be fully transparent, my best friend and I didn’t always get along. We hated each other once upon a time, and it was over a girl that we were both trying to go out with. Years later we squashed it and became best friends, and I would say we trust each other very well.

Recently while we were seshing, his girlfriend made a couple of comments to me like, “He’s lucky I didn’t meet you first,” and some other stuff about how lucky my girls are. She also touched me on the leg a couple of times while she was saying it.

Idk if I should tell him because of the past issues we’ve had over women. What should I do?

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Found out that my husband has been communicating with a happy ending/escort/sex worker company (it’s called only real men can handle) through our phone records. It has almost always been when I’m out of town. He clams that it’s a sort of fetish/fantasy of his to message them and ask who’s working, make an appointment, and not go.

Apparently, he’s been doing this our entire 8 year relationship, but he claims he never once went while we were together. He admitted that he has gotten happy endings before, but only when single.

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How do I cope with being single and lonely for the rest of my life? I’ve learned to accept that I’m an unattractive woman. How do I accept the fact that I will be single for the rest of my life? Are there any tips to permanently get rid of attraction and the urge to be with someone?

Do not say things like: “Oh, you’re not unattractive or you haven’t found the right person yet.” I don’t need false positivity or encouragement. Do not talk about how you were alone for years and then found your partner. I’m not interested. Let’s be realistic, not everyone gets married or finds the right person. A lot of people die alone, and I strongly feel like I’m one of those people.

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I (32M) thought I was getting ready to marry the love of my life (28F) after we spent 6 years together and I proposed to her last year. We had so many good life experiences together and I thought she was going to be my soulmate, but now I regret ever thinking that.

I got sick recently during New Year’s and had a high fever, but we were both invited to a party by my friend. I told her to go because I sincerely trusted her. He texted me a video during the night showing my ex-fiancée make out with another guy, and that destroyed me. I was so angry.

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Last year I used my credit score and my name to purchase a car ($34,000) for my ex-girlfriend. She used her cash for the down payment, but the car is entirely in my name and my name is on the loan by itself.

Every month she has been consistently sending me payments through Zelle to pay for the car every time I sent her a screenshot of the payment that I made to the loan, and it has been going on for almost a year.

She currently lives in Mississippi and I live in Houston. Recently, we argued and she stopped sending me payment while still driving the car, but she is demanding me to send back all the monthly payments (through Zelle) that she sent me in order for me to get the car back. What should I do?

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