Advice Column

Earlier today, my mother just scream at me.

She screamed, “A child who thought that parents are not children’s obligation is a useless child. Why? Because everything that the parents did to their children when they were still a kid must be paid by their children.

They have to pay the parents. And they mustn’t keep their salary a secret, because the parents have the right to know their salary, the parents have right to know if it’s increases… To really know, how much money they must have from their children.

Children need to pay their parents from the day they were born to the day how they earned money.”

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Eat sleep go to work, repeat. Where’s the adventure? Where’s the romance ? Seems like we are all slaving away to the rat race and have no time for passion projects.

I want an adventure. I want the life and death feeling that comes from being on the edge. Where one wrong move and you’re done

The monotony of routine is killing me

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I’ve been dating this girl for a few weeks, and she comes from a background where her mom has always had older, wealthy men supporting them, buying cars, paying for private school, and even moving them into their homes. The mom has a very traditional mindset—she believes men are the providers and women are the “feelers.” She’s even said I’m “like a girl” because I don’t agree with this.

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My parents have struggled financially for as long as I can remember. They refuse to work traditional jobs because they don’t want to deal with “corporate America,” so they do gigs like DoorDash and GrubHub, barely getting by. Last year, they lived with us for six months, crammed into our two-bedroom apartment with my wife, 1-year-old son, my parents, little sister, and their husky. It was suffocating and put a huge strain on our marriage. We couldn’t kick them out because I didn’t want to leave my sister without a place to go.

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Last night me and my boyfriend were in town after visiting a restaurant. We were heading back to the car park and were passing some empty streets that were pretty dark. Anyway as we were walking a shady looking guy I assume he was homeless or an addict popped out and was holding a knife he grabbed me by the arm and said give me your wallet if you know what’s good for her. And my boyfriend just turned around and ran.

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I’m 39. I have no retirement. I have started over again during a divorce. I’m constantly broke. I’m not good with money. I don’t know how and what to do to become good financially. I grew up being poor so money always has been something that hasn’t been in my life. My credit is absolutely destroyed. It’s been a wake up call and I want to learn.

I do spend a lot of my paycheck. I know it must be as simple as don’t do that. However, I don’t know how to save. How much of a percentage do I do? What are some disciplines that yall adopt? Am I screwed or is there a way out of this? Is there a way to make extra income? Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.

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I’m 39. I have no retirement. I have started over again during a divorce. I’m constantly broke. I’m not good with money. I don’t know how and what to do to become good financially. I grew up being poor so money always has been something that hasn’t been in my life. My credit is absolutely destroyed. It’s been a wake up call and I want to learn.

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I (23M) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (23F) for almost two months, and we’ve been official for about a month. On paper, she checks all my boxes, but I’m realizing she’s very clingy and insecure, which is already exhausting me.

She agrees with everything I say and has no opinions of her own. She used to have a busy schedule with friends and family, but now she only wants to hang out with me and even says I’m her favorite person. She constantly apologizes and panics over small things, like asking me repeatedly if I like a drink she suggested or if she’s crushing me while cuddling. She gets anxious if I don’t text back quickly, and worries I’ll break up with her if I’m busy.

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My boyfriend (28M) and I (24F) have been together for a year and a half. Lately, I’ve brought up marriage and the future because he’s hinted at it himself—talking about kids, bridesmaids, and groomsmen.

We’ve agreed that marriage and buying a home are important to us, but when I asked again recently, he said I’m pressuring him. He mentioned he has commitment issues and isn’t sure when he’ll be ready.

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A few days ago, I found out my sister has been cheating on her boyfriend of several years for the past couple of months. He caught her kissing another guy in August, and she promised it wouldn’t happen again, but she kept talking to him. Based on texts her boyfriend sent me, it’s at least emotional cheating and sexting, though it could be more.

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