Confessions

I, HLM (high libido male) recently had severe depression which was not noticed by my wife. A few months later, and after some changes, I feel a lot better. I made the decision that my marriage was over completely and asked to begin formally separating.

My LLF (low libido female) 34 wife and I had been together 17 years, married for 8, two kids, 3 and 5. We have had a completely dead bedroom for 6 years other than 12 times (yes precisely), to get her pregnant with our second kid.

I had been really struggling with the lack of sex and intimacy for a long time, but given the kids’ arrival and all of the shit that happens around childbirth and pregnancy, I held back from making big decisions for far longer than I was comfortable.

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Married 6 years. Together 18 years. Me: (f) 47. Him (m) 50. NO KIDS

Here’re my dilemma. My husband is a millionaire many times over, and retired at 50. He inherited all his money from his mother 4 years ago. We’ve lived together nearly 2 decades.

My sticking point is this: despite his massive inheritance, my husband still charges me a monthly rent and bills me for every tiny expense. I have a modest amount of savings (around $250k), but they are largely tied up in my 401k, so can’t afford to retire anytime soon. I work 40+ hours a week, while Hubby stays home and indulges in expensive hobbies like golf and sailing, and takes long trips without me. Is it unreasonable of me to expect him to share his good financial luck with me?

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I(m45) cheated on my wife (f41). It changed her fundamentally. She has always been this bubbly and cheerful woman with her beautiful smile never leaving her face. She makes everything better and has the ability to make people happy around her wherever she goes. Now she is distant, silent and

I haven’t seen her smile since it happened a year ago. When we got back together after a small break, she told me that she was fully aware about our declining sex life and her role in that. She said that she didn’t know if or when she ever could sleep with me again. She said that she couldn’t handle the pressure of needing to heal fast not to lose me again, for me not to cheat again, so she said that I could still sleep with the OW. She just doesn’t want to know when. And not in our home.

I hate myself for what she has become. Like a broken bird. When I talk to her about divorce, her tears just starts pouring and she asks if I didn’t love her anymore. I do. More than anything but I want to set her free. But her tears. I can’t.

The only thing she hasn’t changed is her kiss in the morning. She starts very early and before leaving she kisses me goodbye and whispers I love you. I pretend that she I’m sleeping. When I hear the door locks I break down crying. I cry for a good hour before it’s time for me to go to work too.

I hate myself every day for what I have done to her.

My wife abandoned my girls when she thought there was a home invasion.

My (34M) wife (42F) is a stay at home mom. Last week when I was at work, and my two oldest were at school, (5M and 3M) my wife was sitting at the dining room table when she saw a man walking down the drive way and going to the front door. He had, what she thought was a hammer. She went to the front door and the guy was trying to get in. The guy saw her and waived, and tried to get in. She fled the house and ran out the back door. She left her cell phone and Apple Watch.

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Wife no longer wants to work.

We’ve been married for just over 4 years and things have been going great. No children and aren’t planning to have any. Combine that with the two of us making decent/ok salaries in our moderate cost-of-living area, and we have a comfortable life. Could be better of course, but I’m working on that and I was under the impression that she was too.

She told me yesterday that her “dream” was for me to make enough money for her to be able to quit her job and stay home. This came as a pretty big shock to me, as it was the first I’ve ever heard anything like this in the years I’ve been with her.

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Haven’t yet had sex with my wife of 2.5 years and I feel like I’m in a prison and am rotting from the inside

We saved sex for marriage, didn’t really grow up in purity culture, or at least feel any shame or pressure. The night of our wedding was met with tears and fear. I admittedly didn’t react well. Trying to understand if I did something, or if there was something she wasn’t telling me.

The next 6 months was me highlighting the fact that we NEEDED to figure this out, not only for me, but because we can’t make it normal. She didn’t understand why I wanted this so bad and was confident we’d figure this out.

2 years from that point, we’re still here. 3 different counselors/therapists, 1 year of pelvic therapy, lots of honest talks with friends and still no penetration. At all. Vibrator is fine, but we’ve made no progress. She is unable to get her legs to relax and if I try to force it, it feels like rape. I can’t stay aroused because she’s resisting me, despite her telling me every day that this is something she wants.

I just don’t understand what I’m supposed to do. She doesn’t want me to watch porn, but I can’t get by with handjobs that I only get if I ask for them. I can’t leave because I vowed to work through our problems, I can’t stay because I want to actually have a chance at a family. I want someone who is passionate about me and actually does something about it. Every marriage in my family has ended, every single one has ended in divorce and I am better than that. But I just don’t see how I’m supposed to live in limbo like this.

I often fantasize about me or her dying because it’s the only way I see out of this.

I cannot stop having sex with my ex-wife.

My(26M) ex-wife (30F) and I have been divorced for a month now. I have moved houses, and changed my phone number, and somehow she still winds up at my door at odd hours of the night. I still get nudes and sexts from her in the daytime just like I would have when we were together.

We have hooked up six times since the divorce, and honestly it’s been the best sex I’ve ever had in my life. I hate how much I enjoy it. I hate how good it feels to be with her. I hate myself for letting her stay in my life. I hate that I can’t stop myself from giving in to her.

She stayed the night last night. I woke up holding her, just like I used to do when we were married. She’s there, laying in my bed right now, still sleeping, like she didn’t go crazy and try to make my life miserable. I fucked her like I still loved her last night, and I honestly don’t know how to feel about her anymore.

I’m so tired.

Don’t be like me

My wife and I were together 9 years, married 6 when I started my affair. We have two kids. I didn’t realize just how good I had it. She was a supportive, loving, kind woman who put me and the kids before herself every time, and I didn’t appreciate that. I felt like she didn’t praise me enough for the things I did for the family, which I now realize was pretty bare bones compared to what she did for us. I felt like we didn’t have sex enough and like my efforts to look good for her weren’t appreciated or reciprocated. I resented how much time she spent with the kids vs. with me. I thought she didn’t put in enough effort to be interested in my hobbies.

My AP was ten years younger than me, when the affair started I was 31 and she was 21. I liked the attention from a younger woman who wasn’t always tired from keeping up with the kids and who stroked my inflated ego. I was a selfish bastard. I drank too much, I told my wife I was working late or hanging out with friends when really I was with my AP.

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Today I came to the realization that my wife doesn’t love me. She said she does but her actions over the years, show that she doesn’t. She loves the life that I have given her but not necessarily me.

My wife is a lovely person, whom I adore and treat like a queen. She had been working up until about 3 years ago when she was diagnosed with a disease. She would at times help with household chores when we first were married but doesn’t help with any daily housekeeping. She doesn’t clean, vacuum, wash clothes, do yard work, she pretty much just does the dishes and that’s it.

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Basically I met my bf 4 years ago, he was running an event company until Covid started. The last event he had failed and he hasn’t had one since.

He moved in almost right away & asked me to support him with his new venture, which is a blockchain mobile app, he gave me 49%. I’m a ui/ux designer and digital marketing specialist and have been freelancing since 2015, I was making decent money for just me on my own, had a sole proprietor etc… so I was happy to help. Since I agreed to help, he thought it wasn’t worth him getting a job because he wanted to focus on the business, he was convinced that income would start coming in within a few months, despite me telling him that may be unrealistic.

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