“My boyfriend refuses to get a job”
I’m 21F and have been with my boyfriend (22M) for four years. Since finishing high school, he’s barely worked—just one summer job. He doesn’t want to go to college or get a regular job, saying he hates the idea of working for someone else. He streamed online for two years, then half-heartedly tried starting a business, but nothing ever came of either. Mostly, he plays video games all day and says jobs just don’t feel right.
“My husband came out as trans yesterday”
I support trans people and I support my husband being his/her true self but it’s so hard and I don’t know if I can do this.
I’m attracted to men especially the man I married but he’s going to be a woman now and I don’t find that attractive on a physical or emotional level so I feel really heartbroken and I don’t know how I’m going to explain it to our family, our friends or especially our children.
Again I want to be supportive if this is my husband’s true self but I don’t think our marriage can survive this because of my own preferences etc. It’s just so difficult and honestly I don’t know what to do…
How To Survive A South African Prison
Before being sentenced you will probably be in a holding cell with some Numbers (South Africa’s largest prison gang). In the morning they will ask everyone to stand in a circle while the highest ranking number stands in the middle.
Why an Easy Life Leads to Mediocrity
There’s a dirty little secret about comfort: it rots from the inside out. An easy life is a siren song. It whispers, “Don’t worry, you’ve earned this. Kick back, relax. You deserve it.” Stay in that lane long enough, and before you know it, you’re stuck—soft, anxious, bored, and wondering where the fire went.
Look around. Most people crave safety and predictability. Smooth days. No drama. Minimal discomfort. It sounds like a dream, right? But spend enough time living inside that bubble, and you stop growing. Muscles wither when they aren’t challenged. The same goes for minds, for spirits, for the guts it takes to live with intention.
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A Push for More Organ Transplants Is Putting Donors at Risk – NY Times
19 Times Architecture Made the World a Friendlier Place – Ned Hardy
It’s a $50 mouse with every feature gamers want: light weight, good shape, good sensor, good stock cable, and good mouse feet. The clicks are super crisp and the sidebuttons feel nice – Amazon
Weak password allowed hackers to sink a 158-year-old company – BBC
Don’t fall for these 4 cybersecurity myths – Popular Science
Millions Stolen, Death Threats: Should Banks Do More to Fight ‘Pig Butchering’? – WSJ
Here’s why there are so few new cars for under $30,000 – ARS Technica
The Police Blotter Atherton, CA Where The Average Home Price is $7,532,795 – Ned Hardy
A safe and nontoxic screen cleaner that’ll keep the display of every gadget you own spotless, phones, ipads, tvs, etc – Amazon
The Six Points of Connection We All Need – Greater Good
If You Lose Your Erection in Bed, Just Do This – Wing Girl
The World’s 20 Most Powerful AI Supercomputers – Visual Capitalist
Some names are music to our ears. Here are the 50 best sounding ones according to science – Upworthy
This is what Hitler speaking English sounds like, with the help of A.I. – Upscaling History
The Dumping Grounds
You’re Not Ugly. You Just Look Like You
Let’s get something straight: you don’t actually know what you look like. I mean, not really. You’ve never seen yourself the way anyone else does. Every photo, every mirror—none of them can show you the thing people see when you walk into a room, or the way your friends light up when you laugh at their dumb jokes.
But for some reason, we all seem to believe we’re uniquely qualified to judge our own faces. Like we’re running some kind of personal Project Runway in our heads, handing out withering critiques. “Look at my nose. My weird eye. Why does my mouth do that thing when I smile?”
“How can I catch up on investing for retirement?
I’m 45, and I feel like I’ve screwed up my financial life. I make decent money (about $80k a year), but between raising kids and just not paying attention, I barely have $40,000 saved for retirement. Every time I see something about how much people my age should have, I feel sick to my stomach.
I want to catch up, but saving a few hundred bucks a month feels hopeless at this point. I keep reading about people making a killing in crypto or day trading, and honestly, it sounds tempting. I know it’s risky, but the idea of doubling or tripling my money fast is way more appealing than grinding away for the next 20 years and still coming up short.
Am I crazy for even thinking about this?
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“My girlfriend let a guy that likes her sleep in her bed.”
My girlfriend recently started her Master’s and has been hanging out with a group of friends from college, including some guys. I never thought much of it, but last weekend, I asked if any of the guys had hit on her. She initially brushed it off, but then admitted that one of them asked if she had a boyfriend. She told him yes, and he said it was too bad because he and others had been wondering if she was single. She didn’t tell me right away because she didn’t want me to get paranoid.
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