“Breaking up with my fiancee because of his mom”
Last month, I ended my engagement and a four-year relationship because I could no longer handle the way his mother treated me.
She regularly made cruel comments about my career and my body. Any time he showed me even simple affection or said something kind, she’d respond with disgust or throw in a passive-aggressive jab like, “Do you really have to do that?” It was clear she didn’t think I was good enough for her son — and she didn’t hide it. More than once, she told me directly. I’ll never forget her saying, “Mama will always be number one.”
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“My girlfriend keeps giving me “boyfriend” tests”
My girlfriend (30F) keeps giving me (38M) “boyfriend” tests. We’ve been together almost 4 months (not long I know).
About a month ago my gf started doing boyfriend tests on me. It started with her telling me she wanted a weekend alone. So I gave her space, while making myself available if she wanted company. I failed that test because I didn’t surprise visit her.
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Those Eight Words Can Transform Your Relationship
Let’s be honest — you’re going to disagree with your partner. A lot. Sometimes about little things (where the shoes go). Sometimes about big things (how to raise the kids, how to handle money, how often to see your families). Disagreement is not the issue.
The issue is how you handle it.
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The Quiet Power of Assuming Positive Intent
Relationships — the real kind, the messy kind, the forever kind — aren’t undone by grand betrayals most of the time. They’re worn down, day by day, by small assumptions. Dangerous ones.
Maybe you know the feeling.
She forgets to tell you about a school event until the last minute. He criticizes how you loaded the dishwasher. She reminds you — again — to lock the front door, and it lands like a slap, not a suggestion.
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Eerie Final Photos of Famous People Taken Shortly Before Their Passing – Rare Historical Photos
5 Big Questions You Always Wondered About — Finally Answered – Ned Hardy
A fantastic affordable knife sharpener. Simple to use and extremely effective. Leaves a perfect edge on your blades every time and doesn’t ruin the blade – Amazon
An Employee Surveillance Company Leaked Over 21 Million Screenshots Online – Gizmodo
52-year-old quit his job, bought a failing snack company for $250,000—he just sold it for $750 million – Make It
Making a Single Bolt for an F1 Car Takes an Insane Amount of Work – The Drive
From dogs to rabbits, readers share how adopting shelter pets impacted them – NPR
The Life Lesson I Wish I Taught My Kids A Lot Sooner, According To 12 Dads – Fatherly
24 Memes That Are Hard To Argue With – Ned Hardy
This license plate frame is ingeniously designed to ward off scratches, scuffs and minor damange from fender benders – Amazon
A $20,000 electric truck with manual windows and no screens? Meet Slate Auto – ARS Technica
How Cam Ward beat the odds to become the No. 1 pick – ESPN
The 7 Worst Serial Killers from OUTSIDE of America – Linkiest
5 Powerful Ways to Boost Teen Mental Health – Psychology Today
The Dumping Grounds
“My husband’s default is to disagree with me.”
Over the last year or so it’s like my husband’s default has become to disagree with me/question me about everything, especially very mundane things. Some examples:
Refused to add toilet paper to the grocery list since we “already had some”. We’re currently using the last roll.
Says he doesn’t like dinner tonight because I used pasta from the orange box. I didn’t. He insists I did until I pull the box I used out of the trash.
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“He won’t marry me after 16 years and two kids”
I’m a 38-year-old woman who’s been with a 40-year-old man for 16 years. We have two daughters (4 and 8). I always wanted to be married before having kids, but he convinced me otherwise — saying he feared I wouldn’t want kids if we married first. I gave in, and I’ve regretted it ever since.
For years I’ve felt depressed and disposable, but the feelings got worse last summer before our 16th anniversary. I think about it every day — feeling like I’m not good enough to be loved fully. I’m a stay-at-home mom and financially dependent on him, so leaving isn’t simple.
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Nobody Made You Do It: Own Your Actions, Own Your Life
There’s a lie that’s as old as time. A lie we love telling ourselves because it makes the world feel safer. It goes like this:
“I wouldn’t have said that if they hadn’t pushed me.”
“I wouldn’t have acted that way if they hadn’t hurt me first.”
“I lost my temper because they made me.”
No. They didn’t.
Nobody made you do anything.
You did that.
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