Caveman Circus

I’m a 26-year-old woman, and I’ve started to accept that I’m considered “ugly” by society’s standards. It feels like this affects how people treat me, and it’s hard not to take it personally.

At a recent church picnic, no one greeted me or tried to include me. One man spoke to me in a dismissive tone when I looked into a cooler, so I deliberately took my time choosing a bottle of water just to push back a little. Later, when I tried to make room in a tent during the rain, I apologized for being in the way, but the woman I apologized to ignored me completely.

Two months ago, my grandmother legally transferred ownership of her house to me. She’s still alive, but due to her declining health, she wanted to ensure the house went to someone she trusted. My father is furious. He claims the house should be his and has given me an ultimatum: return ownership to my grandmother or he’ll cut all contact with us.

Here’s the context: When I was nine, my dad left us after remarrying and didn’t offer support—emotional or financial—for over a decade. He only returned last year after his second marriage fell apart and he lost his job. Now, he and his wife are apparently reconciling and planning to sell the house, which is how he discovered the ownership change. He says I’m untrustworthy and accuses me of putting the family at risk of homelessness.

I moved in with my girlfriend, and I regret it. She gets angry over small things, and no matter how much I apologize, she won’t talk things through. When I tried to express how I feel about her lifestyle, she got upset again. Now I feel like I can’t say anything without triggering a fight.

The problem is, our rental contract locks us in for two years. If we break the lease early, we’ll have to pay a fee. So even if we break up, I still want to stay and live with her—just as roommates—until the lease ends. I just need advice on how to make this situation more livable.

My husband and I got married in 2017. We both came into the marriage with separate assets, and we signed a prenup that stated whatever we brought in would remain individually owned. At the time, this felt fair and safe, especially for me — I had a significantly higher net worth, and I’ve been through a financially abusive relationship before. That prenup gave me peace of mind.

I’m a 20-year-old guy, and during college I became close friends with a girl from one of my classes. She told me early on that she had a boyfriend, so I kept things platonic. But over time, I developed feelings for her — deeper than I expected. I tried to push them down and stay just friends, but the feelings only grew, especially after we started hanging out less. It got to the point where I couldn’t stop thinking about her, and I felt completely consumed.