Caveman Circus

Tuesday night boyfriend and I were out, he parked in an alley because it’s free. As we got to the car this tiny little homeless looking guy stepped out with a screwdriver and said something like “I’ll I need is a hit, me $20 and no one gets hurt.”

Boyfriend sprinted away. He didn’t Even look behind him so I was stuck with the mugger and since I had my phone only he rubbed his hands all over me while holding the screwdriver to my throat. He wasn’t getting off on it but it was still so traumatizing as he thought I was hiding money in my bra and underwear. I kept hoping that Ross would be coming back with the cops but nothing. The homeless guy eventually realized I had nothing and just left down the other end of the alley,

Hello, like the title says I (32M) am happily married, with two kids, have developed strong romantic feelings for a co-worker (27F, let’s call her Jessica) and don’t understand why I can’t get over this feeling.

First, I love my wife and kids. My wife is my best friend she’s smart, funny, sexy everything I want in a partner and mother to my children. I also love my kids, I’ve always wanted a family and watching them grow and learn is amazing.

A few years ago I met Jessica at work. I did initially notice she was attractive and we only began speaking months later due to work activities overlapping. As we got to know each other I found out Jessica was in a long term relationship and we became good work friends.

My husband has been critical of my body for years. I look back at photos and can recall how he made me feel in a certain outfit, and I look back and want to hug myself. I was so pretty. Really thin. Blonde hair. Blue eyes. Fit. Fun. Loving. And he had convinced me I was fat and constantly dressed inappropriately.

I’m 5 months pp and the comments haven’t stopped. Im exclusively breastfeeding. I workout 4-5x a week (running 20-30km weekly, lifting 2x) and I do my best with my diet but it’s not perfect. I’m carrying 20lbs I didn’t have before baby. I worked out every day I could in my pregnancy.

We been together 6 years now and during the third year of our relationship I cheated on him with a close family friend. I had started taking him for granted and it became easy to cheat because I didn’t value the relationship.

He broke up with me and we were split for months and the times I was single I realized he is a great bf. I begged for him back and he took me back but I had to promise to never speak to the guy again. I’m happy to say I never cheated since then and haven’t been tempted at all. I understand how great of a partner I have.

Let’s cut through the nonsense. There’s a lot of advice out there about how to win friends and influence people. Most of it is garbage. But there’s one fundamental truth about human interaction that, if you get it right, can transform your relationships and your life.

Here it is: Make people feel valued.

We’ve all been there. You’re in a heated debate with someone who just doesn’t get it. No matter how many facts you throw their way or how passionately you argue, they remain steadfast in their beliefs. It’s infuriating, right?

But here’s the thing: forcing someone to change their mind is like trying to push a boulder up a hill—exhausting and ultimately futile.