“I honestly do not like my wife.”
We’ve been married for nine years—thirteen together—and honestly, everything we’ve been through has just worn me down to the point where I don’t even like her anymore.
Whenever she calls, I cringe. I put on a fake smile, and trying to act interested when we talk just feels gross. The truth is, I feel more at peace when she’s not around. But at the same time, I think I still love her… I’m not sure if it’s just because we’ve been together so long or if I’m clinging to the version of her I used to know.
It’s confusing, this mix of love and resentment.
How do I tell my friend he’s unlikely to date an “influencer-type” model?
I’ve known my friend since college. He’s never really dated or shown much interest in relationships until recently, after I broke up with my long-term girlfriend and started dating again. Now he talks more about women—but only about the ones who look like Instagram models.
My friend is an awesome guy: funny, smart, thoughtful, a great cook, and he has a good job. But he’s not conventionally attractive. To be blunt, the women he’s interested in usually want guys who fit a certain “look,” and he just doesn’t.
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What It’s Really Like to Have a Model Sister When You’re Ugly
I get this question all the time, usually from people who either don’t know me at all, or know my sister and then, by association, learn that I exist. “What’s it like?” they ask, as if I’m living inside some bizarre reality TV show called Model Sibling: The Ugly Duckling Edition. Sometimes I want to laugh, sometimes I want to disappear. Sometimes, honestly, I want to answer with brutal honesty, because nobody ever talks about this stuff for real.
So here it is.
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What Are You Really After? Why Your Dopamine Habits Are Trying to Tell You Something
You reach for your phone. Maybe you’re standing in line. Maybe you’re supposed to be working. Maybe you’re just bored. Next thing you know, it’s 20 minutes later, and you’re still scrolling. The “dopamine detox” crowd would have you believe you’re just hooked on cheap hits of pleasure. But here’s the real truth:
Why Your Brain Loves Easy Wins—and How to Break Free From the Dopamine Trap
We all want life to feel good. That’s why we’re glued to our screens, endlessly scrolling or gaming, soaking up those tiny hits of pleasure like a dry sponge dropped in a bucket. It’s not because you’re weak. It’s because your brain is built to chase rewards—and modern tech companies have figured out how to deliver those rewards faster, easier, and in more concentrated doses than anything you’ll ever get from the real world.
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Linkage
5 Historic Photos That Speak Volumes – Ned Hardy
I really like these shorts for working out. They are light and durable and is great for running, lifting weights and no-gi jiu jitsu! – Amazon
‘I just walked out’: The sole survivor of the Air India crash shares his story – NPR
The Average Retirement Savings by Age – Kiplinger
Who were the Iranian commanders killed in Israel’s attack? – BBC
Antonio Brown reportedly wanted for attempted murder charge after Miami boxing incident in May – Yahoo
How Do Young Men See the World? We Asked Them – Esquire
What It Felt Like to Live Through Three World-Changing Events – Ned Hardy
A dual-hose portable AC is way better than a single‑hose because it pulls in fresh outside air to cool itself and vents heat out separately, so it doesn’t create negative pressure and actually cools rooms faster and more efficiently – Amazon
Cars With The Worst Reputations In Automotive History – Linkiest
The Plane That Crashed Yesterday Was the Same One a Dead Boeing Whistleblower Warned About – Gizmodo
5 small things that made us smile this week – Upworthy
The 25 Most Important Fatherhood Moments in the Past 25 Years – Fatherly
Watch Out for Malicious Unsubscribe Links – Life Hacker
Watch hundreds of strangers talk for 30 minutes, and track how their moods change – The Pudding
The Dumping Grounds
What It’s Really Like to Still Be Happily Married After 25 Years
People think a long, happy marriage is some mystical secret or a rare genetic lottery win. But if you ask me, being married for 25 years and still being in love isn’t magic. It’s a series of small, daily decisions. It’s about learning, laughing, screwing up, and finding your way back to each other—again and again.
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“Stagnant in a good but not great life”
I’m 37, single, and feeling stuck in a life that’s “good enough” but not fulfilling. I work from home in events, making $95k, but the job is stressful, socially draining, and doesn’t offer much growth—just small raises and the same old routine. I’m decent at my job, but as an introvert with social anxiety, it exhausts me, and my skills don’t seem to transfer well outside my current field.