“I wish my daughter just died instead”
Four years ago, my now-16-year-old daughter was in a car accident with a friend’s mom. She broke her neck and is now paralyzed from the waist down and in her left arm—she can only use her right hand. Watching her live like this destroys me every day. I love her more than anything, and every time she cries about her situation it feels like my heart is being ripped out of my chest.
Every day I help her with everything—getting around, putting her to bed, taking her out, sometimes even showering her, dressing her, doing her hair and makeup. I never complain. She’s my baby, and I’ll take care of her as long as I physically can.
What terrifies me is what happens if I’m gone. I have serious health issues, heart problems run in my family, and the men in my family don’t live long. My dad and grandpa died in their 50s, my brother died of cancer at 56, and I’m 48 now. I’m scared I might be next—and I’m terrified of leaving her behind.
“My wife makes more than me and doesn’t respect me”
My wife is a doctor and earns 2-3 times more than I do. Last year, I made $150k, and this year, I’m on track to make between $175k-$200k. Despite this, she constantly accuses me of “living off her.” The other day, she even said it loudly at Costco, calling me a leech and making it sound like I’m some kind of loser with a sugar mama. She didn’t just say it—it was loud enough for others to hear.
At first, I stayed calm and didn’t react, but she wouldn’t stop. Eventually, I told her I was about to leave the store if it continued.
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“I feel inferior when people younger than me have houses”
I’m 37 so dead center millennial. I’m happy for anyone who is able to get a house who wants one, but my wife (35) and I have been living together and working for almost 13 years and have since been unable to crawl out of the eternal renting hole.
When I hear someone younger than me has a house I feel like I failed somehow, or that I’m stupid for not chasing a house in my early 20s or something.
I don’t wish badly on anyone who gets their own house or anything. this is just about my own personal inadequacies.
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10 Guys Who Swore off Dating/Marriage/Relationships Reveal Why
1. No particular straw and I wouldn’t say “swore it off”. But a long time of bad experiences and rejection/failure (and subsequently reflecting on the pain that it caused me) just slowly but steadily made me arrive at the point where I’ve given up and have stopprd caring altogether.
I would probably compare it to an aspring musician who eventually came to the realization that he was never going to make it big, so he just moved on with his life and got a “normal” job.
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This One Question Will Change How You Spend Money Forever
Most people think they control their spending. They don’t.
They think their purchases are based on logic and personal preferences. They aren’t.
The truth is, most people spend money based on how they want to be perceived. They buy things not because they need them, but because they believe those things signal success, intelligence, or belonging.
Which is why there’s one simple question that can completely change the way you spend money:
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Linkage
A Walk Through the 1990s: History Colorado’s Nostalgic Exhibit in Pictures – Rare Historical Photos
A Damn Fine Collection of Fascinating Photos – Ned Hardy
A really good bang for your buck, compact, high lumen flashlight – Amazon
JPMorgan Chase and Bank of America to match $1,000 U.S. contributions to employee ‘Trump accounts’ – CNBC
Want To Retire at 65? See if You Can Answer These Six Questions – Kiplinger
What Happens When Cheap Chinese EVs Hit Canada? Look At Australia. – InsideEVs
5 Easy Ways to Boost Your Gut Microbiome – SELF
24 Memes To Help You Get Over The Hump – Ned Hardy
Really nice set of work gloves that is easy on the wallet – Amazon
How hobbies went performative – and became a bigger wealth flex than a designer bag – The Independent
Bill Belichick’s Snub Is a Hall of Fame Embarrassment – The Ringer
China reveals 200-strong AI drone swarm that can be controlled by a single soldier – Tom’s Hardware
14 Heartwarming Stories That Prove Kindness Conquers All – Linkiest
The 12 Most Inflammatory Foods, According to Nutrition Experts – Real Simple
The Dumping Grounds
“Trying so hard not to fall into Red Pill”
My experiences with women have been terrible. No matter how much effort I put into putting myself out and listening to people’s advice, I’m always ending in the same outcome. Rejection. Rejection. Rejection. I’m pretty sure it’ll almost be 10 rejections in a row.
I just can’t understand why women don’t like me. I talk to them with the intention of getting to know them and be friendly and then I’ll show romantic interest. And as soon as I do, I’m rejected.
And I’m finding it really hard to believe height and race don’t matter. People will tell me “just go outside and you’ll see short/brown people in relationships” – but just cause you see it happen sometimes doesn’t mean it’s not insanely difficult.
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“Should I Leave My Wife?”
I love my wife, but I don’t know if I can live like this anymore. We’ve been married for over a year, and after moving in together, I discovered she had extreme cleanliness rules she hid while we were dating.
Everything from the outside is considered dirty—I have to undress in the entryway, shower immediately, disinfect my phone and glasses, and even retrieve my clothes in my underwear if I want to re-wear them. If I step outside, even briefly, I have to shower again. Groceries must be individually cleaned before being put away. If I drop something on the floor, it’s “contaminated” and either needs to be thrown away or heavily sanitized. She scrubs surfaces constantly and gets visibly distressed if something isn’t done “correctly.” Despite my efforts to comply, she gets angry if anything goes wrong, and she’s just as hard on herself.