“Husband is close to a female colleague. Should I be worried?”
Husband is close to a female colleague. Should I be worried?
Over the past year, my husband has become close to a female colleague. In fairness to him, he did ask me at the time,
was it ok for him to have a female friend in work that he might occasionally go to lunch with. I said yes that was fine
as I trust him.The issue is that now they go to lunch once a week and message each other numerous times throughout the day. Every day.
He always keeps his phone with him and, much as I hate doing it, I can check his messages to her via his smartwatch when
he leaves it charging.They message about everything not just work related issues. They message about meals, plans and send photos of random
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“I left my husband for another man. Karma is hitting me”
I made a choice I thought was about love, a better relationship, and a better future.
I left my husband, the person who had committed to me, for someone else. This new man encouraged it and kept telling me I deserved better.
My husband wasn’t perfect. He didn’t fully meet my needs, he didn’t want to change, and I often felt unseen. But I know now he would never have done what this man did.
Then this other man showed up. He was exciting and affectionate. He seemed smarter, had a better education, a better job, and I truly believed I had found “the one.” He cooked with me, helped around the house, and poured on the praise. He kept saying I deserved everything.
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“I’m 30 and my mom still treats me like a kid”
I’m in my 30s, married, and in the middle of some big life changes. My partner and I recently bought a home and are slowly planning renovations. We’re trying to be intentional and thoughtful, since this is meant to be our long-term home.
My mom wants to help, and I truly believe her intentions are good. But her version of helping often feels like overstepping. She gives advice as if it’s a directive, schedules things without checking with me first, and gets frustrated when our timeline or choices don’t match how she would do things. This same pattern showed up during our wedding, where it felt like I constantly had to justify our decisions.
She often says, “I’m just trying to help,” and I don’t think she means to be controlling. Still, the impact is that I feel overridden and treated like I’m not fully capable of making decisions for my own life. When I try to push back or set boundaries, I immediately feel guilty and anxious, like I’m being ungrateful or hurting her feelings.
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A Healthy Relationship Has Room for Two People’s Needs
A healthy relationship has room for two people’s needs.
Not one. Not “whoever is louder.” Not “whoever is more tired.” Two.
If your relationship only works when you shrink, stay quiet, or swallow your needs so things don’t blow up—that’s not peace. That’s survival. And survival mode will rot a relationship from the inside out.
Love does not require self-erasure.
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Linkage
5 Historical Photos That Speak Volumes – Ned Hardy
This is great because it’s a compact, powerful spot-cleaner that easily removes tough stains and messes from carpets, upholstery, stairs, and car interiors without needing a full-size carpet cleaner. – Amazon
A New Video Game Traps Players in an Online Scam Center – Archive.ph
I Test Drove a Chinese EV. Now I Don’t Want to Buy American Cars Anymore. – Archive.ph
The 100 Best Rap Albums of All Time – Pitchfork
What to know about the Nipah virus – CNN
This 661-mile Scenic Route Was Just Named the ‘Road Trip of the Year’—and It Includes National Parks and the ‘Loneliest Road’ – Travel And Leisure
A Heavy Metal Dose of Awesome To Help You Celebrate Friday – Ned Hardy
Really good toothpaste if you want to avoid fluoride – Amazon
Catherine O’Hara, ‘Schitt’s Creek’ and ‘Home Alone’ Star, Dies at 71 – Variety
Pregnant woman murdered after Facebook Marketplace sale – Abc7
Justice Department says it’s releasing 3 million pages from its Jeffrey Epstein files – AP News
How to be a neighbor, one dish at a time – Salon
How to Make Friends as an Adult – NYTimes
‘ChatGPT saved my life.’ How patients, and doctors, are using AI to make a diagnosis – NPR
The Dumping Grounds
“My girlfriend’s “depression” is just a lifestyle choice and I’m finally done being her ATM”
We have been together for two years and I have paid for every single bill, every meal, and every rent check. She claims she is too depressed to work or even do basic chores around the house. I felt bad for her at first and did everything to support her.
But lately I noticed she has plenty of energy to spend 10 hours scrolling TikTok or going out for drinks with her girls. The second I suggest she gets a part-time job to help with the debt she put us in, she starts crying and says I don’t understand mental illness.
I’m tired of being the only adult. I realized I’m not her boyfriend, I’m just her personal servant. I’m moving out this weekend and I don’t even feel guilty.
“I just found out my girlfriend is pregnant and I am not ready to be a father. What do I do?”
Yesterday my girlfriend(19f) told me she is pregnant, and since then I(22m) have been struggling with what to do next. I care about her and I am not trying to avoid responsibility, but I honestly do not feel ready to be a father. I am still trying to figure out my life financially and mentally, and this situation feels overwhelming. We have not made any decisions yet.
I am trying to be calm and supportive with her, but inside I feel lost and scared. I do not want to make a selfish choice, and I also do not want to make promises I cannot keep. I am looking for advice from people who have been in similar situations or who can offer a clear outside perspective. How should I approach this situation, and how do I have this conversation with her in a mature and honest way
“Almost 40, still living with parents. I can’t get out!”
I’ve been living with my parents my whole life, and I feel stuck. Financially, it’s like having golden handcuffs. They don’t charge me rent, don’t mind if I eat their food, and there are no real house rules. They mostly leave me alone, except when they need help with tech. The house is messy because they’re too old to care about organizing, and while it frustrates me, it’s not something I can fix on my own without their participation. Honestly, I can’t complain too much about the setup—it’s free, easy, and low-stress.
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