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Author: Theodore Lee

Theodore Lee is the editor of Caveman Circus. He strives for self-improvement in all areas of his life, except his candy consumption, where he remains a champion gummy worm enthusiast. When not writing about mindfulness or living in integrity,  you can find him hiding giant bags of sour patch kids under the bed.
Life Advice

How to Be Kinder to Yourself Without Letting Yourself Off the Hook

There’s a tightrope many of us walk, though we rarely name it. It stretches between self-compassion and self-accountability, and every day we try not to fall.

We want to be kind to ourselves—especially in a world that is often harsh, fast, and indifferent. We want to rest without guilt, forgive our mistakes, speak gently to the anxious voice inside. But we also don’t want to become soft in the wrong ways. We’re afraid that kindness will morph into complacency. That self-compassion is just laziness in a flattering disguise. That letting ourselves off the hook means we’ll never change.

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How To Learn Chess As An Adult (or, how I went from 300 to 1500 ELO in 9 months) – Alex Crompton

There Are Some Things You Just Can’t Argue With – Ned Hardy

A book every parent should read. It helps you understand and connect with your child and become a better parent – Amazon

Freezing My Eggs Felt Like Spinning a Slot Machine With My Ovaries – 404

These Are the Financial Milestones You Should Actually Hit by Age 30 – Life Hacker

I carry these things wherever I go. It dislodge trapped food and debris between my teeth so effortlessly – Amazon

Men save an ancient Goliath Grouper in trouble – Reddit

Lets Take A Stroll Through The Art Museum – Ned Hardy

These 7 Lifestyle Habits Are Linked To A Lower Risk Of Cancer – Fatherly

$2,000 for Getting Bumped: How to Squeeze the Best Deal Out of Airlines – WSJ

6 Ways to Get Better Responses From AI Chatbots – How to Geek

Avoid these 4 phrases that can escalate an argument—here’s what to say instead – Make It

I Had Ketamine Therapy. This Is What It’s Like – VICE

4 scenarios that can ignite a family fight — and 12 strategies to minimize them – NPR

Advice Column

“Is My Husband Cheating?”

After 15 years of monogamy, I just tested positive for Chlamydia. My past tests in 2013 and 2017 were negative, so it doesn’t seem like it’s something that was dormant.

While looking around, I noticed two recent prescriptions for my husband—dicloxacillin and methylprednisolone—issued right after he returned from a solo ski trip. Oddly, during his last solo ski trip, he turned off the Tesla tracker, which I found suspicious.

I haven’t confronted him yet, but these details are weighing on me. I’m trying to figure out if this could somehow be a mistake or if there’s any way I could have gotten Chlamydia without him cheating.

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Life Advice

Your Standards Are Your Future: How to Quietly Raise the Bar for Your Life

There’s a quiet revolution that happens when you start expecting more from yourself—not in a self-punishing, perfectionist way, but in a quietly dignified, self-honoring way. It doesn’t need to be loud. It doesn’t need to be Instagrammed. But one day you wake up and realize: I don’t accept this anymore. I’m not available for chaos. I’m not living at the level of my fears—I’m rising to the level of my values.

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Life Advice

You Are Not Behind: How to Stop Comparing Your Timeline to Everyone Else’s

There’s a certain ache that comes when you scroll through social media at night. Someone got engaged. Someone bought a house. Someone else just started their dream job at 27. You, meanwhile, are eating cereal on your couch in an apartment with peeling paint, unsure if you even like your job, and wondering if you missed the boat—again.

This is the silent panic of falling behind.

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The One Word That Could Protect Your Family From a Devastating Scam – Shield and Fortify

33 Memes Every Costco Addict Will Understand – Ned Hardy

If your parents fucked you up with their emotionally immaturity, you have to read this —it explains so much about why you feel the way you do and gives you real tools to finally start healing – Amazon

Creatine Is All the Rage. Should You Take It? – WSJ

Menendez brothers resentenced to 50 years to life, eligible for parole – NY Times

Why the Toupee Is Making a Comeback With Millennial Men – GQ

MLB reinstates Pete Rose and Shoeless Joe Jackson, making them Hall of Fame eligible – AP News

Security researchers are publishing 1,000 email addresses they claim are linked to North Korean IT worker scams that infiltrated Western companies – Wired

Salma Hayek’s Provocative Tease in SI Swimsuit 2025 – Linkiest

26 Photos That Will Hit You With That Heavy Dose of Nostalgia – Ned Hardy

These are the best dish sponges out there. They don’t hold odors, and are impressively durable – Amazon

Inside the Very Peculiar and Wildly Popular World of Armored Medieval Combat

What It’s Like to Live in a California Ghost Town – Bloomberg

The 15 Ultimate Things to Do in Paris in 2025 (And the Top Things to Avoid) – Fodors

Mapped: The Income Needed to Buy a Home in Every U.S. State – Visual Capitalist

Middle-class families share how much they have in their savings accounts and it’s eye-opening – Upworthy

Advice Column

“My mom expects me to help pay their mortgage”

I’m a 28-year-old woman, married with a child. I’ve been friends with a 29-year-old man for about a decade. We’ve never dated or slept together, though there was some flirtation in our younger years. He got married just over a year ago and often vents about being unhappy. I’ve always told him to talk to his wife or seek therapy instead of confiding only in me.

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Advice Column

“My married friend wants to sleep with me”

I’m a 28-year-old woman, married with a child. I’ve been friends with a 29-year-old man for about a decade. We’ve never dated or slept together, though there was some flirtation in our younger years. He got married just over a year ago and often vents about being unhappy. I’ve always told him to talk to his wife or seek therapy instead of confiding only in me.

A few months back, I opened up to him about the struggles in my own marriage—something I rarely do. Not long after, he started flirting with me via text. At first, I thought he was joking, but the messages became more direct. He told me he wanted to be with me. I haven’t reciprocated. I can’t bring myself to cheat, especially not with someone I’ve called a friend for so long.

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