Theodore Lee

I am a 30 year old male. I have a well paying job (roughly 100k per year). No debt.

My girlfriend has 250k in private student loans (from undergrad private school) with a variable interest rate. Recently the interest hit over 11% and doing the math on the loans has me devastated.

With how fast it is growing… she will need to put 25k a year into it just to keep it in the same place. That basically guarantees that I will never have financial help during our relationship. Additionally, with how much she will need to work just to pay on the loans.. I won’t have much help around the house or with our kids (if/when we have some) either.

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My husband and I have been married for 10 years and we have two kids – ages 5 and 2. Having been married so long we’ve had our fair share of issues.

But one thing which always happens when we fight is he always runs away, I’m usually the one who pours my heart out about what upset me and he, instead of sitting with me and addressing our issue just walks away and ignores me.

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Most people are terrible at making friends because they’re too busy trying to be interesting. They’re like peacocks, strutting around, showing off their fancy feathers, hoping someone will notice how awesome they are.

But here’s the kicker – it doesn’t work.

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let’s talk about something that’s probably more familiar to you than your favorite coffee mug – fighting to be right. You know what I’m talking about.

It’s that moment when you’re in an argument, and suddenly, it’s not about solving the problem anymore. It’s about winning. It’s about proving that you’re right and they’re wrong, end of story.

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Let’s talk about that thing you do when you’re upset but don’t want to admit it. You know, when you slam doors a little too hard, or give one-word answers, or suddenly become “busy” when someone asks for help. Yeah, that’s passive-aggression, and it’s about as effective as trying to put out a fire with gasoline.

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I’m a 29-year-old woman, and I’ve been married to my husband, who’s 32, for two years now. In that time, he’s hit me three times, leaving bruises on my body. Even though I try to defend myself, he just leaves me crying and in a lot of pain.

He always blames me, saying it’s my fault for talking back when he says hurtful things.

When things are good, he’s incredibly sweet, treating me like a princess. But if he gets angry about anything, he completely loses it.

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