Confession of the Day
Haven’t yet had sex with my wife of 2.5 years and I feel like I’m in a prison and am rotting from the inside
We saved sex for marriage, didn’t really grow up in purity culture, or at least feel any shame or pressure. The night of our wedding was met with tears and fear. I admittedly didn’t react well. Trying to understand if I did something, or if there was something she wasn’t telling me.
The next 6 months was me highlighting the fact that we NEEDED to figure this out, not only for me, but because we can’t make it normal. She didn’t understand why I wanted this so bad and was confident we’d figure this out.
2 years from that point, we’re still here. 3 different counselors/therapists, 1 year of pelvic therapy, lots of honest talks with friends and still no penetration. At all. Vibrator is fine, but we’ve made no progress. She is unable to get her legs to relax and if I try to force it, it feels like rape. I can’t stay aroused because she’s resisting me, despite her telling me every day that this is something she wants.
I just don’t understand what I’m supposed to do. She doesn’t want me to watch porn, but I can’t get by with handjobs that I only get if I ask for them. I can’t leave because I vowed to work through our problems, I can’t stay because I want to actually have a chance at a family. I want someone who is passionate about me and actually does something about it. Every marriage in my family has ended, every single one has ended in divorce and I am better than that. But I just don’t see how I’m supposed to live in limbo like this.
I often fantasize about me or her dying because it’s the only way I see out of this.
Poll of the Day
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Even If It’s Not Your Fault, It’s Your Responsibility
In the grand theater of life, we often find ourselves cast in roles we didn’t audition for, facing scenes we didn’t write, and delivering lines we didn’t create. It’s a common human experience to feel like a passenger in the vehicle of life, especially when things go awry. But there’s a powerful truth that, once embraced, can transform us from passive onlookers into directors of our own destiny: Even when it’s not your fault, it’s your responsibility.
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What it Takes to Wear the Sudoku Crown – NY Times
She Played ‘Winnie Cooper’ on The Wonder Years. See Danica McKellar Now at 48 – Wanderer
Whatever Happened to ‘The Toxic Avenger’ Actor Robert Prichard? – Ned Hardy
Every entrepreneur needs to read this book. It will teach you how to be run a business and not just be another employee in your business – Amazon
What U.S. Submariners Actually Say About Detection Of So-Called Unidentified Submerged Objects – The Drive
Google paid a whopping $26.3 billion in 2021 to be the default search engine everywhere – The Verge
Big brother fights his little sisters stalker – Reddit
To Be Happier at Work, Invest More in Your Relationships – HBR
How to train your brain to become more curious – Fast Co
How to Train for Long-Term Success – Outside
How a Single Act by John Connor’s Friend in Terminator 2 Saved the Human Race – Wanderer
New Jersey high school students accused of making AI-generated pornographic images of classmates – CBS
This is the perfect size travel coffee and tea mug, that will fit perfectly in your cup holder and will last you a life time – Amazon
Cave explorer almost died when missed a airhole – Reddit
Gen Z wants to retire early. They’re off to a good start – Insider
9 Ways You’re Making Dating More Complicated and Difficult (and How to Overcome Them) – Knowledge For Men
ChatGPT continues to be one of the fastest-growing services ever – The Verge
41 seconds is all you need to learn how to keep a choking baby from dying – Upworthy
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Confession of the Day
I cannot stop having sex with my ex-wife.
My(26M) ex-wife (30F) and I have been divorced for a month now. I have moved houses, and changed my phone number, and somehow she still winds up at my door at odd hours of the night. I still get nudes and sexts from her in the daytime just like I would have when we were together.
We have hooked up six times since the divorce, and honestly it’s been the best sex I’ve ever had in my life. I hate how much I enjoy it. I hate how good it feels to be with her. I hate myself for letting her stay in my life. I hate that I can’t stop myself from giving in to her.
She stayed the night last night. I woke up holding her, just like I used to do when we were married. She’s there, laying in my bed right now, still sleeping, like she didn’t go crazy and try to make my life miserable. I fucked her like I still loved her last night, and I honestly don’t know how to feel about her anymore.
I’m so tired.
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An Easy Way To Meet People Without Using Dating Apps
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The digital dating landscape is a paradox of choice. The seemingly endless options can lead to a perpetual search for someone better, fostering a culture of disposability and a sense that no connection is truly irreplaceable. This abundance of choice might seem liberating, but it can also be profoundly draining. The cycle of swiping, chatting, and experiencing fleeting interactions can erode self-worth, as individuals may start to wonder why connections fizzle out or why they can’t seem to find that elusive ‘spark’.
Moreover, the curated personas on dating apps can exacerbate feelings of worthlessness. Users often present an idealized version of themselves, which can lead to unrealistic expectations and a sense of inadequacy when comparing oneself to others’ highlight reels. The silent rejections—unmatched, unanswered messages, ghosting—can feel personal, even though they are a common experience in the online dating realm.
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