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Author: Theodore Lee

Theodore Lee is the editor of Caveman Circus. He strives for self-improvement in all areas of his life, except his candy consumption, where he remains a champion gummy worm enthusiast. When not writing about mindfulness or living in integrity,  you can find him hiding giant bags of sour patch kids under the bed.
Advice Column

“I’m going to be alone forever”

I’m 31 and I’ve never had a girlfriend. I’ve never had sex, never kissed anyone, and never even been on a date. I don’t think I’m attractive enough for a woman to approach me, so the only way anything would happen is if I made the first move.

But I won’t. I have social anxiety, and the thought of being judged or making someone uncomfortable feels unbearable. I don’t think I’ll ever get past that.

I don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t even seem to make friends online. People I talk to just forget about me. It makes me feel invisible.

At this point, I just hate myself.

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Photos from Tehran, where daily life continues despite war – AP News

27 Nostalgic Photos That Just Punched You Right in the Feelings – Ned Hardy

It’s one of those purchases that turns cooking into an excuse to hang outside, with a huge flat top that lets you crank out everything from breakfast to burgers fast—and cleanup is surprisingly easy with a quick scrape and wipe while it’s still warm. – Amazon

Woman, 22, Worried She Was a Pedophile. Then She Was Diagnosed with a Rare Form of OCD: ‘I Thought I Was a Monster’ – People

The “rawdogging” trend: A new term for an ancient practice – Big Think

Welcome to ‘New Russia’: How the Kremlin is remaking occupied Ukraine – Reuters

How a cheese sandwich at the Masters is still $1.50 in an era of price hikes – NPR

Today’s Internet Rabbit Hole – Ned Hardy

They’re an easy, no-fuss way to get a quick energy boost during a workout, hike or long day, with small, chewable beans that are surprisingly convenient and not messy to deal with. – Amazon

How to Increase Your Squat – Archive.ph

10 Psychological Perspectives On Sexual Fetishes – Listverse

SpaceX bankers game plan to blunt post-IPO selling tsunami – Semafor

6 Key Signs of an Emotionally Unavailable Partner, According to Therapists – Time

Men Are Buying Hacking Tools to Use Against Their Wives and Friends – Archive.ph

AI has replaced work for 20% of full-time employees in the U.S., survey says – NBC News

Finances

I Managed Over $100 Million as a Financial Advisor. Here’s What I Wish Everyone Knew About Retirement.

I spent more than a decade as a financial advisor managing over $100 million in client assets. I’ve helped hundreds of people retire. I’ve also seen the industry fail people—badly—through hidden fees, misaligned incentives, and unnecessarily confusing products. Recently I sat down to answer questions from everyday people about their money, and the experience reminded me just how lost most people feel when it comes to retirement. So I want to share the most important things I’ve learned, as plainly as I can.

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Advice Column

“My wife thinks we’re soulmates”

I’ve been with my wife for nine years and married for six. She’s kind, loyal, sweet, and smart. She loves me deeply and believes we were meant to find each other. I treat her well. I’ve never cheated. We laugh together, and on paper, we look like a perfect couple.

But if I’m honest, I’ve never been in love with her.

I care about her, but when we met, I was heartbroken. She came into my life when I needed stability and comfort, and I confused that with love. I kept telling myself my feelings would grow, but they never did.

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“My husband’s family won’t help us financially”

I’m married, and my husband is the youngest in his family. Recently, my parents generously gave us 600k to help buy a home, and I’m really grateful. In our culture, it’s common for both families to contribute, so there’s usually a sense of balance.

Because of that, my parents hoped my husband’s family might contribute around 200 to 300k, especially since my husband will also be on the title. They felt this would create fairness and also protect me.

When this came up, my father in law told me directly that he doesn’t have money for retirement and that I shouldn’t ask him for money. His tone felt harsh and dismissive, which hurt.

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Bitcoin’s creator has hidden behind the pseudonym Satoshi Nakamoto for 17 years. But a trail of clues buried deep in crypto lore led to a 55-year-old computer scientist named Adam Back. – Archive.ph

20 Fascinating Photos Collected From History – Ned Hardy

There’s a certain peace of mind that comes from having a tool designed for a very specific worst-case situation, even if it just ends up sitting unused for years. – Amazon

How Trump went from threatening Iran’s annihilation to agreeing to a two-week ceasefire in a day – PBS

A Closer Look at Iran’s 10 Demands—and Which the U.S. Might Accept – WSJ

Why Are People Injecting Themselves with Peptides? – New Yorker

Michael Jackson’s estate spent $15 million on biopic reshoots to remove child abuse allegations from ending, report claims – Far Out Magazine

Ozempic just got cheap enough to change the world – Archive.ph

26 Doomscrolling Memes That Perfectly Capture the Spiral – Ned Hardy

It’s not particularly flashy or innovative, but it does its job consistently well, which ends up mattering more in everyday cooking than anything else. – Amazon

The Ideal Time to Drink Coffee for Productivity (and When to Stop) – Wired

MLB’s new strike zone system is a hater’s dream—and watching umpires confront their mistakes is a source of unbridled joy – The Ringer

Jayne Mansfield at Home: 25 Photos of the Icon’s Pink Palace, Heart-Shaped Pool, and Family Life – Architectural Digest

The secret, never-before-used CIA tool that helped find airman downed in Iran: ‘If your heart is beating, we will find you’ – NY Post

3 conversation hacks to avoid the awkwardness of having nothing to say – Upworthy

Real Color Photos of Hawaii From the 1950s That Feel Like a Time Machine – Linkiest