Advice Column

I’ve been married for almost six years to a woman I truly love and respect. We have a good relationship—solid friendship, intimacy, shared goals. But lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming or fantasizing about other women.

Sometimes it’s someone I know, sometimes just random strangers or old flings. The thoughts aren’t obsessive or constant, but when they show up, I feel guilty. Like I’m betraying her, even if it’s just in my head.

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Hey, how do I stop being so judgmental and thinking I’m better than other people—when I know I’m really not? I realize this is an issue for me and I’ve tried to just ignore it, but I can’t. Sometimes I feel like I’m better than everyone, but other times I feel like I’m the worst person ever. It’s this constant back and forth between feeling superior and feeling inferior, and I don’t know where it comes from. It’s been this way since I was a kid, and I want to change before I get any older (I’m a teen right now).

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My daughter is 16. She’s sharp, well-liked, and walks into a room like she owns it. And sometimes, I feel this ugly resentment toward her.

Not because she’s done anything unforgivable—she hasn’t. But every little thing she does reminds me of her mother.

Her mom left when our daughter was little. She lied to me for years, made promises she never kept, and when she finally walked out, she barely looked back. She moved across the country with someone new, leaving our daughter behind with me, but still managing to control the narrative—making herself the victim to anyone who would listen.

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Most days I don’t even look at myself in the mirror because I hate aging. I wish I could just look like I did at 18 forever.

It’s been a rough few years and I just wanna be happy with aging. I see older adults living life and I want to be happy like them.

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I’ve (22m) been dating this girl (24f) for about two months, and things are great when we’re together in person—we get along well and complement each other. But when it comes to texting, it’s pretty rough.

She’s told me she’s not great at texting, and I appreciate her honesty, but it still kind of stings not hearing from her for long stretches. I’m the type who loves those good morning/good night texts and sharing little updates throughout the day, but with her, sometimes it’s a week or more before I get a reply.

Occasionally she’ll text back once a day, but usually it’s just to confirm plans. I know she’s busy, and I feel guilty even wanting to bring it up, but I’ve been feeling pretty lonely because of it.

How do I talk to her about this without coming off as needy?

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I’m (24F) having trouble with my parents and cant do anything on my own. They dont want me to move out because rent is expensive and a money sink when we have our own house but she controls everything I do.

I have a long distance boyfriend (28M) of 2 years and we plan on tying the knot in the near future. He’s visiting me next month but my parents dont know about him so I told my parents I wanted to do a “staycation” to unwind.

They said yes but they said they will visit me everyday and use the amenities there. I dont know what to do since they wont leave me alone. I help pay the bills, I have a job, and a degree. I pay for all of my things and treat them out occasionally so what am I missing?

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A few weeks ago, I met this absolutely amazing woman. She’s stunning—like, “knocks the wind out of me when she walks in the room” stunning. But it’s not just looks—she’s smart, hilarious, the kind of person I can talk to for hours without getting bored. I can’t stop thinking about her. I’m head over heels, and that almost never happens to me.

Here’s the problem: she’s not single. She’s in a relationship. Still, the chemistry between us is intense, and it feels like she’s just as into me. She’s hinted (okay, more than hinted) that she wants to see me, even though she’s still with her boyfriend. It’s pretty clear she wants to cheat with me.

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My fiancé has all guy friends, and I’ve noticed since the beginning that they all kinda treat him like the pack mule and really just like the little b of the group. It sounds bad but it’s true.

They expect him to do whatever they want, when they hang out, he’s expected to always bring drinks and gets ragged on when he doesn’t (even if they never bring drinks).

They make mean comments about him to his face under the guise of “jokes” and he’s even told me sometimes they hurt his feelings.

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