Advice Column

He’s the nicest guy I’ve been with and I love him, but I cannot stop thinking about this aspect of him. We are in our mid/late 20s, and I feel like we are in different stages of our lives. I work in a professional setting and am pursuing my masters, while he is unemployed and hasn’t received his degree.

He tells me he wants the same things as I do (good job, stable finances, travel, etc), but he does nothing to achieve it. I have to push him to even think about applying to jobs since he keeps promising he will look, but never follows through and pushes the date with an excuse. He always has an excuse with why he won’t apply for an entry level office job.

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This has been going on for a few years and has gotten more blatant overtime. It makes me question our friendship a little. I sorta understand, because he is focusing his life 100% on his career and his career field is something that I’m also interested in.

But at the same time I feel a bit exploited/used. He only asks me for business advice. At this point I feel like I should just withhold information.

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About a month ago an old friend of my fiance came and told me my daughter might not be mine (1yr). She told me my fiance confessed to her shortly after finding out she was pregnant that it might not be mine because at the time she had been sleeping with one other guy.

Now that we are going to get married soon, she just couldn’t keep this to herself and felt the need to tell me. Well I obviously didn’t take the news well, because everything she said contradicted the person I knew for 5 years, faithful, honest and loving.

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I’ve been married for 6 years and have been cheating on my wife with my ex-gf for a good chunk of our marriage. My wife found out a few years ago, we went to counseling and I stopped the affair for about a year.

One day I got an itch and started talking to my ex again, one thing led to another, and I ended up cheating again for another few years. My wife found out again and she almost divorced me for about the 3rd time in our marriage.

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I caught my wife sexting with another man on a secret TIkTOK account she uses. In 2014 I caught her sexting an old manager / boyfriend and it took a lot out of me. I truly loved her and felt betrayed and lied to.

My wife did everything she could to keep this “fling” hidden. I came home early and could hear her saying sexual things and I just stood in the living room and picked up what I could.

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I’m 22 and sleeping with a 50 year old woman and I can’t stop. I know how wrong it is, but I’ve never experienced anything like it. She’s been married longer than I’ve been alive. I’ve been actively pursuing her since I was 18 and this year it finally happened.

On top of all of this I’m currently talking to one of the most amazing women I’ve ever met. She’s so perfect and everything I could want in a woman. She’s my age. I’ve always been so rough around the edges. Such a hard person to accept and love. She does though.

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