Advice Column

My fiancée and I are getting married in August. My parents separated when I was 10 after my dad cheated on my mom with a woman named Claire, who he is still with 16 years later.

After the separation, my dad stayed very involved and co parented well. My parents were actually on decent terms, but my mom had one firm boundary. My brother and I were never to meet Claire. I didn’t meet her until I was 20, when I started spending more time with my dad during the pandemic.

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I’m short, I have been specifically told that I was too short to date multiple times. I’m fairly average in looks but I am short. The vast majority of girls won’t date a short guy unfortunately, all I’ve heard from girls is “tall dark and handsome” I’ve never met a girl who preferred to date short guys and only met a couple who didn’t mind.

Being short is one of the most unattractive traits a guy can have and people will always remind you of that with jokes, insults, mocking and condescending comments.

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About a year ago, my wife confessed that she gave a guy oral sex on a night out. We have looser boundaries than most couples, but this clearly crossed them. There’s a small chance her drink was spiked, but we don’t know for sure.

We went to marriage therapy, and I decided to stay for the sake of our family. I don’t feel like I can forgive it, though, because that would make it feel like it was okay.

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My husband is planning a world tour with his friend. It would be his first time doing something like this. We have three young kids, ages 8, 5, and 2, and I would be home with them while he travels.

He says he doesn’t want to travel with kids because it’s too hectic, so instead of planning something for us as a family, he wants to do this trip without us. He keeps explaining that he’ll be using points for everything, so he’s not technically spending money on flights or hotels. He wants to fly first class because the points are expiring this year and he wants to experience it.

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I’m 30 and my boyfriend is 31. We’ve been together for six years and living together for five. Before we dated, we were friends for two years. I love him a lot. He’s my best friend and I’ve always seen a future with him.

From the very beginning, I’ve been clear that I don’t want kids. I don’t hate kids, I just don’t want to be a mom. I’ve never hidden that. It’s something I’ve talked about openly, even with our friend group.

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A few days ago, I had a job event where I had to go alone and spend the night away. My girlfriend mentioned she might have a girls’ night while I was gone but wasn’t too sure yet.

Anyway, the next day after my event, I texted her that I was driving home. She didn’t respond because her phone was dead and she was still sleeping.

When I was almost home, she called me and asked where I was. After telling her I was almost home, she informed me that there were three guys I had never met or heard of at our place and that I should come in and meet them.

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