Is Having Children Worth It?
There’s a certain question that follows people like a ghost with unfinished business. You don’t ask it out loud. You don’t bring it up at barbecues or family reunions. You just carry it around in the quieter corners of your mind, pulling it out when you’re too tired to be productive but too restless to sleep: Is having kids worth it?
I don’t mean in the abstract. I mean you. Your life. The only one you’ll ever get.
The Middle Class is Bleeding Out, One Tiny Wound at a Time
It’s not dramatic. It doesn’t announce itself. There’s no single moment where the middle class collapses. It just gradually erodes. Quietly. Relentlessly. One expense at a time.
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Poll of the Day
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Creator of AI Actress Tilly Norwood Responds to Backlash: “She Is Not a Replacement for a Human Being” – Hollywood Reporter
The Last Photos of 5 Titans of History – Ned Hardy
They’re pretty much as good as flossing except with a lot less hassle, and you can still do other things while using them. – Amazon
Would You Work ‘996’? The Hustle Culture Trend Is Taking Hold in Silicon Valley. – NYT
Raw Vegan Influencer Karolina Krzyzak Dies After Alleged Eating Disorder Struggle – The Cut / Archive
How the Mets lost their groove: Inside baseball’s biggest collapse – Archive
Video game maker Electronic Arts to be acquired by Saudi Arabia and Jared Kushner; and taken private for $55 billion – ABC News
28 Memes That Understand Your Life Better Than Your Therapist – Ned Hardy
A laser level lets you get perfectly straight and accurate lines in seconds, making everything from hanging shelves to installing tile faster, easier, and mistake-free. – Amazon
A look at OpenAI’s tangled web of dealmaking – CNBC
Dads need love, too: the men creating ‘a vulnerable space’ to be with their kids, and each other – The Guardian
I Used ChatGPT to Resurrect My Dead Father – Archive
A-list comedians face backlash for performing at Saudi Arabian festival – NBC News
35 Times People Had The Worst Luck During Their Vacation – Linkiest
How Finland continues its reign as the happiest country on Earth – CBS News
The Dumping Grounds
Poll of the Day
People who cheated on their partner, how much do you regret it?
My husband admits he purposely tries to “keep me humble.”
My husband of one year admits he purposely tries to “keep me humble.”
Those were his exact words. He refuses to compliment me or build me up in any way, because he’s convinced that if he does, I’ll somehow become arrogant or delusional about myself.
What really set me off happened earlier today. I was in the middle of changing clothes when he looked at me and said I looked “very unappetizing.” He even compared me to food that looks gross but tastes okay. I still don’t know what that was even supposed to mean — and honestly, I don’t think there’s a way to make that sound respectful.
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“My husband gives me the silent treatment whenever we have a conflict”
My husband gives me the silent treatment whenever we have a conflict. It doesn’t matter if he’s mad at me or if I’m upset about something—his go-to reaction is to shut down and ignore me.
We’ve been together for 13 years, and this has been his pattern from the start. After four or five days of silence, I usually end up begging him to talk to me. Most of the time, the only thing that gets him to engage is when I say I’m done and can’t take it anymore. Then suddenly, he’ll talk.
Last year, we separated for five months. I told him I couldn’t live like this anymore. When we got back together, things seemed better. At first, during conflict, he’d go quiet for a couple of hours—but he’d eventually come talk to me. Now we’re back to square one. It’s day four of silence again, and I don’t know what to do.
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How to Fight (Well) in a Relationship
Let’s just get one thing straight: fighting in a relationship isn’t a sign of failure. It’s a sign you’re two human beings with different brains, different baggage, and different expectations trying to do life together without killing each other. So if you’re expecting some Disney-fied, conflict-free, unicorn fart version of love—grow up.