“Why should I be a good person?”
Context: I’d say I’m a pretty nice person, try to be empathetic to everybody even “mean” people, I keep a policy of putting myself in other peoples positions, etc.
Recently though, I’ve been thinking about giving up on this, feel like people who are assholes do so well from being assholes, and I don’t remember what was the reason which made me choose this empathetic path in the first place, it could be because I’m drunk right now.
Anyway I’m hoping someone can shed some light on the issue, and help me remember why it’s worth being a good and empathetic person, instead of being egotistical and self minded.
Confessions of a Professional “Hatchet Man”
I’m a Workforce Optimization Consultant. That’s the official title, anyway. Unofficially? I’m the guy companies bring in when they need to fire people—but don’t have the guts to do it themselves. It’s not glamorous. It’s not noble. But it’s honest work, and I’m good at it.
Most people think this job is like being a character from Up In The Air or Office Space. They picture George Clooney in a crisp suit, gliding through airports, delivering bad news with a tragic smile. There’s a bit of that—plenty of travel, endless airports, muted ties. But what they don’t show you is the weird, cold calculus behind it all. Or the fact that you’re there because someone else couldn’t stomach the job.
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“I gave up on dating and started seeing escorts”
After five years of putting myself out there and getting nowhere, I’ve finally stopped trying to date. I went all in—I approached women respectfully, tried to be thoughtful and self-aware, and forced myself to treat each rejection as something impersonal, just part of the process. But after more than a hundred rejections, the “don’t take it personally” mantra just stopped working. The frustration started eating away at me, and eventually, the pain turned into self-hate.
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Why Early Colonoscopies Save Lives
Let’s talk about colon cancer for a second. Yeah, I know—it’s not anyone’s idea of a fun topic. But if you’re old enough to be thinking about screening, or you care about someone who is, you owe it to yourself to really understand this: colon cancer is one of the most preventable cancers out there. And most people have no clue just how much power they have to stop it before it ever becomes a threat.
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A Few Photos To Remind You That Life Is Beautiful – Ned Hardy
If you want to quit smoking or vaping, this is the only book you need to read! – Amazon
Drones, AI and Robot Pickers: Meet the Fully Autonomous Farm – WSJ
The 11 Best Things to Do in Los Angeles (and Top Things to Avoid) – Fodors
The Step-Up In Cost Basis And Its Relation To The Estate Tax Threshold – Financial Samurai
Rise of the Machines: Inside Hollywood’s AI Civil War – Hollywood Reporter
Eight Illegal and Unenforceable Rules Your HOA Might Try to Sneak Past You – Life Hacker
What does it mean to be happy? It might heavily depend on the culture you come from – Upworthy
27 Throwback Photos Every ’80s and ’90s Kid Will Recognize – Ned Hardy
You should definitely get a wet/dry shop vac—it’s a lifesaver for cleaning up floods, spills, sawdust, and all sorts of messes around the house or garage and is great for vauuming the car – Amazon
The 7 Most Famous Gunslingers, Criminals and Cowboys in the Old West – Linkiest
Mapped: The Richest Person in Every U.S. State – Visual Capitalist
Now Is a Very Good Time to Buy a Used EV. Here’s Why – WIRED
Fyre Festival sells troubled brand for just $245K on eBay – NBC
The Dumping Grounds
“I’m married, but fantasize about other women”
I’ve been married for almost six years to a woman I truly love and respect. We have a good relationship—solid friendship, intimacy, shared goals. But lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming or fantasizing about other women.
Sometimes it’s someone I know, sometimes just random strangers or old flings. The thoughts aren’t obsessive or constant, but when they show up, I feel guilty. Like I’m betraying her, even if it’s just in my head.
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What’s It Like To Be A ‘Salaryman’ In Japan
When people picture Japan, they often imagine cherry blossoms, bullet trains, or the glowing lights of Tokyo. But for anyone who’s lived and worked here, nothing is more iconic—or more quietly powerful—than the army of men in dark suits flooding the city every morning: the salaryman. The term itself is borrowed from English, but in Japan, a “salaryman” (pronounced sa-ra-ri-man) means much more than just someone who draws a paycheck. He’s a full-time, white-collar company employee, often hired right out of university, who devotes himself—body and soul—to one company for life. More than a job, it’s an identity, a social class, and for many, a way of life so all-encompassing it can be hard to separate the man from the company colors he wears.
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How to Be Rejection-Proof (Without Becoming Bitter or Creepy)
Rejection sucks. Whether it’s getting ghosted after a great date, not hearing back from a job, or feeling invisible in a crowd, it’s a gut punch. For some of us, rejection happens so often, it starts to feel like an identity: “I’m just not the type people choose.” And when you add today’s awkward dating world, where everyone seems to be hiding behind screens or terrified of crossing a line, it’s easy to start believing the problem is you.
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