“So this is it, huh?”
I’m nearly 40, divorced. I live with my mom, in a kind of mutually beneficial arrangement- I pay the mortgage, which is like…. 1000 dollars a month…. And I don’t have to pay Los Angeles rent. But she needs me there because otherwise she can’t keep the house.
So, I’m working. The job is just a job. Pays well but not well enough to live in LA and pay rent and have headroom. I can’t really leave. I also just do not care about my work and I’m phoning it in. And the world is falling apart.
“\What’s the best retirement strategy at 60 with no savings, no assets and low social security?”
I’m facing a tough future with Social Security—looks like I’ll get about $650 a month at age 67, and it doesn’t seem possible to raise it much. I have 32 years of work history, three zero-income years, and nothing to show except some small self-employment income.
“I can’t please my wife”
I’m at a loss. My wife (31F) and I (35M) have been together five years and have two young kids. Early on, I caught her sexting and talking to men online. She’s always had kinks she was embarrassed about, which she now explores with sex workers on OnlyFans. I tried to set boundaries but eventually allowed it, figuring at least she wasn’t hiding anything. I’ve done everything I can to fulfill her fantasies, but she constantly critiques me. My confidence is shot. Every other partner I’ve had was satisfied, but nothing I do is ever good enough for her.
How Quitting Porn Brought Me Back to My Marriage
I stopped watching porn, and at first it felt like the smallest decision in the world. It wasn’t the result of a crusade or some kind of rock-bottom moment. It was more like realizing you’ve been listening to the same song on repeat for years, and one day, you just don’t want to hear it anymore. You get up, turn off the music, and sit in the new quiet. It’s not dramatic, but it’s different.
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How Meditation Creates Space for Thoughtful Reactions
There’s a moment—a beat, a pause—that can change everything. It happens just after someone cuts you off in traffic, or your child shatters your favorite mug, or a colleague sends an infuriating email. That moment is tiny, almost invisible. But it’s in that space, that sliver of time, where our most important choices are made.
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Linkage
How Victims of Online Fraud Get Hit Twice—By Scammers and the IRS – Shield and Fortify
Feeling Nostalgic? 27 Photos From the 80s and 90s That Will Bring It All Back – Ned Hardy
If you want to treat yourself, get this. Its totally worth it and will be useful everyday of your life – Amazon
China Unleashes Hackers Against Its Friend Russia, Seeking War Secrets – NY Times
U.S. will review social media for foreign student visa applications – NPR
How Much Energy Does AI Use? The People Who Know Aren’t Saying – Wired
Visualized: Global Inflation Projections in 2025 and 2026 – Visual Capitalist
Why Israel wants US bunker busters to hit Iran’s Fordow nuclear site – ALJ
BMW Invented What Comes After Carbon Fiber, And It’ll Be in Your Next M Car – The Drive
Lets Take A Stroll Through The Art Museum – Ned Hardy
If you need to destroy a ton of sensitive documents without the hassle, this shreds up to 120 sheets at once, works quietly, and turns your paperwork into confetti in under two minutes—just load, close, and let it do the work – Amazon
10 Popular Songs That Are Often Misunderstood – Listverse
People in the happiest relationships do 5 things on weekends—that most neglect – CNBC
How Do You Build a $500 Million Coffee Chain? By Selling Matcha to Teens – WSJ
Here’s How Koenigsegg’s ‘Dark Matter’ Electric Motor Makes 800 HP – The Drive
David Lynch Auction: Director’s Chair Sells for $91,000; Highest Sale Is ‘Ronnie Rocket’ Scripts for $195,000 – Variety
The Dumping Grounds
Confessions of a 65-Year-Old Male Virgin
If there’s a manual for how to live a life, mine must have fallen behind the bookcase sometime in the Ford administration. Or maybe I just skipped the chapter everyone else seemed to get—the one about sex, love, and all the normal rites of passage that people move through like stations on a well-lit train line.
“I’ve been the side chick for over five years.”
I’ve been the side chick for over five years.
I didn’t even know he had another girlfriend until about two and a half years in. By then, I was already head over heels—lost my virginity to him, thought I’d marry him. I was young, he was older, and I fell hard. When I found out, I couldn’t bring myself to walk away. So I stayed.
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