“I’m stuck paying for my sibling’s bad life choices”
My younger brother (29M) has always been a disaster. He’s creative and “finding himself,” but he can’t hold a job for more than a year, racks up credit card debt, and bounces between short-term apartments and random “business ideas.” My parents constantly made excuses—“He’s got a good heart,” “He just needs more time”—and let him get away with everything.
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“Boyfriend doesn’t want to propose after 8 years”
I’m a 30F who’s been with my 39M boyfriend for 8 years. We don’t want kids and have both always agreed on wanting to get married. We’ve lived together for 4.5 years. I brought up getting engaged at the 4-year mark, but he said it wasn’t the right time due to work and wanting to marry within a year of getting engaged. Each year since, I’ve brought up engagement, and he always has a reason to delay—work, timing, pressure about the proposal, etc.
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“I’m pregnant and want to date again”
I am a F (39) who became pregnant in my last relationship due to birth control failure. That relationship has since ended, and I am ready to enter the dating scene again. I’m not getting any younger, after all! And admittedly it would be nice to not go through this pregnancy and new baby phase alone.
I just don’t know if there’s any point in putting myself out there while I’m still pregnant… should I wait until after the baby is born and recovery is finished? Or would you date a woman who was already pregnant when you met?
Courage Is Not the Absence of Fear
Listen, we’ve got this whole thing backwards about courage. Somewhere along the way, we started believing that brave people don’t get scared. That heroes wake up feeling bulletproof and confident, ready to take on the world without a tremor in their voice or sweat on their palms.
That’s garbage.
Real courage isn’t about not being afraid. Real courage is being absolutely terrified and doing the right thing anyway. It’s your heart pounding out of your chest, your hands shaking, your mind screaming at you to run – and you plant your feet and stay.
The Power of the “Best Friend Test”
We all have that inner voice, the one that whispers opinions, judgments, and sometimes, harsh criticisms.
But how often do we stop to consider how we would treat a friend speaking those same words?
The “Best Friend Test” offers a simple yet powerful tool to challenge negative self-talk and cultivate greater kindness towards yourself.
Linkage
Why Feeling “Behind” Makes You Easy Prey for Scams and Bad Investments – Shield and Fortify
A Damn Fine Collection of Fascinating Photos – Ned Hardy
Yes, you need a mattress protector—it protects against spills, accidents, stains, dust mites, and allergens – Amazon
What the Heck Is a Time Crystal, and Why Are Physicists Obsessed With Them? – Popular Science
The Worst Thing to Say to Someone Who’s Depressed – TIME
The Best Way To Determine If You Have Enough Money – Financial Samurai
Hype or helpful? The truth behind devices that monitor your blood sugar – NPR
The U.S.-China leverage game – Axios
How to Ensure Your Dishwasher Outlives Its Standard Life Expectancy – Eater
3 Big Questions From Psychology, Answered – Ned Hardy
This is the perfect electric toothbrush to take with you while traveling – Amazon
The Dad Instinct: How Fathers Prepare Kids for the Wider World – Art of Manliness
10 Practical Answers to 10 Powerful Questions – Darius Foroux
Wait, We’re “Fibermaxxing” Now? Here’s How Much Fiber You Actually Need – PS
Visualizing America’s $1.8 Trillion Federal Deficit – Visual Capitalist
The Most Under-Rated Super Villains – Linkiest
The Dumping Grounds
“How do I rebuild trust with my wife?”
Almost two years ago, my (35M) marriage was on the brink of divorce after my wife (34F) had an affair. She moved out nearly a year ago, leaving me and the kids, and her affair was my breaking point.
Recently, things between us have improved, and we’ve even discussed her moving back in. But I’ve made it clear: rebuilding trust is key, and she can’t have any contact with her affair partner.
“Bestfriend didn’t invite me to his wedding”
I (28M) wasn’t invited to my best friend’s (28M) wedding, even though I was one of the first people he told about his proposal. We’ve always been close—trips, golf, daily workouts, group chats—and there’s never been any drama. Our friend group is five people; everyone else got invited except me, even though the guest list is 150 and includes some people they barely know.
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