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What Does It Mean To Put Yourself Out There?
I want to talk about a phrase that gets thrown around a lot – “putting yourself out there.” It’s something we often hear when it comes to dating, socializing, or pursuing our goals. But what does it really mean?
Putting yourself out there means being vulnerable. It’s about exposing yourself to the possibility of rejection, failure, or disappointment. When you put yourself out there, you’re taking a risk. You’re saying, “Here I am, flaws and all. Take it or leave it.”
“Don’t ignore your 401k like I did”
I’m 53 and just had my financial wake-up call. Despite making six figures for the last decade, I have less than $200k saved for retirement. Why? Because I spent my 30s and 40s convinced I had “more important things” to do with my money.
I maxed out my house budget because “real estate is the best investment.” I leased new cars every 3 years because “I work hard and deserve nice things.” I took lavish vacations because “you only live once.” Meanwhile, I contributed just enough to my 401k to get the employer match (3%) and thought I was being responsible.
Honor Your Parents—But Build With Your Wife
There’s a line a lot of people like to quote from religious texts and cultural traditions: “Honor your father and mother.” And that’s good advice. Really. They raised you, fed you, taught you (hopefully), and shaped parts of who you are.
But here’s the part no one says out loud: you honor your parents by growing up—not by staying under their thumb.
Linkage
Use Stock Market Downturns To Make Your Kids Millionaires – Financial Samurai
27 Memes That Will Help You Understand Prison Wives Better – Ned Hardy
This grill cleaner uses firefighter-grade fabric and steam power to blast away tough grime, making it the safest and most effective way to keep your grill spotless – Amazon
‘It’s Like a War Zone’: What Happened When Portland Decriminalized Fentanyl – Rolling Stone
Mississippi Woman Sentenced to Prison for Unnatural Intercourse with Dog – Slate Report
How Long Does It Take to Build Muscle? Here’s the Truth – GQ
The problem with our protein obsession — and 4 easy ways to get the perfect amount – Business Insider
How Animals Understand Death – Nautilus
How to be a resilient, adaptable leader – Psyche
What’s It Like To Be a Prison Wife – Ned Hardy
A hanging toiletry bag keeps everything in one place, saves counter space in small bathrooms, and makes it easy to find what you need without unpacking – Amazon
Six Tax Breaks That Get Better With Age – Kiplinger
7 Tips for Making Your Best Pot of Dried Beans, Even If It’s Your First – Bon Appetit
What BYD’s massive new ship reveals about its business – Fast Co
10 Real Ways Scientists Think Humans Could Evolve Next – Listverse
Nine Changes You Need to Make to Your Google Security and Privacy Settings – Life Hacker
The Dumping Grounds
“Breaking up with my fiancee because of his mom”
Last month, I ended my engagement and a four-year relationship because I could no longer handle the way his mother treated me.
She regularly made cruel comments about my career and my body. Any time he showed me even simple affection or said something kind, she’d respond with disgust or throw in a passive-aggressive jab like, “Do you really have to do that?” It was clear she didn’t think I was good enough for her son — and she didn’t hide it. More than once, she told me directly. I’ll never forget her saying, “Mama will always be number one.”
“My girlfriend keeps giving me “boyfriend” tests”
My girlfriend (30F) keeps giving me (38M) “boyfriend” tests. We’ve been together almost 4 months (not long I know).
About a month ago my gf started doing boyfriend tests on me. It started with her telling me she wanted a weekend alone. So I gave her space, while making myself available if she wanted company. I failed that test because I didn’t surprise visit her.
Those Eight Words Can Transform Your Relationship
Let’s be honest — you’re going to disagree with your partner. A lot. Sometimes about little things (where the shoes go). Sometimes about big things (how to raise the kids, how to handle money, how often to see your families). Disagreement is not the issue.
The issue is how you handle it.
The Quiet Power of Assuming Positive Intent
Relationships — the real kind, the messy kind, the forever kind — aren’t undone by grand betrayals most of the time. They’re worn down, day by day, by small assumptions. Dangerous ones.
Maybe you know the feeling.
She forgets to tell you about a school event until the last minute. He criticizes how you loaded the dishwasher. She reminds you — again — to lock the front door, and it lands like a slap, not a suggestion.