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Author: Theodore Lee

Theodore Lee is the editor of Caveman Circus. He strives for self-improvement in all areas of his life, except his candy consumption, where he remains a champion gummy worm enthusiast. When not writing about mindfulness or living in integrity,  you can find him hiding giant bags of sour patch kids under the bed.
Advice Column

“I feel inferior when people younger than me have houses”

I’m 37 so dead center millennial. I’m happy for anyone who is able to get a house who wants one, but my wife (35) and I have been living together and working for almost 13 years and have since been unable to crawl out of the eternal renting hole.

When I hear someone younger than me has a house I feel like I failed somehow, or that I’m stupid for not chasing a house in my early 20s or something.

I don’t wish badly on anyone who gets their own house or anything. this is just about my own personal inadequacies.

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10 Guys Who Swore off Dating/Marriage/Relationships Reveal Why

1. No particular straw and I wouldn’t say “swore it off”. But a long time of bad experiences and rejection/failure (and subsequently reflecting on the pain that it caused me) just slowly but steadily made me arrive at the point where I’ve given up and have stopprd caring altogether.

I would probably compare it to an aspring musician who eventually came to the realization that he was never going to make it big, so he just moved on with his life and got a “normal” job.

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Life Advice

This One Question Will Change How You Spend Money Forever

Most people think they control their spending. They don’t.

They think their purchases are based on logic and personal preferences. They aren’t.

The truth is, most people spend money based on how they want to be perceived. They buy things not because they need them, but because they believe those things signal success, intelligence, or belonging.

Which is why there’s one simple question that can completely change the way you spend money:

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A Walk Through the 1990s: History Colorado’s Nostalgic Exhibit in Pictures – Rare Historical Photos

A Damn Fine Collection of Fascinating Photos – Ned Hardy

A really good bang for your buck, compact, high lumen flashlight – Amazon

JPMorgan Chase and Bank of America to match $1,000 U.S. contributions to employee ‘Trump accounts’ – CNBC

Want To Retire at 65? See if You Can Answer These Six Questions – Kiplinger

What Happens When Cheap Chinese EVs Hit Canada? Look At Australia. – InsideEVs

5 Easy Ways to Boost Your Gut Microbiome – SELF

24 Memes To Help You Get Over The Hump – Ned Hardy

Really nice set of work gloves that is easy on the wallet – Amazon

How hobbies went performative – and became a bigger wealth flex than a designer bag – The Independent

Bill Belichick’s Snub Is a Hall of Fame Embarrassment – The Ringer

China reveals 200-strong AI drone swarm that can be controlled by a single soldier – Tom’s Hardware

14 Heartwarming Stories That Prove Kindness Conquers All – Linkiest

The 12 Most Inflammatory Foods, According to Nutrition Experts – Real Simple

Advice Column

“Trying so hard not to fall into Red Pill”

Red Pill

My experiences with women have been terrible. No matter how much effort I put into putting myself out and listening to people’s advice, I’m always ending in the same outcome. Rejection. Rejection. Rejection. I’m pretty sure it’ll almost be 10 rejections in a row.

I just can’t understand why women don’t like me. I talk to them with the intention of getting to know them and be friendly and then I’ll show romantic interest. And as soon as I do, I’m rejected.

And I’m finding it really hard to believe height and race don’t matter. People will tell me “just go outside and you’ll see short/brown people in relationships” – but just cause you see it happen sometimes doesn’t mean it’s not insanely difficult.

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“Should I Leave My Wife?”

I love my wife, but I don’t know if I can live like this anymore. We’ve been married for over a year, and after moving in together, I discovered she had extreme cleanliness rules she hid while we were dating.

Everything from the outside is considered dirty—I have to undress in the entryway, shower immediately, disinfect my phone and glasses, and even retrieve my clothes in my underwear if I want to re-wear them. If I step outside, even briefly, I have to shower again. Groceries must be individually cleaned before being put away. If I drop something on the floor, it’s “contaminated” and either needs to be thrown away or heavily sanitized. She scrubs surfaces constantly and gets visibly distressed if something isn’t done “correctly.” Despite my efforts to comply, she gets angry if anything goes wrong, and she’s just as hard on herself.

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Life Advice

Take the Photo. You’ll Be Glad You Did.

Some people don’t like being in pictures. That’s fine. That’s normal. That’s a whole personality type now—let’s call it anti-photo syndrome. It’s a cocktail of self-consciousness, rebellion against vanity, a vague hatred of how you look in fluorescent lighting, and a philosophical distrust of the idea that anything meaningful can be captured in JPEG form. I get it. I’ve been that guy.

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