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Author: Theodore Lee

Theodore Lee is the editor of Caveman Circus. He strives for self-improvement in all areas of his life, except his candy consumption, where he remains a champion gummy worm enthusiast. When not writing about mindfulness or living in integrity,  you can find him hiding giant bags of sour patch kids under the bed.
Advice Column

“My friend cheated on her husband and don’t know how to move forward with the friendship.”

I (31F) have been friends with Sarah (31F) for over 20 years. We’ve been through a lot together—school, heartbreaks, careers, growing pains. She’s seen me at my worst, and I’ve seen her at hers. Neither of us has been perfect over the years, but recently… something shifted.

Sarah cheated on her husband.

They’ve since split, and the fallout has been painful to watch—especially because her ex, Alex, is someone our whole friend group loves and respects. He didn’t deserve what happened, and I can’t make sense of why she did it. She hasn’t reached out, and I haven’t either. I don’t even know what I’d say.

Read the rest: “My friend cheated on her husband and don’t know how to move forward with the friendship.”
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Linkage

24 People Who Bought a Home in L.A. in the Last 3 Years Reveal What They Do for a Living – Ned Hardy

Plug it into airplane headphone jacks and connect your AirPods — game-changer for frequent flyers. – Amazon

The Trump administration is expected to link autism to Tylenol use during pregnancy – NPR

These Baby Names Were Everywhere In the 90s. Now They’ve Almost Vanished. – Fatherly

I’ve studied over 200 kids—the ones with ‘exceptional’ social skills have parents who do 9 things early on – CNBC

TikTok reaches deal to keep operating in US under American ownership, White House says – USA Today

Visualized: U.S. Government Spending (1980 vs. Today) – Visual Capitalist

A Look At The Past. At The Way Things Used To Be – Ned Hardy

No more beard trimmings all over the sink — it catches everything. – Amazon

TLDR; the real reason we struggle reading entire books now, and 4 easy ways to fix it – Upworthy

12 Historical Figures Ranked By Roommate Potential – Ranker

The National Archives Is Displaying The Entire U.S. Constitution For The First Time Ever — Including The Rarely-Seen Fifth Page – Artnet

10 Must-Try Dishes That Capture the Essence of Istanbul – Saveur

Sorry, but You Probably Can’t “Heal” Your Partner’s Past. Here’s Why – SELF

The 10 Most Dangerous Hand-to-Hand Weapons Ever Used in Battle – SELF

Life Advice

Nobody’s Coming to Save You. And That’s the Good News.

You can feel it in the quiet moments.

When the noise dies down. When the distractions fade. When it’s just you and your thoughts.

That creeping realization that maybe… this is it. Maybe no one’s going to knock on your door with the golden answer. No mentor is going to arrive at just the right time. No system, no savior, no perfectly-timed breakthrough is going to hand you the life you imagined.

And that feels like a gut punch.

Read the rest: Nobody’s Coming to Save You. And That’s the Good News.
Links

Linkage

5 Historic Photos That Speak Volumes – Ned Hardy

If you want something to read that’ll rattle your soul and leave you questioning the nature of violence, evil, and humanity itself, this is a haunting masterpiece you won’t forget – Amazon

How to Check What Your Teen Boy Is Doing Online – WSJ

There’s a new, longer U.S. citizenship test with more history questions. Can you answer some? – NBC News

Sports Illustrated’s 2025 Power List: The 50 Most Influential Figures in Sports – SI

The Fall Of A Mogul: Dame Dash, Debt, And The Cost Of Ego – Essence

I regret to inform you Meta’s new smart glasses are the best I’ve ever tried – The Verge

D4vd Cancels Tour After Investigators Identify Body in His Tesla as Missing Teenage Girl – Pitchfork

23 Memes That Won The Internet This Week – Ned Hardy

This book changed how I think about focus and productivity, and it’ll help you get more meaningful stuff done without burning out. – Amazon

11 Forgotten Disney Movies That Deserve to Be Rediscovered – ScreenCrush

Nvidia to invest $5B in Intel and develop chips with onetime rival – NBC News

The 21 grams experiment that tried to weigh a human soul – Popular Science

The Six Keys to Positive Communication – Greater Good

The Top 10 greatest generals of all-time – Linkiest

Life Experiences

What It’s Like to Be a Nice Guy

I used to think I was one of the good ones.

The kind of guy who always tried to do the right thing. Who opened doors, never raised his voice, who went out of his way to avoid conflict. The guy who said “whatever you want” in relationships. The guy who stayed late to help at work, who fixed the toilet without being asked, who never forgot a birthday.

I wasn’t doing these things just to be nice. Or at least, I didn’t think I was. I was doing them because I believed—on some deep, unspoken level—that this was how the world worked. That if I was a good guy, if I followed the rules, if I made everyone happy, I’d be happy too.

That didn’t happen.

Read the rest: What It’s Like to Be a Nice Guy