Advice Column

I, 24M married my now wife 24F after 3.5 years of dating last week.

The first 3 years were amazing. we were so in love. but after 3 years or so, so starting maybe early in 2024, I began to feel like I wasn’t sure anymore about getting married. I definitely lost passion for her and to put it in short, I still loved her but wasn’t IN-LOVE with her if that makes sense. But I decided to not call it off (or really say anything about my feelings and just bottle them up) due to: 1) deeming it just ‘nerves’ / ‘cold feet’ 2) didn’t want to break her heart 3) so much time / money wasted 4) telling myself that the last 3 years were so amazing, it’ll go back to normal soon and this was just a slump.

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How long do I give him to “mourn” (aka stay up drinking and crying and laying in bed all day.) I’m getting up with all the kids, packing lunches, taking to school, missing meetings to get them to Dr appointments.) He did walk away with a really good severance so at least we’re not worried about the financial hit. But I can’t help but feeling like he’s a loser a$$hole for not helping me AT ALL after I’m too dealing with my husband loosing his job and acting like a 4th child.

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She eats fast food everyday. She won’t eat something unless there is sugar or fat in it. Her gut grows down over her pelvis. She’s 5’9” and she weighs 300 lbs. Our sex is like slapping two slugs together. She is in constant pain because her poor body can’t handle this much weight (feet, back, and concstant headaches).

I’m no fitness model either, I’m 6’5” and I weigh 210. I just want to help my wife without seeming…. I don’t know what the word is. Like an asshole. I know this causes her a lot of sadness and I just want to help my wife be happy.

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My (F27) husband (M34) and I have been married for little over a month, but we have been together for quite a while.

I love him and I want to grow old with him but he’s gross and it’s honestly bothering me. He’s not SUPER gross IMO but he’s gross enough. He farts 24/7, no joke. I do not have a break from smelling this man’s ass breath. I don’t have a problem with farts; I fart too but he’s averaging at least 100 rotten egg farts a day and he thinks it’s funny too.

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I’ve (29M) been dating my girlfriend (29F) for 3 years now. We have been living together for about 15 months. I feel that she is very clingy and overbearing, and it is getting to the point where I am questioning whether I can keep living with someone like this.

Constantly, throughout the day, she texts me and calls me, and I usually respond within 5 minutes. After being with her every hour of my day for the past week (besides when I work), she called me 6 times in the past 48 hours after going to her parent’s house for the weekend. If I am busy, doing my own thing, and don’t respond for 2-3 hours when I’m at work or just not checking my phone, she gets irritated and gives me attitude.

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Been dating this girl for about six months, she stays at my apartment maybe two or three days a week. She wasn’t here last night so this morning during breakfast I scroll through reels to find her something funny.. Start the day off right. Go to send her one and discover that her last name has changed to mine. We’re not married, not engaged, have barely even talked about marriage. I’m not even mad, but boy that had to have been the biggest cold chill to hit my spine since last winter.

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I’ve heard that to be fair, it should be by percentage. Whomever earns more, should be paying a higher percentage of each bill.

My husband (who earns quit a bit more than I do) wants it all 50/50.

When it comes to money, it’s more of a roommate situation in our marriage (despite discussing this after we got married two years ago).

He keeps all his financial accounts private. If he were to pass away, I’d be left in the dark caring for our kids.

He has previously stated if I don’t like how little money I have after bills are paid, I should go find a higher paying job (he’s kind of a jerk when it comes to things like this).

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For context we have been together for five years on and off most recently has been overall healthy and we have seemingly “matured” and “grown” from the past.

He is an avid hunter and has always been around guns and there are many guns in his home. I would go hunting with him and we never had any issues.

Over the past year he has started to carry a pistol around and has pointed it unloaded at me and of course I told him how that upset me and how it breaks the first rule of gun safety and he said “he would never put me in harms way” and he “knows what he is doing.” Then this would happen a few times until one day he pointed it at me loaded.

I don’t even remember my reaction because I was so scared why I stayed with him after this? Idk. But he of course said he was just kidding it wasn’t pointed at me.

He stopped doing it we moved on, now he has started to bring out his ar-15 which has now been pointed at me 3 times and his dog.

He made the excuse “I’m just testing the scope” and “there’s nothing in it I promise you”. is he a psychopath or just an immature 21 year old?

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So i decided to go to the dealership on my own at 20 years old to buy a bmw m340i and the car came out to 48k after taxes and everything but when i look at my loan amount its 70k did i mess up on this purchase?

I have a payment of 833 for 84 months and i make 60k a year after taxes and live with my parents.

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I’m filipina, and I’m proud to be one. I was hurt when my boyfriend said Filipinos are the ugliest of all the asians and he just laughed and didn’t understand why i was upset over that comment. He said “you’re the lucky pretty one you don’t look filipina”. like okay but you’re calling the rest of my family and ancestors ugly?

Then one day, he told me that I went from being a pretty japanese girl to a brown filipina because i got really tan. I got offended and he doesn’t understand why I’d be hurt by that comment. I got sad that he couldn’t see what he did wrong, and i cried for hours.

To me, he called another race beautiful while my race is just inferior. How would you react to this?

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