Category: Advice Column

I’m at a loss. My wife (31F) and I (35M) have been together five years and have two young kids. Early on, I caught her sexting and talking to men online. She’s always had kinks she was embarrassed about, which she now explores with sex workers on OnlyFans. I tried to set boundaries but eventually allowed it, figuring at least she wasn’t hiding anything. I’ve done everything I can to fulfill her fantasies, but she constantly critiques me. My confidence is shot. Every other partner I’ve had was satisfied, but nothing I do is ever good enough for her.

I’ve been the side chick for over five years.

I didn’t even know he had another girlfriend until about two and a half years in. By then, I was already head over heels—lost my virginity to him, thought I’d marry him. I was young, he was older, and I fell hard. When I found out, I couldn’t bring myself to walk away. So I stayed.

My wife recently told me she wants to have dinner alone with one of my close male friends because they “get along well” and she values their friendship. I told her, calmly and respectfully, that I’m not comfortable with that. It’s not about jealousy or a lack of trust—I do trust her. But to me, having one-on-one dinners with someone of the opposite sex (especially a friend of mine) crosses a boundary I believe should be mutually respected in a marriage.

I’m short, I have been specifically told that I was too short to date multiple times. I’m fairly average in looks but I am short. The vast majority of girls won’t date a short guy unfortunately, all I’ve heard from girls is “tall dark and handsome” I’ve never met a girl who preferred to date short guys and only met a couple who didn’t mind.

Being short is one of the most unattractive traits a guy can have and people will always remind you of that with jokes, insults, mocking and condescending comments. Dating as a short guy is almost impossible, I just give up.

Your health is essentially on the decline by the time you reach 40, and by the time most people reach their 60s they’re already on a cocktail of medications, lacking the energy to do most things they used to do regularly, and also have a plethora of new health problems to deal with until they finally die.

Most retired people I’ve met typically consider a trip to Costco or falling asleep in front of the nightly news as the highlight of their day.

Some even started working again, albeit part time, just to fill their lives with something productive or meaningful.

We’ve been married for nine years—thirteen together—and honestly, everything we’ve been through has just worn me down to the point where I don’t even like her anymore.

Whenever she calls, I cringe. I put on a fake smile, and trying to act interested when we talk just feels gross. The truth is, I feel more at peace when she’s not around. But at the same time, I think I still love her… I’m not sure if it’s just because we’ve been together so long or if I’m clinging to the version of her I used to know.

It’s confusing, this mix of love and resentment.

I’m 37, single, and feeling stuck in a life that’s “good enough” but not fulfilling. I work from home in events, making $95k, but the job is stressful, socially draining, and doesn’t offer much growth—just small raises and the same old routine. I’m decent at my job, but as an introvert with social anxiety, it exhausts me, and my skills don’t seem to transfer well outside my current field.

I’ve been seeing a married man for the past six months. I’m completely in love with him, and he says he feels the same way about me. During the week, we’re together in the same city and everything feels perfect.

But on the weekends, he travels to another city to be with his wife. Even then, he calls me, sends pictures, and stays in touch throughout the day. His kids are grown and independent, so there aren’t any obligations keeping him there.