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I’m carrying a heavy weight from a decision I made about a year ago, and I don’t know how to let it go.
I remarried a few years back. I have an older son from my first marriage, and together with my husband, we have two young daughters. My husband and my son just never meshed—there was constant tension, and my husband always seemed harsher with him than with the girls. He’d say I was too lenient, and it felt like my son and husband were always at odds.
This is going to sound really dumb, but I (22m) have wanted to for the past year or so. I just feel empty and I want to try something new and exciting.
My plan is to do it just once and then be done with it. I have a family that I barely speak to due to being estranged (hard childhood) so that makes my decision easier.
No one will be in the cross fire if I take it too far. I know many people will think that I am extremely stupid for making this choice, but I am tired of being bored in my life. I have always felt incomplete ever since I was a child.
Hopefully this will be a good experience, If I choose to go through with it.
I’m 22 and, honestly, feeling pretty hopeless about dating and relationships. I’ve spent most of my life trying to “fix” myself—therapy since I was a kid, working out, trying to dress better, pushing myself to socialize, and even getting a degree. I’m autistic, have attention and memory issues, and I’m also a minority where I live. I don’t say this to ask for pity, just to explain how I feel like an outsider everywhere, not just in dating.
My younger brother (29M) has always been a disaster. He’s creative and “finding himself,” but he can’t hold a job for more than a year, racks up credit card debt, and bounces between short-term apartments and random “business ideas.” My parents constantly made excuses—“He’s got a good heart,” “He just needs more time”—and let him get away with everything.
I’m a 30F who’s been with my 39M boyfriend for 8 years. We don’t want kids and have both always agreed on wanting to get married. We’ve lived together for 4.5 years. I brought up getting engaged at the 4-year mark, but he said it wasn’t the right time due to work and wanting to marry within a year of getting engaged. Each year since, I’ve brought up engagement, and he always has a reason to delay—work, timing, pressure about the proposal, etc.
I am a F (39) who became pregnant in my last relationship due to birth control failure. That relationship has since ended, and I am ready to enter the dating scene again. I’m not getting any younger, after all! And admittedly it would be nice to not go through this pregnancy and new baby phase alone.
I just don’t know if there’s any point in putting myself out there while I’m still pregnant… should I wait until after the baby is born and recovery is finished? Or would you date a woman who was already pregnant when you met?
Almost two years ago, my (35M) marriage was on the brink of divorce after my wife (34F) had an affair. She moved out nearly a year ago, leaving me and the kids, and her affair was my breaking point.
Recently, things between us have improved, and we’ve even discussed her moving back in. But I’ve made it clear: rebuilding trust is key, and she can’t have any contact with her affair partner.
I (28M) wasn’t invited to my best friend’s (28M) wedding, even though I was one of the first people he told about his proposal. We’ve always been close—trips, golf, daily workouts, group chats—and there’s never been any drama. Our friend group is five people; everyone else got invited except me, even though the guest list is 150 and includes some people they barely know.
My 21-year-old daughter lives with her boyfriend, despite our wishes. We get along well and respect her choices, but he’s the only guy she’s ever dated. I hoped she’d use college to meet new people and have different experiences, but they stayed together and now live near his enabling family.
We’re not impressed with him—he’s immature, bad with money, lacks ambition, and has no real plans for his future. Meanwhile, our daughter is smart, driven, and planning for her master’s. Their finances are separate, but I worry she’s settling for comfort and doesn’t realize what she might be missing.
My wife had an ex she used to talk about all the time when we were dating. I knew everything about him—even random details. At first, she told me they broke up because he was a jerk, but really it was because he wasn’t ready to settle down.
Even after a year together, she kept bringing him up. Eventually, I lost it and told her I didn’t want to hear about him anymore. Then I found out she still had his contact info and cute photos of them saved on her phone. She said it was just so she could ask about travel details from trips they took together.
