Life Advice

How Owning Your Problems Transforms Your Life

May 6, 2024

Look, I get it. Life can be tough and unfair. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Maybe you lost your job due to downsizing, maybe your partner left you out of the blue, or maybe you’re struggling with health issues. It’s natural to feel like a victim in these situations, to blame external circumstances for your struggles.

But here’s the thing: while you may not be at fault for all of your problems, you are responsible for dealing with them. Every single one of them. No exceptions.

The Cost of Inauthenticity: How Performing for Friends Can Damage Relationships

May 6, 2024

We all want our friends to accept us for who we are. Yet, how many of us actually show our true selves to the people closest to us? If you’re like most, you probably put on a bit of a dog and pony show, curating the best version of yourself when you’re around your buddies.

You laugh extra hard at jokes you don’t find that funny. You pretend to be into hobbies and interests you couldn’t care less about. You bite your tongue rather than speak your mind when your opinion differs from the group’s.

The 7 Habits of Successful People

May 3, 2024

Success is not a matter of chance or luck. It is the result of consistent, deliberate habits that individuals cultivate over time. While every successful person’s journey is unique, there are certain key habits that many of them share.

These habits span across various aspects of life, from setting goals and managing time to continuous learning and building resilience. By understanding and incorporating these habits into one’s own life, anyone can dramatically increase their chances of achieving their goals and realizing their full potential.

“My mother makes poor choices”

May 3, 2024

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My Mother is 65 years old and for many years now my Wife and I have been telling her that she needs to sell her house or rent it and move closer to us. She never has listened. In the past I have also told her there are things she shouldn’t be spending money on.

TODAY….she calls me and says there’s a problem I can resolve and proceeds to tell me she can’t pay her mortgage so to give her $5000 dollars. So as the finance guru I am I start asking her the real questions since she makes less than 30k a year.

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“Am I making the wrong decision in staying with my cheating girlfriend, even though I don’t feel hurt by it at all?”

May 3, 2024

I need to share something that’s been weighing on me about my relationship with my girlfriend, Marcia. I’m looking for some clarity here because it’s a bit of a complicated situation.

Despite Marcia recently being unfaithful at a party, I find myself neither upset nor wanting to end things with her. This has completely thrown my childhood friends, Lucas and Brad, for a loop. They’ve always been like brothers to me, and they can’t understand why I’d stay with her, fearing I’m making a massive mistake.

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Feeling Heard, Understood, Valued: The Heartbeat of Romantic Relationships

May 3, 2024

One of the most profound human needs is the desire to feel heard, understood, and valued by the people we love. In a romantic relationship, this need is amplified. We long to know that our partner sees us, gets us, and cherishes us for who we are. When this need is met, it lays the groundwork for deep intimacy, trust, and connection. And the key to meeting this need? You guessed it: healthy communication.

5 Signs You’re Dealing With an Emotionally Immature Person

May 3, 2024

Have you ever interacted with someone and felt like you were talking to a child trapped in an adult’s body? Like no matter how old they were, they just didn’t seem to have the emotional intelligence and maturity to handle life’s challenges? Maybe it was a friend, a co-worker, or heaven forbid – a romantic partner.

Dealing with emotionally stunted people is an exhausting and baffling experience. Their behaviors and reactions seem irrational and misaligned with their chronological age. You’re left wondering how they made it this far in life without developing the bare minimum of self-awareness and interpersonal skills.

“Caught in lifestyle creep, how to get out?”

May 2, 2024

First of all, I completely understand that my problems are first world problems and I’m VERY lucky to be where I’m at financially. Even so, I have very poor money management skills and could really use some advice. Its embarrassing. Thanks in advance for the help.

Me: 37, gross $13k-$15k/mo, 25% w2, 75% self employed. Main monthly expenses are rent: $1300 Child support: $800 Car: $350, along with regular utilities, subscriptions etc. Credit score: terrible. I’ve run the numbers and there is absolutely no good reason for me to essentially be living paycheck to paycheck and having around $5k of debt killing my credit score. I have a small 401k and about $1k in a savings account, but that’s it. Yes, self employment taxes shaves off a fair amount each month, but I’m lucky enough to get health insurance through my W2 job that helps balance things.

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“I’m embarrassed to be out in public with my boyfriend.”

May 2, 2024

My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years. I love my boyfriend, but he lacks social awareness and doesn’t have good manners. For example, when we went out to dinner the other night, he was talking/laughing extremely loudly, burping and farting. When we go to the movies, he talks regularly rather than whispering and makes commentary about the movie, which annoys the other people in the theatre. Also, whenever we walk past a group of people, he tries to be funny and says stupid things. For example, the other day, we were walking past a group of guys and my boyfriend was like “i need to fart” super loudly. Mind you, he’s 27.

I don’t know if i’m being overly sensitive or if his behaviour is childish and unacceptable. How can i handle this situation?

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The Power of Healthy Boundaries: Why Saying “No” is Essential for Personal Growth

May 2, 2024

Listen up, because it’s time to drop some truth bombs that might just change your life. If you’re the type of person who struggles with setting boundaries, who says “yes” to every request and invitation, even when you really want to say “no,” then this article is for you.