“I lost my savings, my fiancée’s money. How do I come back from this?”
I’m 28 and make $57,000 a year working support at a software company. I’m at a point where I genuinely don’t know what to do next, and I need perspectives from outside my own head.
Three years ago, I was $60,000 in debt and working two jobs. I lived cheaply, worked constantly, traded gold on the side, and eventually paid off everything. At the beginning of this year, I had no debt and $20,000 to $30,000 saved. I felt like I had finally turned a corner.
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20 Fascinating Photos Collected From History – Ned Hardy
If you’re trying to escape the brain rot and rebuild your attention span, this book is fast, accessible, and gripping enough to make reading feel addictive again. – Amazon
The top photos of the week by AP photojournalists – AP News
Faster! Louder! Brighter! How the attention economy overwhelmed children’s TV – The Guardian
Your Attachment Style Is Showing Up In Your Parenting, Not Just Your Relationship – Scary Mommy
Cost of Iran War Estimated at $43.6 Billion – NYTimes
Why Russia Is Holding an Election When Voters Know the Result – Archive.ph
People Hooked on Vapes Try a New Way to Quit: Cigarettes – Archive.ph
29 Memes That Won The Internet This Week – Ned Hardy
One of the rare inexpensive fitness gadgets that is legitimately challenging and remains useful as you get stronger. – Amazon
Ms. Rachel Matches Macklemore’s $1 Million Donation to Palestinian Aid Groups – Rolling Stone
FAA tees up $875M AI tool to help manage air traffic congestion – Ars Technica
OpenAI and Microsoft knew they were starting a ‘doom loop’ for the web – Archive.ph
This Is Your Brain on Short-Form Video – Archive.ph
Trump Vows To Send Every American One Million Dollars To Combat Inflation – Babylon Bee
5 Things That Made Us Joyful This Week – Upworthy
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Poll of the Day
Would you purchase and live in a home where a family got murdered, but the house is discounted by 60%
“How to not cringe at things you did in your early twenties”
I’m 27 now, and I keep replaying all the cringey things I did in my early twenties. I’m talking about getting too drunk, making a fool of myself, and honestly just not being the best friend or version of myself. It feels like I have to learn everything the hard way.
Sometimes I said or did embarrassing things. Sometimes I drank too much at work events. Sometimes I was just plain annoying to be around at night. Looking back, it makes me cringe.
The thing is, I’m actually proud of who I am now. All those mistakes shaped me into the person I am today. But I still have trouble forgiving my younger self. I keep wondering—how did I not know better?
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“Am I wrong for thinking a coworker’s brother’s death was his own fault”
Last week was a disaster for my coworker, “Maya” (30F). She came into work seeming confident and content, but hours later, her brother Evan (26M) fell off the roof of his house. He was conscious afterward and apparently felt fine, so he didn’t call emergency services. Tragically, he had serious internal injuries and died.
I was shocked and heartbroken for Maya. I can’t imagine losing a sibling. But after hearing what happened, I also found myself thinking Evan had been reckless. Why was he on the roof? And after falling, why didn’t he call for help just to be safe? If it were me, I would have, especially knowing how devastated my family would be if something happened.
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Jamie Beaton has 12 advanced degrees from Harvard, Yale, Oxford and other top universities, with more on the way. Why? How? – Archive.ph
25 Photos For When Modern Life Gets Exhausting, So You Crawl Back Into Your Childhood – Ned Hardy
If you’re trying to get back into reading, this is a perfect choice. It’s short, immediately engaging, easy to read and thought-provoking enough to remind you why books can be so powerful. – Amazon
A Digital Fly Brain Has Taken Over the Internet – 404 Media
House passes bill to shield Americans from data center energy costs – CBS News
Grand Teton National Park forced to kill bear “because of poor decisions” made by human visitors – CBS News
71% of Americans Say They’re Completely Exhausted – Gizmodo
Epstein had huge cache of child sex pics; victims sue to find out who’s in them – Ars Technica
29 Works of Art Worth Slowing Down For – Ned Hardy
A clever little device that physically blocks distracting apps until you tap your phone against it again, creating just enough friction to stop mindless scrolling and help you reclaim your attention. – Amazon
The Dead Silence of AI Therapy – Archive.ph
Why reshaping memories may hold the key to raising self-esteem – NPR
Joanna Wietrzyk (HYROX fecal incontinence girl) apologies only 7 hours after losing PUMA clothing line sponsorship – The Guardian
The AI Apocalypse Bracket: Just How Doomed Are We, Really? – The Ringer
Ranked: Where Your Money Buys the Best Life in America – Visual Capitalist
1 man with no experience fights 5 women with some experience – Reddit
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The Weight of Love: My Life With a 500lb Girlfriend
We met in college—back when late-night pizza runs and procrastinated deadlines were the center of gravity. She was funny. Not in a performative, class-clown way. Her humor had this dry, left-field quality to it. We’d sit next to each other in the computer lab, whispering sarcastic commentary about the professor’s PowerPoint slides. Friendship came easily. Love snuck in quietly, like fog.
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