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1. The best relationship advice I have heard came from an interview Michael J Fox did where he talked about how his marriage had lasted so long. He said “We give each other the benefit of the doubt”.
If your SO does something tha takes you worried, angry or sad, ask them to tell you their side of the story before you let your emotions run wild. There is probably a reasonable explanation and a good reason for how he/she acted. That will help avoid a lot of conflicts and foster trust.
I’ve been a side chick for over 5 years.
I didn’t know he had another girlfriend until about 2.5 years into the relationship. Keep in mind, by this time I was already so deep in love with this man and thought I’d marry him. Lost my v-card to him and everything. We met when I was young and he was a bit older and the effect he had on me was insane. To cut a long story short, I was so in love with him already that I couldn’t bear the thought of being without him. So I stayed. Fuck me, I know.
Let’s cut the crap. If you’re one of those people who’s perpetually late to everything, you need to hear this: Your lack of punctuality is a giant middle finger to everyone around you.
I don’t care if you think you’re just “fashionably late” or if you’ve convinced yourself that your time is somehow more valuable than everyone else’s. The truth is, when you’re consistently tardy, you’re saying loud and clear that you don’t respect other people’s time or efforts.
Let me guess. You want me to give you some magic formula for charming the pants off of everyone you meet. You want a step-by-step guide for wooing strangers with your wit and leaving a trail of enamored new friends wherever you go.
Well, I hate to break it to you, but that’s not how it works. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to engaging with new people. Because spoiler alert: People are complex, unpredictable, and often pretty dang weird.
However, there is one method that I’ve found to be consistently effective. And it’s so mind-numbingly simple that you’ll probably want to punch me for even saying it. But here it goes:
I have never been in a relationship nor been physically intimate with anyone in my entire life.
I live in a very large city outside the US, but work as senior engineer for a reputable US-based multinational technology firm. I go outside every month. I go to a regular video games meetup and a regular community trash cleanup event, trying to talk to everyone and catch up with their lives and asking if they want to get dinner afterwards. I exercise after-work daily. I am attentive to hygeine and skincare, get my hair cut on a regular schedule, wear contacts lenses, wear clean clothes. I have created profiles on multiple dating apps, but at a fit 5’9” 140 lbs, I have never once received a like.
When we feel a strong sense of dislike, annoyance, or even hatred towards someone else, it’s often because they embody a trait or behavior that we struggle with ourselves. This could be something we’re aware of and actively trying to change, or it could be a blind spot – a part of ourselves we haven’t fully acknowledged or confronted.
For example, let’s say you have a coworker who always seems to be seeking attention and praise. You find yourself getting irritated every time they speak up in meetings or boast about their accomplishments. But if you dig a little deeper, you might realize that you, too, crave recognition and validation – you just express it differently, or even suppress it.
My son is 22. He graduated high school with stellar SAT scores and was at the top of his school. After high school, he didn’t know exactly what he wanted to do with his life, so we let him have a gap year where he could live at our house rent-free so he could decide what he wanted to do with his life. What he decided to do was be a gamer person on Youtube with his own channel. I’m fine if that’s what he wants to do with his life. However, I know that it is a very unsteady job, and I would at least like him to get an education or a “real” job.
I want to talk about a phrase that gets thrown around a lot – “putting yourself out there.” It’s something we often hear when it comes to dating, socializing, or pursuing our goals. But what does it really mean?
Putting yourself out there means being vulnerable. It’s about exposing yourself to the possibility of rejection, failure, or disappointment. When you put yourself out there, you’re taking a risk. You’re saying, “Here I am, flaws and all. Take it or leave it.”
Humans are messy. We’re emotional, irrational creatures stumbling through life making one mistake after another. And that’s okay. Because embracing our inherent imperfections is the key to finding more compassion for ourselves and grace for others.
We live in a world that celebrates success and shuns failure. Social media paints a distorted picture of blemish-free lives full of stunning accomplishments. But behind every polished persona is a human grappling with fear, insecurity, and doubt. When we recognize this, we allow for more authenticity and vulnerability – both in ourselves and others.
Last night a girl (18F) invited me (18M) over to her dorm. We had been messaging each other on instagram and then she said “…can we hang out soon. You never wanna hang out with me”. I told her about saying she was gonna show me her room. She then responds, “Come right now. My roomies are gone”.
So eventually I just head over and get there like at 3:30 AM. Once I get there she is just laying down, and I sit in her desk chair and we just talk and listen to music. Eventually I leave, super confused. Not really sure what her intentions were. Like I don’t know if she wanted to make a move on me or for me to sleep over. She is super cool and I enjoy talking to her, but she does flirt with me a lot and I feel like she gives me mixed signals.
