Life Advice

“Am I making the wrong decision in staying with my cheating girlfriend, even though I don’t feel hurt by it at all?”

May 3, 2024

I need to share something that’s been weighing on me about my relationship with my girlfriend, Marcia. I’m looking for some clarity here because it’s a bit of a complicated situation.

Despite Marcia recently being unfaithful at a party, I find myself neither upset nor wanting to end things with her. This has completely thrown my childhood friends, Lucas and Brad, for a loop. They’ve always been like brothers to me, and they can’t understand why I’d stay with her, fearing I’m making a massive mistake.

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Feeling Heard, Understood, Valued: The Heartbeat of Romantic Relationships

May 3, 2024

One of the most profound human needs is the desire to feel heard, understood, and valued by the people we love. In a romantic relationship, this need is amplified. We long to know that our partner sees us, gets us, and cherishes us for who we are. When this need is met, it lays the groundwork for deep intimacy, trust, and connection. And the key to meeting this need? You guessed it: healthy communication.

5 Signs You’re Dealing With an Emotionally Immature Person

May 3, 2024

Have you ever interacted with someone and felt like you were talking to a child trapped in an adult’s body? Like no matter how old they were, they just didn’t seem to have the emotional intelligence and maturity to handle life’s challenges? Maybe it was a friend, a co-worker, or heaven forbid – a romantic partner.

Dealing with emotionally stunted people is an exhausting and baffling experience. Their behaviors and reactions seem irrational and misaligned with their chronological age. You’re left wondering how they made it this far in life without developing the bare minimum of self-awareness and interpersonal skills.

“Caught in lifestyle creep, how to get out?”

May 2, 2024

First of all, I completely understand that my problems are first world problems and I’m VERY lucky to be where I’m at financially. Even so, I have very poor money management skills and could really use some advice. Its embarrassing. Thanks in advance for the help.

Me: 37, gross $13k-$15k/mo, 25% w2, 75% self employed. Main monthly expenses are rent: $1300 Child support: $800 Car: $350, along with regular utilities, subscriptions etc. Credit score: terrible. I’ve run the numbers and there is absolutely no good reason for me to essentially be living paycheck to paycheck and having around $5k of debt killing my credit score. I have a small 401k and about $1k in a savings account, but that’s it. Yes, self employment taxes shaves off a fair amount each month, but I’m lucky enough to get health insurance through my W2 job that helps balance things.

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“I’m embarrassed to be out in public with my boyfriend.”

May 2, 2024

My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years. I love my boyfriend, but he lacks social awareness and doesn’t have good manners. For example, when we went out to dinner the other night, he was talking/laughing extremely loudly, burping and farting. When we go to the movies, he talks regularly rather than whispering and makes commentary about the movie, which annoys the other people in the theatre. Also, whenever we walk past a group of people, he tries to be funny and says stupid things. For example, the other day, we were walking past a group of guys and my boyfriend was like “i need to fart” super loudly. Mind you, he’s 27.

I don’t know if i’m being overly sensitive or if his behaviour is childish and unacceptable. How can i handle this situation?

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The Power of Healthy Boundaries: Why Saying “No” is Essential for Personal Growth

May 2, 2024

Listen up, because it’s time to drop some truth bombs that might just change your life. If you’re the type of person who struggles with setting boundaries, who says “yes” to every request and invitation, even when you really want to say “no,” then this article is for you.

There Are No More Zero Days

May 2, 2024

Alright, look. I’m about to drop some Negative Self-Help wisdom on you, so listen up.

There are no more zero days. Period.

Porn: The Supranormal Stimulus Hijacking Your Brain

May 1, 2024

So here’s the deal: our brains are wired to seek out rewards, especially powerful ones like sex. Back in the day, this helped motivate our caveman ancestors to get it on and pass on their genes. But fast forward to today, and we’ve got access to a sexual reward our brains never evolved to handle: a never-ending supply of intensely arousing porn at our fingertips 24/7.

“I’m sick of boomers telling gen Z and millennials to “suck it up””

May 1, 2024

I’m sick of boomers telling gen Z and millennials to “suck it up” when we complain that a $60k or less salary shouldn’t force us to live mediocre lives living “frugally” like with roommates, not eating out, not going out for drinks, no vacations.

Like no, we NEED these things just to survive this capitalistic hellscape boomers have allowed to happen for the benefit of the 1%.

We should guarantee EVERYONE be able to afford their own housing, a month of vacation every year, free healthcare, student loans paid off, AT A MINIMUM.

Gen Z should not have to struggle just because older generations struggled. Give everything to us NOW.

Locus of Control: The Surprising Factor Shaping Your Drive and Determination

May 1, 2024

Okay, so you’ve set your goals and you’re all amped up to crush them. At first, you’re on fire, making big moves and feeling unstoppable. But as time goes on, that initial surge of motivation starts to wane. Suddenly, procrastinating and making excuses seems a whole lot easier than putting in the work. Believe me, I’ve been in that slump more times than I care to admit.

But there’s a powerful concept that can help you push through those motivation dips and stay on track for the long haul. It’s called the Locus Rule, and it’s all about understanding how your beliefs about control shape your drive and determination.