I find myself in a frustrating and disheartening situation with a friend of mine. Over a year ago, I lent him a substantial amount of money – $25,000 to be exact. At the time, he assured me that he would pay me back as soon as he could. I trusted him, as a good friend should, and I believed he would honor his word.
However, as the months have dragged on, I’ve grown increasingly concerned about the repayment of this loan. Every time I gently bring up the subject, he always has an excuse ready. He tells me that he’s dealing with “bills” and that he’s struggling to make ends meet. I understand that life can be challenging at times, and I’ve tried to be patient and understanding.
But recently, I discovered that he had purchased a car. This news hit me like a ton of bricks. I couldn’t help but feel betrayed and upset. If he has the means to buy a car, surely he should be able to start paying me back, even if it’s in small installments. I’ve been there for him as a friend, and I feel like my kindness is being taken for granted.
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“Trying so hard not to fall into Red Pill”
My experiences with women have been terrible. No matter how much effort I put into putting myself out and listening to people’s advice, I’m always ending in the same outcome. Rejection. Rejection. Rejection. I’m pretty sure it’ll almost be 10 rejections in a row.
I just can’t understand why women don’t like me. I talk to them with the intention of getting to know them and be friendly and then I’ll show romantic interest. And as soon as I do, I’m rejected.
And I’m finding it really hard to believe height and race don’t matter. People will tell me “just go outside and you’ll see short/brown people in relationships” – but just cause you see it happen sometimes doesn’t mean it’s not insanely difficult.
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How Owning Your Problems Transforms Your Life
Look, I get it. Life can be tough and unfair. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Maybe you lost your job due to downsizing, maybe your partner left you out of the blue, or maybe you’re struggling with health issues. It’s natural to feel like a victim in these situations, to blame external circumstances for your struggles.
But here’s the thing: while you may not be at fault for all of your problems, you are responsible for dealing with them. Every single one of them. No exceptions.
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The Cost of Inauthenticity: How Performing for Friends Can Damage Relationships
We all want our friends to accept us for who we are. Yet, how many of us actually show our true selves to the people closest to us? If you’re like most, you probably put on a bit of a dog and pony show, curating the best version of yourself when you’re around your buddies.
You laugh extra hard at jokes you don’t find that funny. You pretend to be into hobbies and interests you couldn’t care less about. You bite your tongue rather than speak your mind when your opinion differs from the group’s.
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The 7 Habits of Successful People
Success is not a matter of chance or luck. It is the result of consistent, deliberate habits that individuals cultivate over time. While every successful person’s journey is unique, there are certain key habits that many of them share.
These habits span across various aspects of life, from setting goals and managing time to continuous learning and building resilience. By understanding and incorporating these habits into one’s own life, anyone can dramatically increase their chances of achieving their goals and realizing their full potential.
“My mother makes poor choices”
My Mother is 65 years old and for many years now my Wife and I have been telling her that she needs to sell her house or rent it and move closer to us. She never has listened. In the past I have also told her there are things she shouldn’t be spending money on.
TODAY….she calls me and says there’s a problem I can resolve and proceeds to tell me she can’t pay her mortgage so to give her $5000 dollars. So as the finance guru I am I start asking her the real questions since she makes less than 30k a year.
“Am I making the wrong decision in staying with my cheating girlfriend, even though I don’t feel hurt by it at all?”
I need to share something that’s been weighing on me about my relationship with my girlfriend, Marcia. I’m looking for some clarity here because it’s a bit of a complicated situation.
Despite Marcia recently being unfaithful at a party, I find myself neither upset nor wanting to end things with her. This has completely thrown my childhood friends, Lucas and Brad, for a loop. They’ve always been like brothers to me, and they can’t understand why I’d stay with her, fearing I’m making a massive mistake.
Feeling Heard, Understood, Valued: The Heartbeat of Romantic Relationships
One of the most profound human needs is the desire to feel heard, understood, and valued by the people we love. In a romantic relationship, this need is amplified. We long to know that our partner sees us, gets us, and cherishes us for who we are. When this need is met, it lays the groundwork for deep intimacy, trust, and connection. And the key to meeting this need? You guessed it: healthy communication.
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5 Signs You’re Dealing With an Emotionally Immature Person
Have you ever interacted with someone and felt like you were talking to a child trapped in an adult’s body? Like no matter how old they were, they just didn’t seem to have the emotional intelligence and maturity to handle life’s challenges? Maybe it was a friend, a co-worker, or heaven forbid – a romantic partner.
Dealing with emotionally stunted people is an exhausting and baffling experience. Their behaviors and reactions seem irrational and misaligned with their chronological age. You’re left wondering how they made it this far in life without developing the bare minimum of self-awareness and interpersonal skills.
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“Caught in lifestyle creep, how to get out?”
First of all, I completely understand that my problems are first world problems and I’m VERY lucky to be where I’m at financially. Even so, I have very poor money management skills and could really use some advice. Its embarrassing. Thanks in advance for the help.
Me: 37, gross $13k-$15k/mo, 25% w2, 75% self employed. Main monthly expenses are rent: $1300 Child support: $800 Car: $350, along with regular utilities, subscriptions etc. Credit score: terrible. I’ve run the numbers and there is absolutely no good reason for me to essentially be living paycheck to paycheck and having around $5k of debt killing my credit score. I have a small 401k and about $1k in a savings account, but that’s it. Yes, self employment taxes shaves off a fair amount each month, but I’m lucky enough to get health insurance through my W2 job that helps balance things.
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