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The Daily Man-Up: Fear Of Looking Stupid Is The #1 Killer Of Dreams

May 21, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up, Self-Improvement |

Fear of looking stupid is the #1 killer of dreams.

The worst part? The people who make you feel stupid are usually the ones least qualified to judge someone else’s life. Their own lives are falling apart, yet they constantly tear down others around them.

I was talking with my friend the other day, and he told me about an incident in 1st grade that would shape his life for the next 20 years.

There were several large rocks outside my friend’s classroom. The “cool kid” of the class was showing off, hopping from rock to rock with grace and agility.

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The Daily Man-Up: What Other Choice Do You Have?

May 20, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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Think of an important goal you wish you could achieve. 

Something that really intimidates you. Something that you haven’t begun working towards because it challenges your comfort zone.

That could be…

Getting a job (or a better job). Making more friends. Getting in shape. Writing a book. Or meeting more women – both in-person and online.

So why haven’t you taken any steps to reach that goal?

Whenever you undertake a new endeavor that makes you feel vulnerable, your mind runs wild trying to talk you out of it. Your self-doubt becomes deafening and all you can think about are the worst possible scenarios.

This usually plays out in a series of hypothetical “Am I doomed?” questions. Sometimes you ask them to yourself and sometimes you reach out to me.

“Why should I even apply to this job…won’t I just be rejected?”

“What if girls don’t like me because I’m too short/overweight/ugly?”

“What if I ask her out and she says no?” 

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The Daily Man-Up: How to Be the Man in a Relationship

May 17, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating Advice, Man-Up |

Life is tough sometimes.

Every now and then, life tends to throw you a curveball and a woman wants to be able to rely on her man to remain strong no matter what happens.

She doesn’t want to have to be the strong one or “the man” and take care of a scared, sensitive or insecure guy who can’t handle the pressures of life as a human being. She wants to be able to relax into being the more emotionally sensitive and vulnerable one, rather than having to be strong for her guy because he is weak.

All across the world, women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength in men (e.g. confidence, determination, high self-esteem, calm under pressure, etc) and turned off by the weakness (e.g. insecurity, shyness, anxiety, nervousness, etc).

When a woman can see that her man always remains emotionally strong no matter how tough life gets or how much she tests him (e.g. by being less affectionate, throwing tantrums, etc), it deepens her respect and attraction for him in a profound way.

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The Daily Man-Up: How Fear Will Shape Your Legacy

May 17, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice |

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How a man views fear will shape his life, his love, and his legacy. From a young age we’re taught to use fear as a gage. If something scares us, we are to stay away from it. If something is safe, we gravitate towards it. We’re taught that fear as a mechanism to keep us safe, to fear strangers, crossing the highway, big animals, new situations, and risk.

We’re taught to use fear to stay safe, unhurt, and alive, by our parents, who were taught to do so by their parents, who were taught to use fear by their parents, and so on, all the way back to the days when you always had to be on the lookout for predators, and your only defense was your mind, your spear, and your fear.

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The Daily Man-Up: Get Enough Sleep

May 15, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice, Man-Up |

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Not getting enough sleep impacts your ability to focus. It makes it harder to stay on task and come up with new ideas. It also affects your ability to make decisions. Like, you know when there’s something that you need to do, but you keep deciding to watch Netflix instead? Getting enough sleep can help with that.

If you get enough sleep, your work will be better, your focus will be better, and you’ll have more willpower. All of this stuff leads to better self-discipline.

I’ve seen this in myself as well. Whenever I don’t get enough sleep, my entire day goes to shit. I get lazy. I can’t stay focused on anything I’m doing. Instead of doing all the things that I had planned to do, it becomes much easier to sit around on reddit all day. If I manage to do something productive, it’s usually half-assed, and I hate doing it.

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The Daily Man-Up: Mental Strength Training

May 14, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |

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I used to be a mental wimp…

No, seriously. About 10 years ago, I was a total mental weakling. I couldn’t go for long without AC, my work ethic was equivalent to that of a 60’s stoner, and the thought of a cold shower just about made me pass out.

Ok, I might be exaggerating a little bit, but I can PROMISE you I wasn’t mentally tough.

Today, I train with heavy weights 4x a week, have taken cold showers (almost) every day for more than half a decade, worked countless 16 hour days to build my 7-figure business, and have generally become way tougher mentally and physically.

If I can do it, anyone can.

Here’s how I boosted my mental strength and how you can to.

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The Daily Man-Up: Change How You Define Yourself And Your Actions Will Follow

May 13, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |

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The way that you define yourself matters.

Consider “I don’t scroll on my phone in bed” vs “I’m trying not to scroll on my phone in bed.”

Even if, “I don’t scroll on my phone in bed,” isn’t quite true yet, act like it is. Start to think of yourself as someone who doesn’t scroll in bed. When you go to pick up your phone in the morning, remind yourself that you don’t do this. It isn’t an option.

Treat that definition as a rule, not a suggestion. The way you define yourself plays a huge role in how you act.

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The Daily Man-Up

May 10, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Self-Improvement |

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When I think of all the things that are responsible for lack of achievement and abject failure, I can point the finger at a lot of things. Inability to manage time. Inability to plan. Not having the right set of skills. A ton of things. But there’s something a lot of people don’t consider. And that is the sheer amount of enjoyment and novelty available at our fingertips. I don’t even mean from a distraction sense (though it very well could be), I mean from a perspective of absolute satiation.

As human beings, our physical hardware, our physical body is a product of millions of years of evolution. In particular, the human brain by far is the most complex organ on the planet bar none. Our physiology and psychology was designed for and evolved from an environment of extreme scarcity and shortage of opportunities and resources. A prime outcome of this lineage is a well-known molecule/neurotransmitter called dopamine. Many people think dopamine is responsible for pleasure, but is responsible for motivation. It is the chemical that is mainly responsible for reward-based learning.

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The Daily Man-Up

May 9, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating Advice |

Here is a handy guide on how to ask a girl out, yet save face for both of you if she isn’t interested:

Ask the girl the following: “Hey, I was wondering if you’d be free this ______ at ___ pm to get dinner with me?” Be extremely specific! Don’t say, “Are you free in the next decade?” or worse yet, “When are you free?”. It’s much better to say, “Are you free this Saturday at 6:30pm?”.

Option A: She says some variation of “yes”. Wow, that was easy!

Option B: She says, “Sorry, I have fiveexams that week, but how about _____? Does that work for you?” Congratulations, she was actually busy but is interested in you! You also gave her the option to decide on a date that works for her, you gentleman you!

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The Daily Man-Up: The Primary Barrier Stopping You From Everything You Want In Life

May 8, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Life Advice, Self-Improvement |

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Pain, discomfort, shock, boredom, impostor syndrome, awkwardness, fear, being wrong, failing, ignorance, looking stupid: your avoidance of these feelings is stopping you from a life beyond your wildest imagination.

These are the feelings that accompany a life of success. And yet, these are the very feelings you relentlessly avoid!

Interesting how that works, right?

Wealth, optimal health, incredible relationships, deep spiritual maturity are all available to you. But you have to pay the price to have these things. The primary obstacle in your way is how you feel about what you need to do to have these things.

Most people aren’t willing to feel difficult emotions on a regular basis. However, if you’re willing to disregard how you feel in the moment, you’ll have access to a world of opportunity unavailable to 99% of the population.

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