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The Daily Man-Up: How to Cut Toxic People Out Of Your Life

July 20, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Some people in life are kind of a drag — annoying, difficult, demanding, or otherwise unpleasant. These people are not “toxic,” in the strict sense of the term. They’re just generally undesirable. With this (admittedly large) group of people, you might want to create a little distance, but you won’t have the same urgency to cut them out of your life.

Toxicity really exists on a spectrum. On one end, there’s your old friend from high school who won’t shut up about how you don’t spend enough time together. On the other end, there’s your ex-girlfriend who is still capable of manipulating you into fits of rage. Your friend might be frustrating, but your ex-girlfriend is probably toxic.

Of course, tolerance for toxicity is relative to each person — you have to decide when someone requires distance and when they need to be cut out of your life. Those lines vary from person to person. For example, your sister will probably get more leeway than a coworker, but everyone’s sister and coworkers are different, and everyone has a different threshold.

What we’re talking about here is true toxicity — the kind that infects, metastasizes, and takes over your life. Here are a few classic signs of toxic people:

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The Daily Man-Up: 10 Lessons Every Father Should Teach His Son

July 19, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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I was 4 years old, and I was getting picked on by a kid who was 6 years old. The kid would act as if he were my friend but push me around from time to time. I told my old man about it and, being a dad he gave me the advice I needed to hear; it’s this advice at such an early age that would shape the man I am and am becoming.

He told me to fight back.

He said if I get pushed around or beat up that I should hit first and hit hard. Hit first and hit hard may not have been his exact words, I may have read those in a book, but that was the sentiment. Sentiments, however, get lost on young lads of that age so the next time I saw the punk, who was actually a nice kid most of the time, I yelled out, Dad! Dad!, from the backyard of our housing complex. When my old man’s head popped up and I could see that he saw me I socked the kid right in the chops. He went down like a ton of bricks, never to bully me again.

The problem, of course, was the he wasn’t being a bully. He was being nice. But I’d been picked on enough that, having my dad’s permission, I couldn’t wait to enact some revenge, so I let the sucker have it.

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The Daily Man-Up: Tell Me What You Did Today, And I’ll Tell You Who You Are

July 18, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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“Each day is a day of decision, and our decisions determine our destiny.” — Russell Nelson

You live your life in 24 hour periods. How you use those 24 hour periods determines who you become and how successful you’ll be.

If you learn to master your day, you’ll learn how to master your weeks, months, years, and life.

All you need to do is become very, very good at living each day.

The problem most people face is that they start their day off wrong, which puts them on a downward spiral throughout their whole day. Momentum is created or destroyed every day with the first few decisions you make.

Additionally, few people spend time planning and imagining the life they want to have and the person they want to become. Very few people live intentionally each day toward a higher vision. Most people are solely living day-to-day, rather than maximizing each day to make enormous progress toward a bigger and better future.

“You are what you repeatedly do.” — Will Durant

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The Daily Man-Up: Living a Life of Integrity

July 17, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Why Live with Integrity

It’s Easier

It may not seem like it at first blush, but living with integrity is easier than living a deceitful life. While making unethical decisions is often easier in the short term, it eventually takes its toll. There’s no real happiness to be found in struggling to remember your lies, living in fear of getting caught, and not feeling like you truly earned your reward. It’s empty and stressful. Bernie Madoff may have lived high on the hog, but did he really enjoy his wealth knowing that one day his house of cards would collapse? Living with integrity brings wholeness and peace. Your conscience can rest easy, and you can look at yourself in the mirror with pride.

It Builds Trust

A man of integrity is a man others can count on. They know he will do what he says he will do. He is promoted at work because he can be trusted with greater responsibility. His wife knows that when he says he’s working late, he really is. His friends feel comfortable opening up to him and turning to him in times of crisis. When you choose to live with integrity, all of your relationships will be healthier, stronger, and more satisfying.

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The Daily Man-Up: 9 Signs of Male Insecurity That Turn Women Off

July 16, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating, Man-Up |

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If a beautiful woman is insecure or shy, it doesn’t really matter to the majority of men.

Most men will still find her attractive and want to be with her even though she is a bit insecure or shy.

In fact, some guys will find it a bit of a turn on that the beautiful woman is shy and he can be more confident around her.

However, the same doesn’t apply for a woman’s attraction to a man.

Women are attracted to the emotional strengths of men such as confidence, high self-esteem and self-assuredness and turned off by emotional weaknesses such as insecurity, self-doubt and shyness.

What you may have noticed is that confident guys can easily attract women to get laid or get a girlfriend, whereas shy guys have a difficult time getting anywhere past the friend zone.

Some shy guys can get laid or get a girlfriend, but they don’t really have their choice of women because their emotional weakness turns most women off.

The 9 Signs

So, what are some of the signs of insecurity that turn women off and how can you avoid doing it?

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The Daily Man-Up: How to Be the Man in a Relationship

July 13, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Life is tough sometimes.

Every now and then, life tends to throw you a curveball and a woman wants to be able to rely on her man to remain strong no matter what happens.

She doesn’t want to have to be the strong one or “the man” and take care of a scared, sensitive or insecure guy who can’t handle the pressures of life as a human being. She wants to be able to relax into being the more emotionally sensitive and vulnerable one, rather than having to be strong for her guy because he is weak.

All across the world, women are naturally attracted to the emotional strength in men (e.g. confidence, determination, high self-esteem, calm under pressure, etc) and turned off by the weakness (e.g. insecurity, shyness, anxiety, nervousness, etc).

When a woman can see that her man always remains emotionally strong no matter how tough life gets or how much she tests him (e.g. by being less affectionate, throwing tantrums, etc), it deepens her respect and attraction for him in a profound way.

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The Daily Man-Up: Stop Apologizing For Being Yourself

July 12, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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We fear that people won’t like us, respect us, or value us if we don’t “fit in”.

Why do we fear that so much? It’s a waste of energy.

Like all fears, it’s unnecessary. Look, you’re not going to die alone when you become yourself 24/7.

It’s not only a waste of energy, but it’s also a waste of LIFE, if you’re not living it on your terms.

I believe that you should live the way YOU want. You should always say and do what YOU want. I don’t care where in the world you live. “That’s not what we do in our country.” Find a way!

Because what’s the alternative? Do you want to shut down your true personality and become some robot that’s programmed by society or other people?

No one deserves that.

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The Daily Man-Up: The Most Respected Men Know How To Fight

July 11, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Every interaction between two humans can lead to a physical escalation. Most people will flee when confronted with this possibility. This can limit our choices, because we don’t act in such way that might spark a fight with another individual, even if that action leads to getting something we want.

Being ready to face the ultimate consequences if any situation goes wrong lets you take more risks, makes you more assertive and unconsciously increases your confidence around other people.

See that girl with the jock that you want to meet? Let’s do it! Who gives a fuck if the jock tries to intervene? In the worst scenario I’ll just punch my way out.

See that idiot in my social scene who’s always mocking me and giving me a hard time? I’ll give him shit. Did it hurt his feelings and now he’s angry? Who gives a fuck? In the worst scenario I’ll just punch my way out.

The examples above may seem exaggerated or taken directly from Fight Club, but let’s be honest: how many times do we restrain ourselves from doing or saying something because we fear that situation might go wrong and escalate to a fight? True freedom of action in our society comes from knowing that no matter how worse a situation can get we will know how to fight our way out.

The effects of learning this skill can be felt in every human interaction that you have. You will be more outspoken and you will talk to others with more calm and confidence. Women and men will feel your change in body language. You will not let others talk you down, and people will think twice before double-crossing you or talking shit behind your back. A world of possibilities in human interactions will open before your eyes, as you will stay relaxed and secure about yourself no matter how bad it gets.

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The Daily Man-Up

July 10, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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The thoughtless, the ignorant, and the indolent, seeing only the apparent effects of things and not the things themselves, talk of luck, of fortune, and chance. Seeing a man grow rich, they say, “How lucky he is!” Observing another become intellectual, they exclaim, “How highly favored he is!” And noting the saintly character and wide influence of another, the remark, “How chance aids him at every turn!” They do not see the trials and failures and struggles which these men have voluntarily encountered in order to gain their experience; have no knowledge of the sacrifices they have made, of the undaunted efforts they have put forth, of the faith they have exercised, that they might overcome the apparently insurmountable, and realize the Vision of their heart. They do not know the darkness and the heartaches; they only see the light and joy, and call it “luck”; do not see the long and arduous journey, but only behold the pleasant goal, and call it “good fortune”; do not understand the process, but only perceive the result, and call it “chance.”

As a Man Thinketh ― James Allen

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The Daily Man-Up: Passive is The New Agressive: Some Thoughts on Power

July 9, 2018 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

*Your neighbor starts building a fence, waking you up every day for a week at six AM.  Instead of confronting him about it face-to-face you write an email to the homeowner’s association.

*You disagree with your pastor’s decision making.  Instead of asking him to meet with you to discuss it, you rally a posse to your cause without his knowledge to “confront him” at the next elder meeting.

*You give a friend a ride to the airport, expecting payback in the near future.  You don’t tell him about the expectation, and when he doesn’t offer any payback on his own, you become resentful.

*A long-time friend offends you by cancelling a hang session.  Instead of telling him how you feel, you just don’t contact him for months.

*A family member brings up a topic of conversation you don’t wish to discuss.  You look away and act awkward, making the other person feel uncomfortable, in order to reinforce the fact that such topics should not be referred to in your presence again.

*You meet a person who is particular position of influence in your industry.  In order to gain potential opportunities you pursue a friendship with the guy, who thinks you just enjoy hanging out with him.  When he gives you a good “lead” that you cash in on, you start spending less time with him.

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