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The Daily Man-Up: Practicing to Become a Winner

March 22, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

Our habits are who we are and who we’re going to become.

Most of us, myself included, allow our weaknesses to become habitual.

We habitually watch too much TV. We habitually get distracted when we work. We habitually take days off from the gym. We habitually take the easy path, the path of avoidance, the path of excuses, of reasons not to work, to go the extra mile, to build something better than what we have.

Every day – and think about this with some real introspection – you’re training to become a winner or a loser.

Your habits are what you’re practicing. If you’re practicing focused, hard work on the things that matter, then you’re practicing winning.

If your habits are of avoidance of the things that are important, of laziness, of taking the easy road, then you’re practicing to be a loser.

The things you’re doing TODAY are a part of this training.

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The Daily Man-Up: We Need to Stop Trying to Protect Everyone’s Feelings

March 21, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Like every kid, I was forced to read Fahrenheit 451 in high school.

If you’d asked me what it was about before last week, I would have told you: “Firemen who burn books.”

And if you’d asked me why on earth they did that, I would have answered just as confidently: “Because a tyrannical government wanted them to.”

There is a trend afoot to conveniently remember the works of authors like Ray Bradbury and Aldous Huxley as warnings against distant totalitarianism and control. But this only scratches the surface of what these books are about.

Earlier this year a community college student in San Bernardino protested being required to read a Neil Gaiman graphic novel in one of her classes. It was too graphic, apparently. Her father—who does not seem to understand that his daughter is a separate human being (an adult one no less)—told The Los Angeles Times, “If they [had] put a disclaimer on this, we wouldn’t have taken the course.” A mom in Tennessee has complained that the gynecological information in the book in the bestselling nonfiction science book, The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, is too pornographic for her 10th grade son.  

While these conservative complaints about the content of books is unfortunately as old as time. We’re also seeing surge in a different type.

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The Daily Man-Up: How To Spot A Gold Digger

March 20, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating Advice |

1. Understand what a gold digger is, and is not. There’s nothing wrong with a person being concerned about your financial stability. A long-term partnership means depending on each other through the ups and downs, and being financially reliable does help with that to a degree. The difference between a gold digger and someone who values your role as a provider is that the gold digger would deride and perhaps leave you if you lost your ability to provide for them financially. A good person can appreciate your financial resources, but a gold digger appreciates only that, and will not see the relationship as worthwhile if you’re not well off.

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The Daily Man-Up: Why You Need to Go Out and Get Rejected

March 19, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Dating Advice, Man-Up |

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Yesterday, I got my hair cut by an old-school Italian barber. 

After he found out what I did for a living, he showed me a picture of his attractive, fit 63-year old girlfriend. Yes, it was kind of awkward.

He told me…

“You know what I learned that helped me the most with women?

Don’t wait around. Make a move — you’re going to get a yes or a no. It’s one answer from one person. When you get a ‘no’, find a girl who will say ‘yes’. ”

It’s simple but true — just because one particular person isn’t interested, doesn’t mean the entire world hates you. And from my experiences, the people who get rejected the most succeed the most often.

So, it’s time to get rejected. I want you to be turned down, scoffed at, and cold-shouldered.

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The Daily Man-Up: How To Stop Eating Out And Save Money

March 18, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Holy shit at the money people spend on food!

And I was the exact same way when I landed my first job out of college. You know what I’m talking about–biscuit and Starbucks on the way to work, lunch out with coworkers and pizza and beer at the local tavern for dinner! Every night! All week! Professional money spender! And more beers and dinners on the weekends! Woohoo!

Wait. Where did all my money go? And how the hell did I gain 40 pounds in six months? If you’re nodding your head you’ve fallen into the brand-new-job-big-salary-eat-out-because-I-can trap. And you have to stop it. It’s killing your bank account, it’s killing your financial freedom and it’s killing you. (Literally–I was on the edge of type 2 diabetes and had hyperglycemia during routine physicals.)

What you know you need to do: *STOP EATING OUT*

But how??? How do I stop eating out??? Fast food is soooo good! And cooking is soooo hard! Well, first off, not really–you’re just attuned to that garbage ‘food’. You’re going to break free of both these stereotypes and someone has already invented it…..

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The Daily Man-Up: Stop Apologizing For Everything

March 15, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Do you have a tendency of over-apologizing? Are you the sort of person who blurts “sorry!” when someone collides with you in the street? Even when it’s entirely their fault?

For example, do you apologize for making a perfectly reasonable request at a restaurant? Or seek forgiveness for unpleasant circumstances beyond your control?

If those scenarios sound uncomfortably familiar to you, you’re not alone. Saying sorry too much is a common problem. However, over apologizing all the time could mean you’re essentially saying sorry for your existence. Over time this not only undermines your self-worth but also your capacity to manifest an abundant life.

Although it’s appropriate for certain occasions, it shouldn’t be abused in everyday life, or else it will use its sentiment. Here’s why you need to stop saying “sorry” so much.

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The Daily Man-Up: Hell Week

March 14, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Good luck to Class 335 starting Hell Week tomorrow. Men don’t get many chances to show their grit! U need to pray for bad weather, the coldest water & a broken fucking body! U should want the worst-case scenario in everything to do with Hell Week! Pray for it to be so hard that only ur fucking boat crew makes it all the way through! They make it through becuz u lead those mf’ers through the worst HW ever! U have to become the devil to get through Hell! This shit is about ur fucking mindset! If u are hoping for the best-case scenario in HW, u are not ready! Know that no mf’er can endure what u can- not becuz u are cocky rather becuz u have trained harder than any mf’er alive! U might think this is a fucking motivational speech…well, it’s not! This is my mentality before I go into any fucking war! HW is not for the weak! It’s for that mf’er looking for the beginning of his soul! U want to see where most people’s desire & will ends & urs begins! Be the man who smiles when everyone is in pain & miserable w/ their heads hanging! Not a friendly smile but 1 that says, “you think this fucking shit can hurt me?!” This is ur time to start creating the man u want to be! U can’t make that man in a soft fucking environment! U must be willing to suffer more than any other! Not becuz u have to but because u want to! Many people are looking for hard shit to prove themselves but once the hard shit becomes reality, it is too much to bear. Be on the lookout for The Look! U will know it once u see it. It looks like their soul is leaving their body. It happens during deep suffering when a person can no longer handle the mental pain & suffering of what they THOUGHT they could do. After you see The Look, quitting is very near. My ? to u is this…What the fuck are u going to do when ur balls are in ur stomach from the cold? when ur body is broke as fuck & u have 50 hours left? when ur boat crew starts to quit and u feel alone? when it won’t stop raining and u can’t get warm? I don’t know what you’re going to do but u asked me for my advice so here’s what the fuck I did….I prayed to God to even make it worse! Mindset: go to war with yourself!

David Goggins, Class 235

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The Daily Man-Up: School Bully

March 13, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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"Last Friday was the final straw. Bully was blocking my cousin from getting on the bus. There is a video of my cousin repeatedly telling bully to move.

Bully then pushed my cousin with enough force he trips. As my cousin tries to get up bully kicks my cousin in the stomach and punches him in the face when he tries to get up again.

That was the last of it. My cousin rushed his bully and proceeded to beat the living crap out of him.

SRO pulled my cousin off the bully and both are brought to the principle. Parents are called.

According to my uncle the other kid’s parents are demanding my cousin be expelled, even after seeing the video of my cousin being kicked and punched on the ground.

My uncle compared them to Harry Potter’s aunt and uncle.

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The Daily Man-Up: An Easier Way To Quit Bad Habits

March 12, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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Quitting bad habits is EASY, you’ve just been using the wrong method!

Normally people quit a habit using willpower, but willpower is a limited resource.

When we rely on willpower we encounter ego-depletion – We lose all motivation to keep fighting and give in to our raging craving.

For example:

When you first quit, you can do well for a few days…

Then you start to think “Maybe just this one time” or “I’ve been good, I can just do it a little”.

And you give in.

But don’t worry, THERE IS ANOTHER WAY:

Using this strange method, I have quit alcohol, sugar, binge eating, smoking, porn and procrastination.

As a result I have lost 70 pounds, found a girlfriend, quit all medication and I wake up with a smile on my face.

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The Daily Man-Up: Why You Will Be A Failure

March 11, 2019 | No Comments » | Topics: Man-Up |

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There are two types of people in this world: winners and failures. The dichotomy projects a simplistic differentiation, but what distinguishes these two types of people isn’t an arbitrary line’s divide. There is an intrinsic worldview that winners grasp and that keeps failures flailing.

No one remembers second place, no one remembers how close you might have come or the bullshit excuse you gave yourself when you didn’t make it. If you have a dream, like most people do, and you don’t aspire to it, you have failed. And you have failed because your purpose has slipped from your hands.

Many people take a stab at it and chase their dreams with hope of achieving success. Of these people, about 10% actually realize their dream and take their life to the place they have envisioned it. The other 90%: the failures. They’re the ones who couldn’t cut it, couldn’t figure it out and gave up on it.

To separate yourself into this elite class of winners, I have provided the reasons people fail in life – so that you might not end up in their boat, but rather on your own yacht in the Mediterranean.

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