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Author: Theodore Lee

Theodore Lee is the editor of Caveman Circus. He strives for self-improvement in all areas of his life, except his candy consumption, where he remains a champion gummy worm enthusiast. When not writing about mindfulness or living in integrity,  you can find him hiding giant bags of sour patch kids under the bed.
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The Seemingly Small Habit That Almost Ruined My Marriage, According to 11 Men – Fatherly

5 Iconic Pieces of Art Worth Slowing Down For – Ned Hardy

How ‘Recovery Scams’ Target Victims Again – Shield and Fortify

This should be required reading for all married couples and people looking to get married – Amazon

How to spot a liar: 10 essential tells – from random laughter to copycat gestures – The Guardian

Europeans are admitting these 15 everyday American conveniences feel like a ‘luxury’ – Upworthy

What the Moms of the 15 Hottest Women Look Like – Bright Side

The Digestive Power of an After-Dinner Walk – The Art of Manliness

Lets Take a Stroll Through The Art Museum – Ned Hardy

This Is How To Spend Your Money To Maximize Happiness – Barking Up

If you’re tired of messy drawers, this 25-piece organizer set is a total game-changer—it’s sturdy, easy to customize, and perfect for organizing everything from kitchen junk drawers to bathroom essentials – Amazon

The World’s Smallest Tactical Nuke: The W54, a Bomb That Could Fit in A Man-Portable Carry Case – Rare Historical Photos

This 20-Minute Mindfulness Practice Boosts Your Brain And Helps You Sleep Better – Fatherly

The Best Reason To Retire Early: Years Of Greater Happiness – Financial Samurai

Essential Knots: How to Tie the 20 Knots You Need to Know – Popular Science

12 Amazing Things You Don’t Know About the Founding Fathers – Linkiest

Advice Column

“My wife likes to compare me to other men/fathers that she sees on social media”

I’ve been married for five years, and I love my wife—but lately, I’ve been feeling discouraged. She frequently compares me to other men she sees on social media. It could be a dad who’s more “hands-on,” a husband who’s more romantic, or a guy who’s more successful.

It’s usually subtle—“Look how sweet this is” or “Wow, he really makes time for his kids”—but I can’t help feeling like I’m constantly falling short. I already try hard to be a good husband and father, but now I feel like I’m competing with carefully curated versions of strangers online.

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Advice Column

“Is my porn addiction making me lazy and unmotivated?”

I’m 20, living at home with my mom, and struggling to move forward. I’ve been putting off signing up for summer classes at my community college for weeks. For the past year, I’ve blamed my lack of motivation and productivity on my porn addiction. I’m open about it, but lately I’m wondering if that’s just an excuse. Maybe the real problem is me.

I don’t feel excited about college or any particular career path. Even my hobbies have suffered — every creative project drags on for months when I know I could finish it in a week. I feel stuck, unmotivated, and unsure how to change.

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Life Advice

10 Ways to Stop the Late-Night Cringe Spiral

It always starts small. A fleeting memory of something you said at a party three years ago. That awkward email you sent your boss last week. The weird joke you made that landed flat. And then, like dominoes falling in your brain, they all come rushing back: moments of embarrassment, regret, missteps large and small. You lie in bed, staring at the ceiling, trapped in a cringe spiral.

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Life Advice

Why We Cringe at Our Past Selves (and Why That’s a Good Thing)

There’s a moment that comes for all of us: standing in the shower or lying awake at night, when an old memory ambushes you. Maybe it’s something you said at a party in 2014. Maybe it’s the way you dressed in high school, a Facebook post from college, the awkward way you confessed a crush. Your face flushes, your stomach tightens, and you mutter to no one, “God, what was I thinking?”

Read the rest: Why We Cringe at Our Past Selves (and Why That’s a Good Thing)
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This Is What Life Feels Like: 3 Candid Personal Accounts – Ned Hardy

I highly recommend this spot cleaner—it’s great for quickly tackling stains on sofas, dining chairs, pillows, drapes, and carpets, keeping all your fabrics looking fresh with minimal effort – Amazon

How to Be Happy Growing Older – The Atlantic

The man who took 40,000 ecstasy pills – The Face

The New Science of Muscle – Men’s Health

This Isn’t A Sci-Fi Prop, It’s A Doomsday Navigator For America’s Deadliest Cold War ICBM – The Drive

The 32 Most Iconic Poems in the English Language – Lit Hub

Truckers Say This Dusty Roadside Diner Is California’s Best Restaurant – Eater

5 Big Questions From Psychology, Answered  – Ned Hardy

9 out of 10 pet owners agree that this is the best pet bowl for your dog. No more messes, no more kibble, crumbs or water puddles everywhere! – Amazon

Here’s How to Lift a Car and Not Be Crushed – The Drive

A Gentleman’s Guide to Telling Your Friend He’s Dating the Wrong Person – Mel Magazine

15 Best SEGA Genesis Soundtracks Ever – Den of Geek

The 7 Greatest Female Heroes from the Bible – Linkiest

Use the 90/10 Rule to Decide Where to Live – The Art of Manliness

Advice Column

“My wife says she Is not sexually attracted to me after I gained 7 pounds “

I’m 5’8″ and weigh 172 lbs—about 7 lbs more than when I married my wife 4 years ago. She says I’m an attractive person but admits she’s no longer sexually attracted to me because of my weight gain.

For 2 years, she said our lack of sex was due to an emotional disconnect. Now she’s saying it’s because of my body. I can’t help but wonder—can 7 lbs really be a dealbreaker? Is this an excuse for something deeper? She’s never commented on my physique before and isn’t vain, but this feels sudden.

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Advice Column

“My wife is traveling alone with another man”

My (25M) wife (24F) is going on an overnight hiking trip with a male coworker. I trust her completely and don’t think she’d cheat, but the situation is making me feel uneasy.

We’ve always had a secure relationship when it comes to opposite-gender friendships. I have female friends, she has male friends, and it’s never been a problem. But lately, she’s gotten very close to this coworker—they message constantly, hang out after work for drinks (often without inviting me), and it feels like I’m competing for her attention.

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Advice Column

“I’m happily married, but crushing on a co-worker?”

I’m a 45-year-old man, happily married for 20 years. My wife (43) is my best friend. We recently relocated for work, and I’ve been partnered at my new job with a 32-year-old colleague who’s also married.

Over the past year, we’ve built a strong, productive rapport—complementary skills, long hours, great results. Management pairs us often. But after a recent trade show, something shifted. We spent the week side by side, and during our long conversation on the way home, I realized I was crushing on her—hard.

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