We’ve all been there. Someone says or does something that just gets under your skin and pisses you off. Your blood starts to boil, and your first instinct is to lash out, to fight back, to make them feel as bad as they’re making you feel.
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“Girlfriend hasn’t paid for anything in 3 months”
I 35m have been dating a 38f for a little over 3 months.
On the 1st date she offered to split the bill. Since then we have gone out quite a but and she has never paid for anything. We have spent many whole weekends together and I don’t mind paying more than 50% but she has not offered to pay at all since the first date.
At one point she bought an rv and for 2 weekends I did work on it for her while we spent time together and thought it was a bit rude she didnt at least offer to buy lunch to show appreciation.
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“I ghosted my boyfriend of three years”
Because it was the easiest thing for me to do.
He was not abusive. He didn’t cheat on me. He was loving and supportive and communicative and trusting our entire relationship. Probably one of the sweetest guys I’ve ever dated.
Unfortunately, he lost his job and became depressed and miserable to be around and I was no longer attracted to him. Meanwhile, I got a new, high pressure job after being miserable at my old one for five years and was dreading dealing with his issues. I wanted a new start. A really fun and attractive guy I’ve had a long-standing crush on showed interest in me and I went for it.
Sorry, Not Sorry: Why Over-Apologizing Is Hurting You (And How to Stop)
Today I want to talk about a habit that so many of us have fallen into without even realizing it: apologizing for everything, even when we’ve done nothing wrong.
You know what I’m talking about. You bump into someone and immediately blurt out “I’m so sorry!” even though they weren’t looking where they were going. Your boss gives you a new assignment and you respond with “Sorry, I’ll get on that right away!” as if the work is an imposition. Sound familiar?
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Your Partner is Not a Mind Reader
Here’s the scenario: something’s bugging you in your relationship. Maybe you wish your partner would be more affectionate, or help out more around the house, or plan more date nights. Whatever it is, you haven’t told them directly. Instead, you just feel increasingly annoyed that they aren’t doing the thing you secretly want them to do. Sound familiar?
What the ACE Quiz Tells Us About Childhood Trauma and Healing
The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Quiz has become a widely recognized tool for assessing the impact of early life trauma on long-term health and well-being. Developed through a collaboration between the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and Kaiser Permanente in the 1990s, the ACE study revealed a profound connection between childhood adversity and a wide range of physical, mental, and social problems in adulthood. However, while the ACE Quiz provides valuable insights, it’s crucial to understand what it does and doesn’t mean.
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“I am 65, male, and a virgin.”
I know that this will sound like an “incel”/”nice guy” rant (is that what they call it nowadays?), but I guarantee you that it isn’t. I look decent for my age, am physically fit, I am very social (I go to different meetups 2-3 times per week plus golfing with my buddies on weekends), have put in a lot of effort into dating, and have a lot of hobbies. I do woodworking crafts, I love to read, I golf, and am very active politically. I have worked on the campaigns for several congressmen and senators in my area. On weekends, I volunteer at an animal shelter or a local VA hospital. My friends would describe me as a very amiable, social person. I have probably asked out about 50+ women throughout my life, in real life or on dating sites.
The “Good Ol’ Days” are Bullshit
Look, we all do it. We sit around and reminisce about how great things used to be. How everything was simpler, people were kinder, and the world just made more damn sense. But here’s the thing: it’s all bullshit.
If You Think You Are Boring Read This
(Photo by Donovan Grabowski)
My heart breaks every time I see somebody call themselves boring. You’re looking at it all wrong and that’s why you still feel the same way. Please read this and I’ll try and prove it to you.
Questions and Answers For Couples Sitting On The Fence of Parenthood
Q: Will it make me fulfilled?
A: Ummm sometimes? Honestly, the first year of her life, I felt less fulfilled than I ever have because I was spending most of my time taking care of a tiny baby that couldn’t talk or interact in a way that was interesting to me, and it meant that I couldn’t do things that really DO make me fulfilled, like writing and creating. Now that she’s almost 3, I have a lot more moments where I feel proud or amused or loving toward her, but to be honest, I don’t feel fulfilled by our relationship. It’s something different.
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