My husband (M32) and I (F31) have been married for just over 9 years and we’ve never had penetrative sex because the idea of it makes him uncomfortable.
Some backstory: we got married young, right out of college and in a Christian context (e.g. believing sex before marriage was bad, unable to live together until we exchanged vows, etc). My husband went from living with his parents to living with me.
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Life Matters: “Health anxiety is ruining my life.”
I feel like a prisoner in my own mind. Every other day I’m dying of a new disease and I just can’t take it anymore. Panic attack after panic attack, constantly researching symptoms and self diagnosing. When will it ever end? Some days I just feel like giving up, my anxiety is destroying me slowly.
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Dating Matters: “I’m 21F and ugly as a pig.”
I’m 21F and ugly as a pig. I have a birth defect that causes asymmetry and makes my speech kinda wobbly and stuff. On most days it doesn’t bother me much, I get by. I have my puppy, jobs here and there, I’m very close with my family.
But then I go out. No guy ever looks at me. Even if I’m hanging out with people and there are guys, they don’t glance at me or say a word at me. Even if I ask them a question, they don’t answer.
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Poll of the Day
How Facing the Past Sets You Free
We all carry wounds from our past – scars etched into our hearts by the painful experiences we’ve endured. For some, these wounds are mere scratches, fading with time and leaving only faint reminders.
But for others, the hurts of yesterday are like deep, festering gashes that refuse to heal. They whisper to us in the darkest corners of our minds, haunting our dreams and casting shadows over our waking moments.
Linkage
21 Ecstatic Shelter Dogs On Their Way Home For The First Time – Ned Hardy
Fight, Sell, or Shut Down: What’s Next for TikTok? – Gizmodo
Great everyday chef knife that will last a lifetime with the right care. It is very light and nimble, has superb sharpness and holds its edge well – Amazon
The Intense Flavor Science Behind Haribo’s Gummies – Popular Science
4 tips for dealing with a ferocious allergy season – VOX
Am I entitled to overtime pay? Everything you need to know about the new salary rules – Fast Co
What happens after your country runs on 99 percent renewable electricity? – The Verge
AI Is Poisoning Reddit to Promote Products and Game Google With ‘Parasite SEO’ – 404 Media
OpenAI’s Sam Altman and Other Tech Leaders to Serve on AI Safety Board – WSJ
An Unearthed Johnny Cash Recording, and 11 More New Songs – DNYUZ
Winners and Losers of the First Round of the 2024 NFL Draft – The Ringer
Guy Who Used To Work In A Restaurant Shares Priceless Cooking Secrets, And Here Are 20 Of The Best Ones – Bored Panda
11 Fascinating Photos Collected From History – Ned Hardy
If you have cats, this is a radically better tool for scooping litter. You save so much time over the plastic version – Amazon
The Key to a Good Life? Lose Yourself in Something – The Growth Equation
Chaos Ensues After The ‘LeBron James Of Incels’ Gets Laid – Kotaku
How To Raise A Polite Kid, But Not A Brown-Nosing Suck-Up – Fatherly
When Can You Legally Shoot Someone on Your Property? – Life Hacker
Infuriating Stories From Kiss, The Fakest, Most Calculated ‘Rock Band’ In History – Weird History
20 Ways to Teach Kids How to Save Money Responsibly at Any Age – Money Crasher
The Dumping Grounds
Dating Matters: “34M still living at his parents home – how much of a deal breaker is this?”
Basically, I’m 34M that still lives with his parents. I am full time employed as a software tester, own my own car and I make sure to help around the house (organizing my room without being told, taking out trash, regularly doing dishes and helping out carrying heavy stuff and groceries and more. I can also do the laundry and cook a few basic stuff when I want to).
Also, there was a short period of time where I did rent out and live on my own (work place that was far at another city), but that job opportunity didn’t work out and so I came back home and lately found a new job that is going ok so far.
Dating Matters: “I’m unable to see myself as a potentially romantic or sexual interest”
Whenever I see an attractive girl and think to myself, hey, why not try and approach her, I literally can’t think of any scenario in which she might be interested in me. It’s not just the potential rejection, I just can’t see myself as someone who is sexually or romantically desired by someone else. I feel like I am already like a sweet old man, someone who may be pleasant to be around, but is completely non-sexual to pretty much anybody, safe equally old loved ones.
Never Become Reliant On Other People or Things For Peace and Happiness
It’s so damn easy to get caught up in the trap of thinking that our happiness is dependent on external factors.
We convince ourselves that we’ll finally be content and at peace when we have that perfect relationship, that dream job, that luxurious house, or that fat bank account.
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