Relationship Matters: Marrying Someone with Large Debt
I have recently gotten engaged. Unfortunately, my partner has a large debt to the tune of over $175k. The majority of it is from student loans from a degree that was not finished. The loans are as follows:
Private loan of $119k, 7.8% interest. Another private loan of $5k with 5% interest, CC of $6600, and a government loan of $45k with var interest.
He is paying $1848 combined on all of these loans, which is as much as he makes in one paycheck… in addition to the rest of our living expenses. $1k of that goes toward the largest loan monthly. I have minimal debt (under 2K), and a credit score of 774.
Is there anything I can do? Have I screwed myself on ever being able to buy a house?
First off, congratulations on your engagement! That’s a big milestone and I’m sure you two are excited about building your life together. But you’re right to be concerned about your partner’s debt situation. $175k is no small amount, especially with those high interest rates.
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Dating Matters: “I will be turning 42 in a month. Never had a girlfriend”
I’ve been single all my life. Never had a girlfriend. Never received romantic attention or love from a woman.
For anyone wondering, I am not disfigured or disabled in anyway. I take care of my looks and hygiene. I have a good job, a small but tightly knit group of friends. I have hobbies and interests. I exercise and am in decent shape for my age.
I was single throughout college and university and my 20’s. But I always maintained a positive attitude and an optimistic outlook on life, sincerely believing that things will get better in life and that I will find someone.
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The Perfect Partner Does Not Exist
In our quest for love and connection, many of us have been sold a bill of goods. We’ve been told a story, a fairy tale, that somewhere out there is a Perfect Partner who will meet all our needs and erase all our troubles. But here’s the hard truth: the Perfect Partner doesn’t exist, and believing in this myth can do more harm than good.
A Guide to Shattering Your Limiting Beliefs
I’m about to tell you something that might sting a little. Ready?
Your biggest obstacle isn’t your boss, your bank account, or your bum knee. It’s that three-pound hunk of grey matter sloshing around between your ears.
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15 Most Controversial Movies Ever Made – Nerdable
18 Fascinating Photos You Must See – Ned Hardy
One of the best ways to store your knives. It is very easy to install and has a VERY strong magnet. 10/10 – Amazon
15 Most Controversial Movies Ever Made – Nerda
12 Simple Questions You Should Ask Before Making Investing Decisions – Darius Foroux
Inside the Rise of Misleading Plastic Surgery Before-and-After Photos – Allure
The Baloney Detection Kit: Carl Sagan’s Rules for Bullshit-Busting and Critical Thinking – The Marginialian
Ranking Mike Trout, Shohei Ohtani and the 10 Sweetest Swings in MLB Today – Bleacher Report
How the 18th-Century Gay Bar Survived and Thrived in a Deadly Environment – Atlas Obscura
Former video game executive sparks debate after claiming players should tip developers – NY Post
Beijing half marathon hit by controversy as China’s He Jie allowed to win – WSJ
Could the U.S. force treatment on mentally ill people (again)? – NPR
What’s So Great About ‘Apocalypse Now’? – Ned Hardy
There’s no better technique for rapidly drying greens, and it also works for berries and other fruits, vegetables, mushrooms, and anything else you want to dry rapidly – Amazon
Caitlin Clark, the top rookie female basketball player in the US, is making less than the average detective or acupuncturist – Business Insider
Imagine It’s Your Last Year: What Would You Do Differently? – Minimalist
A wild goose was taken to an animal hospital. His mate knocked on the door to find him – Upworthy
Ranked: The Countries With the Most Air Pollution in 2023 – Visual Capitalist
20 Pictures That Every 80s Girl Will Understand – Linkiest
The Dumping Grounds
15 Tips That Might Save Your Life One Day
1. If you’re choking, don’t get embarrassed, don’t go to the bathroom, don’t walk away from people. I’ve seen a couple people nearly die because they were panicking and walked away from the dinner table(s) and such while choking.
Do the universal sign for choking with both your hands on your neck, and most people will get the message.
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I’m a German soldier in 1939. What are my chances to survive until 1945?
By the end of the war the Germans had 12.5 million men under arms. Over 4 million died during the war.
Survival depended upon where you were stationed.
If you were in the East there was a much higher chance of being killed and wounded than if you were in the West or in Denmark or Norway.
At the edges of the most vicious battles, such as the fighting near Vienna near the end of the war, or in Silesia, or in Czechoslovakia (where the Germans won major victories til the very last day) the chances of dying were very high.
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How Releasing Control Sets You Free
So often in life, we find ourselves grasping for control. We want to control our circumstances, other people’s actions and opinions, the outcome of our efforts. We believe that if we can just tighten our grip and micromanage every detail, we’ll finally feel at ease. But the truth is, the more we try to control, the more out of control we feel.