What’s It Like To Be In A Toxic Relationship
I was twenty-nine, and I had never been in a relationship. That fact gnawed at me. It made me feel behind, defective somehow, like there was this whole part of life everyone else was living and I was just watching from the outside. So when she came along, I ignored every instinct that told me to run. But I wanted a relationship so badly that I shoved those red flags into the shadows and convinced myself that being with her was better than being alone.
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“Im in love with my best friend but she doesn’t feel the same way”
For seven years, I’ve been living with my best friend, a woman who has been my rock through unimaginable loss. We met during a dark time in my life—after losing my mom and grandmother in quick succession—and quickly became inseparable. We’ve traveled, lived together (in separate rooms), gone to church, and done almost everything as a pair.
The problem? I’m deeply in love with her, but she doesn’t feel the same. Early on, she told me she wasn’t interested in dating until she was 40, and despite my hope that her feelings would change, they haven’t. She values our friendship but says she doesn’t feel the romantic “spark.”
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“Do I tell the neighbor that their teenage daughter sneaks out every night?”
Their daughter leaves from their backyard after 11pm and cuts thru our yard and driveway almost every night (to avoid their camera). She walks to the corner and gets picked up by the same car and gets dropped off after sunrise and sneaks back thru the gate. Our cameras going off wake us at night as we would like to know if someone is outside our house with bad intentions. It used to happen every once in a while but it’s been every night recently.
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The Fundamental Attribution Error: Why You Suck at Judging People’s Behavior
You walk into a coffee shop. The guy behind the counter barely looks at you, mutters something, and hands you your drink like it personally offended him.
Your immediate thought: What an asshole.
You don’t think: Maybe he’s been on his feet for 9 hours, got yelled at by his manager, and just found out his girlfriend is cheating on him.
No. He’s just an asshole. Case closed.
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Linkage
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It’s basically a tough, grab-and-go cooler that keeps your drinks and food cold all day—perfect for things like beach trips, park hangs, road trips, or just bringing lunch and a few beers without lugging a big bulky cooler. – Amazon
The Met Gala Is Entering Its Billionaire Era With Jeff Bezos and Lauren Sánchez – Observer
Will a Los Angeles Megamansion Become America’s First $400 Million Home? – WSJ
Inside the broken world of Britney Spears – Telegraph
Some Disney Adults Are Going Into Serious Debt in the Pursuit of Magic – The New Yorker
Today’s Internet Rabbit Hole – Ned Hardy
A super versatile, natural soap you can use for everything—showering, washing your face, cleaning your hands, or even camping/doing dishes—so it’s perfect when you want one simple product that does it all. – Amazon
5 Blood Tests You Might Not Be Getting at Your Annual Physical – Time
Cruise ship at center of suspected deadly hantavirus outbreak refused permission to dock – NBC News
Gangsters got humbled by a trained fighter – Reddit
GameStop makes $55.5bn takeover offer for eBay – BBC News
‘Point of no return’: New Orleans relocation must start now due to sea level, study finds – The Guardian
Ouster’s new color lidar is coming to replace cameras – TechCrunch
LeBron James Isn’t a Spaceship. He’s a Time Machine. – The Ringer
The Dumping Grounds
15 Chiropractors Reveal Their Salaries and Reflect on Their Earning Potential
1. New grad here, all my offers were in the $50k range in a suburban setting. I’m currently working at an office in that range with a commission structure in place and should be closer to $100k by this time next year. It’s hard to give a range because your salary directly correlates with your work ethic. I know docs who are happy with $50k/year, I know docs who are struggling to live on $100k/year. Depends on your level of debt, COL in your area, and how hard you work for it.
For extra perspective, my student loans after school were $180k.
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What Exactly Are These Oil Rig Workers Doing?
They’re adding another length of rod to go deeper. The brown liquid that sprays out isn’t oil, it’s drill mud which is literally just premixed mud which is added to the hole to help stabilize the sidewalls and also cool off the bit.
The big mechanical brace they move around is used to hold the active rod in place while spinning a different rod in or out.
The brace built into the floor around the active rod hangs the whole drill column in place while extracting, which can weigh tens of thousands of pounds suspended over a hole that can be thousands of feet deep.
The chain is used to create friction and tension on the rod to pull it into place horizontally when trying to slot the next length of rod. In some cases it also provides extra tension when tightening the rod connection.
The stuff he brushes the threads with is pipe thread grease to help disconnect the rods after inducing incredible pressure on them from drilling.
“I thought I gave a meaningful speech at my sister’s wedding but people are mad”
I’m 32 and single. This past weekend was my sister’s wedding, and things have gotten tense since.
For context, my sister was previously married at 24, and that marriage only lasted about a year. It ended badly with a lot of arguing. From my perspective, she rushed into it and ignored advice from family. We’ve never really talked about it as a family, which I’ve always found strange because it clearly says something about decision making.
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