Since dating my boyfriend, he kept making side comments about my appearance here and there. Then he compliments his ex every now and then. He says she is pretty or ended up talking about how he fell for her ass. One day I asked him to stop because it was making me self conscious. He never complimented me until I made a comment about it.
It’s been about four months and I told him I don’t have a good feeling about him and his ex and that he makes it seem like he likes her more than me. He finally told me that she is more attractive than me and that I am a 4/10 for him. I even asked how he thought about me, compared to his friend’s girlfriends, and he says they are more attractive than me. He tells me that his ex beauty means nothing to him. Then he turns around and still tries to call me beautiful after telling me was below average in looks. I am ok without being everyone’s cup of tea, but my own boyfriend?
“He won’t marry me after 16 years and two kids”
I’m a 38 year old woman who has been dating a 40 year old man for 16 years. I feel so depressed and disposable because he won’t marry me.
We have been together for 16 whole years. We have two daughters (4 and 8). I wanted to be married before having kids but he basically said he thought that if he married me first then I might decide not to have any kids and he would be stuck never having any. So I was guilted into having them before being married.
I have felt horrible about my situation for years but last summer, about a month before our 16 year anniversary, I started to feel much worse. I’m depressed and I think about it multiple times a day. I feel like a joke. Like a disposable piece of trash. Like I’m not good enough to be loved completely.
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“Am I making the wrong decision in staying with my cheating girlfriend, even though I don’t feel hurt by it at all?”
I need to share something that’s been weighing on me about my relationship with my girlfriend, Marcia. I’m looking for some clarity here because it’s a bit of a complicated situation.
Despite Marcia recently being unfaithful at a party, I find myself neither upset nor wanting to end things with her. This has completely thrown my childhood friends, Lucas and Brad, for a loop. They’ve always been like brothers to me, and they can’t understand why I’d stay with her, fearing I’m making a massive mistake.
“I’m embarrassed to be out in public with my boyfriend.”
My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years. I love my boyfriend, but he lacks social awareness and doesn’t have good manners. For example, when we went out to dinner the other night, he was talking/laughing extremely loudly, burping and farting. When we go to the movies, he talks regularly rather than whispering and makes commentary about the movie, which annoys the other people in the theatre. Also, whenever we walk past a group of people, he tries to be funny and says stupid things. For example, the other day, we were walking past a group of guys and my boyfriend was like “i need to fart” super loudly. Mind you, he’s 27.
I don’t know if i’m being overly sensitive or if his behaviour is childish and unacceptable. How can i handle this situation?
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Marriage Matters: “Married for 9yrs, still a ‘virgin'”
My husband (M32) and I (F31) have been married for just over 9 years and we’ve never had penetrative sex because the idea of it makes him uncomfortable.
Some backstory: we got married young, right out of college and in a Christian context (e.g. believing sex before marriage was bad, unable to live together until we exchanged vows, etc). My husband went from living with his parents to living with me.
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Dating Matters: “I’m 21F and ugly as a pig.”
I’m 21F and ugly as a pig. I have a birth defect that causes asymmetry and makes my speech kinda wobbly and stuff. On most days it doesn’t bother me much, I get by. I have my puppy, jobs here and there, I’m very close with my family.
But then I go out. No guy ever looks at me. Even if I’m hanging out with people and there are guys, they don’t glance at me or say a word at me. Even if I ask them a question, they don’t answer.
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Dating Matters: “I’m unable to see myself as a potentially romantic or sexual interest”
Whenever I see an attractive girl and think to myself, hey, why not try and approach her, I literally can’t think of any scenario in which she might be interested in me. It’s not just the potential rejection, I just can’t see myself as someone who is sexually or romantically desired by someone else. I feel like I am already like a sweet old man, someone who may be pleasant to be around, but is completely non-sexual to pretty much anybody, safe equally old loved ones.
Relationship Matters: “My wife’s best friend embarrassed me”
My 32M wife 40F and her best friend 43F were all hanging out at the house with a few of her other friends. Her best friend kept trying to pull me off the couch to take a shot.
She grabbed both my legs and pulled me right off the couch we started like play wrestling . We were drunk and it was all out of fun. I’m 5’3 and about 130 pounds . She’s the same height as me but weighs more.
I tried grabbing her legs and tackling her but she just pushed me to the ground and had me pinned. I was trying as hard as I could to get up and started turning bright red and my wife and all her friends started laughing so hard. Her friend was barely trying and was able to just keep me pinned there.
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Dating Matters: “I will be turning 42 in a month. Never had a girlfriend”
I’ve been single all my life. Never had a girlfriend. Never received romantic attention or love from a woman.
For anyone wondering, I am not disfigured or disabled in anyway. I take care of my looks and hygiene. I have a good job, a small but tightly knit group of friends. I have hobbies and interests. I exercise and am in decent shape for my age.
I was single throughout college and university and my 20’s. But I always maintained a positive attitude and an optimistic outlook on life, sincerely believing that things will get better in life and that I will find someone.
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Relationship Matters: “I haven’t seen my best friend since he met his wife 2 years ago”
My (35F) best friend (36M) met his now-wife 2 years ago and I haven’t seen him since. Immediately prior to him meeting her, we were very close. We talked and texted regularly and saw each other all the time. Despite being opposite gender heterosexuals there was never anything between us beyond being close friends (and we also both had a lot of other opposite gender friends).